Nanny Bonus?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She getting paid 3 extra weeks to do nothing. That's a bonus in itself. Also, she hasn't been with you a year so you don't NEEd to give a week's salary.

The nanny has only been with OP's family for 5 months and is getting 3 weeks extra of vacation plus OP is going to get her a gift. Sure, it's after the holidays but OP has two babies, works, and is in the middle of the holiday season. Cut her some slack!

She's only getting her a gift because she feels guilty that nanny bought gifts for her kids. Everyone LOVES getting obligatory afterthought gifts right?? If OP was giving the time off as a true gift that'd be great. She's only giving her the time off because she doesn't need it. You all really don't understand gift giving. Its about showing your appreciation and how much you care about the person receiving your gift. OP has said loud and clear "We don't care!". Her nanny might be there when she gets back, but I'm sure OPs behavior is indicative of a larger problem, selfishness, and this employment relationship is doomed.

Damn, you are entitled af. 5 weeks if paid time off is great, even if the nanny wasn't expecting it so stfu.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She getting paid 3 extra weeks to do nothing. That's a bonus in itself. Also, she hasn't been with you a year so you don't NEEd to give a week's salary.

The nanny has only been with OP's family for 5 months and is getting 3 weeks extra of vacation plus OP is going to get her a gift. Sure, it's after the holidays but OP has two babies, works, and is in the middle of the holiday season. Cut her some slack!

She's only getting her a gift because she feels guilty that nanny bought gifts for her kids. Everyone LOVES getting obligatory afterthought gifts right?? If OP was giving the time off as a true gift that'd be great. She's only giving her the time off because she doesn't need it. You all really don't understand gift giving. Its about showing your appreciation and how much you care about the person receiving your gift. OP has said loud and clear "We don't care!". Her nanny might be there when she gets back, but I'm sure OPs behavior is indicative of a larger problem, selfishness, and this employment relationship is doomed.

Damn, you are entitled af. 5 weeks if paid time off is great, even if the nanny wasn't expecting it so stfu.

Are you 12? Intelligent adults can put together a coherent sentence without abbreviating every other word and resorting to crass language. When you grow up and figure that out, perhaps someone will take you seriously.

No where did I say I wouldn't appreciate 5 weeks off. What I said is that the manner in which OP gave it is not in the spirit of gift giving. For some people the spirit behind a gift doesn't matter, and if that's you, this would be perfect. I and many others prefer gifts that show the giver actually put some thought into what I would like and made it happen. The monetary value isn't whats important. I appreciate when my husband makes my favorite meal on Christmas morning for me far more than if he tossed his credit card at me and said to get myself something nice. Its the thought that counts, right? OP didn't "give" her nanny anything. OP gave herself a vacation, and the nanny having time off was simply a side effect. I would appreciate the time off, but I wouldn't view it as some grand gesture of appreciation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She getting paid 3 extra weeks to do nothing. That's a bonus in itself. Also, she hasn't been with you a year so you don't NEEd to give a week's salary.

The nanny has only been with OP's family for 5 months and is getting 3 weeks extra of vacation plus OP is going to get her a gift. Sure, it's after the holidays but OP has two babies, works, and is in the middle of the holiday season. Cut her some slack!

She's only getting her a gift because she feels guilty that nanny bought gifts for her kids. Everyone LOVES getting obligatory afterthought gifts right?? If OP was giving the time off as a true gift that'd be great. She's only giving her the time off because she doesn't need it. You all really don't understand gift giving. Its about showing your appreciation and how much you care about the person receiving your gift. OP has said loud and clear "We don't care!". Her nanny might be there when she gets back, but I'm sure OPs behavior is indicative of a larger problem, selfishness, and this employment relationship is doomed.

Damn, you are entitled af. 5 weeks if paid time off is great, even if the nanny wasn't expecting it so stfu.

Are you 12? Intelligent adults can put together a coherent sentence without abbreviating every other word and resorting to crass language. When you grow up and figure that out, perhaps someone will take you seriously.

No where did I say I wouldn't appreciate 5 weeks off. What I said is that the manner in which OP gave it is not in the spirit of gift giving. For some people the spirit behind a gift doesn't matter, and if that's you, this would be perfect. I and many others prefer gifts that show the giver actually put some thought into what I would like and made it happen. The monetary value isn't whats important. I appreciate when my husband makes my favorite meal on Christmas morning for me far more than if he tossed his credit card at me and said to get myself something nice. Its the thought that counts, right? OP didn't "give" her nanny anything. OP gave herself a vacation, and the nanny having time off was simply a side effect. I would appreciate the time off, but I wouldn't view it as some grand gesture of appreciation.

+10000
People seem to be having a hard time grasping the concept that this amazing "5 weeks off" is just a byproduct of the MB going on vacation. She is not giving her nanny 5 weeks to use at her discretion...huge difference. You don't get to call your self generous (or your nanny entitled) because you are taking a trip.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter if the 5weeks off is a byproduct of MB going on vacation.

The only thing that matters is that the nanny is getting 5 paid weeks off.

This is a bonus, no matter how you slice it.

[Anonymous]

I think the question is - is the nanny happy enough with her all-around compensation (which YES, includes the fact that she is getting FIVE WEEKS off paid) that she will stay with the job? If not getting a bonus is that big of a deal to her, then she can leave. But I imagine to many people, getting five weeks off paid would be hard to pass up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the question is - is the nanny happy enough with her all-around compensation (which YES, includes the fact that she is getting FIVE WEEKS off paid) that she will stay with the job? If not getting a bonus is that big of a deal to her, then she can leave. But I imagine to many people, getting five weeks off paid would be hard to pass up.

You're right that is what it comes down to. Plenty of nannies said they'd be thrilled by this, and others said they'd have nothing to do with the time, and wouldn't appreciate the lack of thought that goes into a "gift" like this. Its up to OP whether its worth the risk to skip on a real bonus because she chose to go on vacation. Her nanny may be thrilled or she may use the time to look for a new job. It seems like a stupid risk to take by people who claim to like their nanny, and evidently aren't hurting for money, they're just cheap.

[Anonymous]

My question to the OP, is if the nanny can still take 2 weeks of vacation, paid or not. I've had a client tell me a week before they went to Europe for a month, that they were going away, and asking me with a smile "any plans?".. I was a new nanny, and didn't mind, because they were fair, and paid me, but, it would have been nice to know before hand, so I could plan my time accordingly. They also didn't give me any drama when I needed to take time off in the winter to go back to the Caribbean.

Also, if your husband is against a bonus, I'm getting the sense that he feels you pay her too much already. At least that's the vibe i'm getting.

[Anonymous]

I read through this topic twice, and what I got from this, is that the client is travelling for 5 weeks, and is telling the nanny, that her pay is her bonus?...Okay. Whenever any of my clients went away, they paid me. I was also under contract, and was supposed to report back to work, upon their return. It appears that this poster never intended to give her nanny a bonus, and that's her choice, but disguising a "retainer" as a bonus, is what I think people have a problem with. You are paying her to not seek other employment while you are away.

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My clients always pay me, when they go on vacation. Their trips have ZERO to do with my vacation time. I hope that when the nanny is ready to take her vacation, there's no drama. It's little things like this, that tell you a lot about a person. If you tell me when I can vacation, then it isn't a vacation in the truest sense. It's like being given a gift card to a store you don't shop at.