My first nanny job and I have an issue with something

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We get it, OP. You want to go home. You are still wrong though.

It's probably a good idea for you to find another position. Also, if you are going to be so judgmental, maybe nannying isn't for you.

If asking people to take care of their own children is judgmental, then so be it. I do judge people who sit around while others take care of their children-regardless if they are being paid or not. The point of childcare is to provide alternative care for children when their parents are unable to do so themselves, not when the parents feel like sleeping in, sitting and drinking their wine, or finishing up their phone conversations and changing out of their work clothes for 30 minutes at the end of the day. When you have children, your life changes, just because you have the means to pay someone to deal with these changes, does not make it right.

[Anonymous]

If asking people to take care of their own children is judgmental, then so be it. I do judge people who sit around while others take care of their children-regardless if they are being paid or not. The point of childcare is to provide alternative care for children when their parents are unable to do so themselves, not when the parents feel like sleeping in, sitting and drinking their wine, or finishing up their phone conversations and changing out of their work clothes for 30 minutes at the end of the day. When you have children, your life changes, just because you have the means to pay someone to deal with these changes, does not make it right


Thank you!!!! Nannying is not my issue. My issue is lack of parenting. I know people who need a nanny more then this family does but cannot afford one. I'm not judging anyone. All I'm saying is that one the parents are home, be a parent. If you can't or don't want to deal with your kids, then you shouldn't have had one.

I don't care if I was paying someone a million dollars, I would feel awkward having them take care of my child when I was home. Another thing is the father gets them every other weekend. I try to make it easier for him because its a long drive for him, so ill meet him somewhere. But I don't feel I should be driving out of my way to meet him. Again this was never discussed. Apparently the last nanny did this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If asking people to take care of their own children is judgmental, then so be it. I do judge people who sit around while others take care of their children-regardless if they are being paid or not. The point of childcare is to provide alternative care for children when their parents are unable to do so themselves, not when the parents feel like sleeping in, sitting and drinking their wine, or finishing up their phone conversations and changing out of their work clothes for 30 minutes at the end of the day. When you have children, your life changes, just because you have the means to pay someone to deal with these changes, does not make it right


Thank you!!!! Nannying is not my issue. My issue is lack of parenting. I know people who need a nanny more then this family does but cannot afford one. I'm not judging anyone. All I'm saying is that one the parents are home, be a parent. If you can't or don't want to deal with your kids, then you shouldn't have had one.

I don't care if I was paying someone a million dollars, I would feel awkward having them take care of my child when I was home. Another thing is the father gets them every other weekend. I try to make it easier for him because its a long drive for him, so ill meet him somewhere. But I don't feel I should be driving out of my way to meet him. Again this was never discussed. Apparently the last nanny did this.

You are all entitled to your opinons. But your posts (some bolded specifics above) are the exact definition of judging someone. That is exactly what you're doing.

Obnoxious. There are often painful lessons in humility ahead for folks who think they're so much better than everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
If asking people to take care of their own children is judgmental, then so be it. I do judge people who sit around while others take care of their children-regardless if they are being paid or not. The point of childcare is to provide alternative care for children when their parents are unable to do so themselves, not when the parents feel like sleeping in, sitting and drinking their wine, or finishing up their phone conversations and changing out of their work clothes for 30 minutes at the end of the day. When you have children, your life changes, just because you have the means to pay someone to deal with these changes, does not make it right


Thank you!!!! Nannying is not my issue. My issue is lack of parenting. I know people who need a nanny more then this family does but cannot afford one. I'm not judging anyone. All I'm saying is that one the parents are home, be a parent. If you can't or don't want to deal with your kids, then you shouldn't have had one.

I don't care if I was paying someone a million dollars, I would feel awkward having them take care of my child when I was home. Another thing is the father gets them every other weekend. I try to make it easier for him because its a long drive for him, so ill meet him somewhere. But I don't feel I should be driving out of my way to meet him. Again this was never discussed. Apparently the last nanny did this.

