My first nanny job and I have an issue with something

[nannydebsays]

Anonymous wrote:I've been a nanny for a month, two boys 7 and 4. My hours are 7-7 mon-fri. No set contract, never signed anything. Parents are going through a divorce. From 7:00-8:30 i get the kids ready for school and have breakfast. 8:30-2:00 i have free time, but cant commit to anything. 2:00-4:00 i have just the 4 year old and from 4:00-7:00 i have both. The mother wants the kids bathed and in their pajamas by 6:30 every night. I was under the impression that the mother would be home from work between 6:30-7:00 which is fine. In the month that I've been here, she's maybe come home twice between 6:30-7:00. The rest of the time she has been home early.

My problem is I don't feel that I should still be there once she gets home. One day she came home at 5 and I had to stay till 6:00. She has a late night once a week which is Thursday. She takes off from work and yet I'm there all day. I don't understand why I should be putting her kids to bed while she's sitting on the couch with a glass of wine. Let me go home early and dock my pay. Am I wrong? On top of that, the kids are out of control!

Well, you can approach your MB and tell her you want to leave once she appears in her home. That will solve your problem, since she will then fire you.

Seriously though, you need to either accept that it's not your business what your employer(s) do while they are paying you to care for the kids or you need to change career paths. I don't understand why you would rather lose pay than just do your darn job regardless of where MB happens to be. I get that as a newbie nanny and as a nanny new to this family you are adjusting to your environment, but I think your time might be better spent working to establish a relationship with your charges that will lead to less wild behavior regardless of who else is in their home when you are working.

[Anonymous]

Nannydeb is totally correct here.

[Anonymous]

You took a job with awfully long hours for someone who values her time with her kids. You need a different job, not to resent this MB. Who, by the way, would probably be better off with two nannies to cover those hours anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you worked at a bank or retail or anyplace else you wouldn't to leave just because your boss was there. You shift is your shift.

If you worked in retail, your boss was present and you did basically the same job, your boss would send you home. Nice try though. Parents, take care of your own children when you are able, rather than paying someone to hang around so you can relax. Why is this such a difficult concept?

I'm a nanny, brainiac. The parents can spend their money on anything they choose, including paying someone else to put their kids to bed while they chillax on the sofa. If that isba service OP doesn't provide, then she can quit and allow the mother to find a service provider who fits her needs. Why is that so hard to understand? It's not like OP isn't getting paid for that time.

[Anonymous]

You took a job with awfully long hours for someone who values her time with her kids. You need a different job, not to resent this MB. Who, by the way, would probably be better off with two nannies to cover those hours anyway.

Did you read the thread? OP has 5.5 hours off, paid, while the kids are in school. Her job really isn't that hard. She just has a bad attitude about her MB, and, for that reason, she needs to get a new job.

[Anonymous]

My mb and db are like that to. They come home early and go take a nap or watch tv before I leave, or take a day off and still be in the house with me and the kids. It doesn't bother me, they pay me to be here until 5, so I will be here taking care of their kids until 5:00. You sound like you would be better suited as a babysitter, not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mb and db are like that to. They come home early and go take a nap or watch tv before I leave, or take a day off and still be in the house with me and the kids. It doesn't bother me, they pay me to be here until 5, so I will be here taking care of their kids until 5:00. You sound like you would be better suited as a babysitter, not a nanny.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You took a job with awfully long hours for someone who values her time with her kids. You need a different job, not to resent this MB. Who, by the way, would probably be better off with two nannies to cover those hours anyway.

Did you read the thread? OP has 5.5 hours off, paid, while the kids are in school. Her job really isn't that hard. She just has a bad attitude about her MB, and, for that reason, she needs to get a new job.

That's my point -- her (the nanny's) kids are in school during that break, too. She is resenting the MB for coming home and not taking care of MB's kids so that she (the nanny) can go home to her own family. I'm just not sure why you would take a 60-hour/wk job if getting home early is a priority for you. Most people would take a job like this b/c 1) it's not that hard a gig, and 2) 60 hours means a lot of money.

[nannydebsays]

I'm likely just not seeing where the OP (aka the nanny) has stated SHE (aka the nanny) has kids. I only see her complaining that her MB doesn't let her (aka the nanny) leave before her (aka the nanny) shift is over.

Can any of the PP's paste in a quote from OP where she says SHE has her own kids?

[Anonymous]

nannydebsays wrote:I'm likely just not seeing where the OP (aka the nanny) has stated SHE (aka the nanny) has kids. I only see her complaining that her MB doesn't let her (aka the nanny) leave before her (aka the nanny) shift is over.

Can any of the PP's paste in a quote from OP where she says SHE has her own kids?

+1 nannydeb is right. OP has not mentioned having any kids. PP just assumed that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does not at all seem depressed. Im not trying to sound like a b*tch, but everyone I've talked to agrees with me. If she leaves work early and goes out and does whatever, I don't care. But the minute she comes home, I should be able to leave. I just don't get it.

That is incorrect.

Find a new field because nannying isn't for you if you can't hear all of us saying that you're wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

nannydebsays wrote:I'm likely just not seeing where the OP (aka the nanny) has stated SHE (aka the nanny) has kids. I only see her complaining that her MB doesn't let her (aka the nanny) leave before her (aka the nanny) shift is over.

Can any of the PP's paste in a quote from OP where she says SHE has her own kids?

+1 nannydeb is right. OP has not mentioned having any kids. PP just assumed that.

You are right -- I got OP confused with someone else who responded with a similar complaint on the first page.