Pros and cons of being a live-in

[Anonymous]

I think some of you people who are choosing to be miserable by choosing to be a live in have poor discretion whrn it comes to accepting offers.

Sounds like you live in small houses that lack adequate space for 2 households. When we built out our basement we did it a full 1,500 Sq foot 2BR apartment (one day this apartment will house my aging parents) The ceilings have home theater quality insulation and a kitchenette that is fully equipped and laundry facilities.. Our nanny has hosted her own out of town visitors. I can't hwr her, she can't hear us.

Do we pay less than a live out? Absolutely. I paid 60k to build that basement out and then I furnished it which was probably another 15k. I pay about 12k less than what I consider market rate for live out and could recoup my cost in about 6 years.

In our contract, we have it written that she has 60 days after the last day of employment to move herself out.

Nannied, be smart. Know what you are signing up for so you don't end up so bitter and angry about your lot in life.

[Anonymous]

PP is right that most live-ins simply don't have enough space. Employers should consider the reality of what they have to offer. Completely separate quarters is what you want. But how many couples think of that when buying a house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP is right that most live-ins simply don't have enough space. Employers should consider the reality of what they have to offer. Completely separate quarters is what you want. But how many couples think of that when buying a house?

I'm the poster you are responding to who built out our basement specifically in mind to have separate living quarters.

I actually don't think this is on the parents. Some nannies might be fine living in a normal basement and using the kitchen. Nannies are old enough and mature enough ( I hope!) to be able to assess a living situation. If I were interviewing and I had a REAL understanding of children, I would physically go into the sleeping quarters and ask the children to run around and make a bunch of noise. How does one not even realize that kids are noisy? I would request a separate fridge, either a mini, or a few shelves in the garage fridge.

When I go for a job interview and if they told me that I would be sharing a cubicle with another person, I would decline the job. I can't work in a space that is not my own. Someone else might have no issue with this set up. I know what conditions I can and cannot work under. I'm not sure why nannies are any different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP is right that most live-ins simply don't have enough space. Employers should consider the reality of what they have to offer. Completely separate quarters is what you want. But how many couples think of that when buying a house?

I'm the poster you are responding to who built out our basement specifically in mind to have separate living quarters.

I actually don't think this is on the parents. Some nannies might be fine living in a normal basement and using the kitchen. Nannies are old enough and mature enough ( I hope!) to be able to assess a living situation. If I were interviewing and I had a REAL understanding of children, I would physically go into the sleeping quarters and ask the children to run around and make a bunch of noise. How does one not even realize that kids are noisy? I would request a separate fridge, either a mini, or a few shelves in the garage fridge.

When I go for a job interview and if they told me that I would be sharing a cubicle with another person, I would decline the job. I can't work in a space that is not my own. Someone else might have no issue with this set up. I know what conditions I can and cannot work under. I'm not sure why nannies are any different.

Good for you.

[Anonymous]

It's all a con. Don't take it. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

How can there be any pros living with your boss? No matter what theu say, you will be bothered by all of them 24 hours a day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If a job wanted me to live in, they'd have to pay really well. Or my living space would need to be totally separate.

This.

[Anonymous]

How can there be any pros to living with your boss?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think live-in is mostly for young nannies who want to get out of their parents' homes.

Agree. Or for an excellent nanny, you have to offer an excellent compensation package.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can there be any pros to living with your boss?

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can there be any pros to living with your boss?

Exactly.

For some of us, there are definitely pros, which are hard to delineate, as well as definite cons, which are easy to list. No matter how many cons there are, I know my bond with the children is closer when I live-in, which is primarily why I keep choosing live-in positions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can there be any pros to living with your boss?

Exactly.

For some of us, there are definitely pros, which are hard to delineate, as well as definite cons, which are easy to list. No matter how many cons there are, I know my bond with the children is closer when I live-in, which is primarily why I keep choosing live-in positions.

Hope they want you for a long time, and your pay is decent. If you're happy, all is good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Amazing what you can do IF the price is right.

Poor live-in conditions warrant a higher compensation package.