You are all entitled to your opinons. But your posts (some bolded specifics above) are the exact definition of judging someone. That is exactly what you're doing.

Obnoxious. There are often painful lessons in humility ahead for folks who think they're so much better than everyone else.

Not PP you were responding to but, could you please explain how expecting parents to care for their own children indicates thinking you are better than someone? If you have enough money to pay a nanny, why does it make it ok not to be a parent when you are able? This whole attitude just baffles me and coming back saying people are judgmental, obnoxious and arrogant screams defensive to me...which leads me to believe most parents don't really think its ok to have a nanny around when they don't need her, they just feel entitled to their "me time" because they are paying for it.

[Anonymous]

I am a long-time nanny. She hired you for that time, and it is her business what she does during that time. However, I do not work for people who hire me to care for their kids for long periods of time while they are at home sitting around. I have never been able to make that work when it has happened. The kids wonder why Mom/Dad won't take care of them. It is one thing if the parents are sick, tired, working at home, or something like that. But just hanging out and not parenting? It is very awkward. I always find out in the interview process what their schedule is, how much this will be actually happening.

[Anonymous]

Let me get this straight, OP. You are being paid for 12 hours a day. You have a 5 1/2 hour break in the middle of the day. You want to be allowed to leave early when MB gets home. Please do your MB and an unemployed nanny a favor and quit your job ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also just considered that MB might not be comfortable docking your pay because so many nannies, myself included, require guaranteed hours. She may be assuming, OP, that she's going to need to pay you for all 60 hours every week anyway so she might as well take advantage of being home while you're there to handle the kids.

+1. If OP came on here and complained that she was expecting to be paid for 12 hour days but that MB came home early most days and docked her pay, many posters would say MB was mistreating OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a horrible situation for you to be in.

This is what think about OP under her circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me get this straight, OP. You are being paid for 12 hours a day. You have a 5 1/2 hour break in the middle of the day. You want to be allowed to leave early when MB gets home. Please do your MB and an unemployed nanny a favor and quit your job ASAP.

Exactly what I was going to say.

you are really stupid if this is real. Please quit your job now and give it to someone who deserves it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does not at all seem depressed. Im not trying to sound like a b*tch, but everyone I've talked to agrees with me. If she leaves work early and goes out and does whatever, I don't care. But the minute she comes home, I should be able to leave. I just don't get it.

Nanny, you and "everyone you've talked to" are just wrong. The mom has no obligation to be out of the house while you're there. She hired you to take care of the kids during certain hours, without regard to her whereabouts. Sounds like you need to find a new job.

[Anonymous]

I did have to quit a job just because mb wanted to do nothing but hang out with me and the baby all day. I felt I was wasting my time, so I left.

[Anonymous]

OP I think there needs to be a level of sensitivity in this situation. I agree 100% its odd and sad and awkward for you to put her kids to bed while she's unwinding with wine. However, I can only imagine how difficult it is to go through a divorce with young children. You don't know why they are getting a divorce, perhaps she learned her husband is having an affair, or even has another family somewhere.. you never really know. I'm sure she will regret one day that she's paying you to put her kids to bed while she is there, so for now I would just be sympathetic to what she is going through. Maybe she knows she would cry putting the kids to bed herself, or something.. just feel it out and make sure she's not treating her kids poorly..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me get this straight, OP. You are being paid for 12 hours a day. You have a 5 1/2 hour break in the middle of the day. You want to be allowed to leave early when MB gets home. Please do your MB and an unemployed nanny a favor and quit your job ASAP.

Exactly what I was going to say.

you are really stupid if this is real. Please quit your job now and give it to someone who deserves it.

++1

[Anonymous]

If you worked at a bank or retail or anyplace else you wouldn't to leave just because your boss was there. You shift is your shift.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you worked at a bank or retail or anyplace else you wouldn't to leave just because your boss was there. You shift is your shift.

If you worked in retail, your boss was present and you did basically the same job, your boss would send you home. Nice try though. Parents, take care of your own children when you are able, rather than paying someone to hang around so you can relax. Why is this such a difficult concept?