Pros and cons of being a live-in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

No, my rates stay the same, Ms Troll.

You are the real troll here. No one cares if your rates stay the same. That is not representative of the majority of live-in positions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

No, my rates stay the same, Ms Troll.

You are the real troll here. No one cares if your rates stay the same. That is not representative of the majority of live-in positions.

There is, sadly, no hard data with regard to nanny employment details. We can't even enforce legalized compensation for nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

Are you far enough way from them, so they don't wake you up early Saturday mornings if you want to sleep in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

Are you far enough way from them, so they don't wake you up early Saturday mornings if you want to sleep in?

Apparently not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If a job wanted me to live in, they'd have to pay really well. Or my living space would need to be totally separate.

+1

I know it works for some people, but I have only ever found live-in positions miserable. There is not enough privacy, you have no claim to any of the shared spaces (as PP mentioned re: tv, cooking, etc.), impossible to have friends over or host dinners/parties/movies with your friends, it's too easy for parents to extend your hours unexpectedly or begin to take advantage in other ways, and I always felt uncomfortable adding things to the grocery list but I didn't eat the same foods they did. I wouldn't do it again.

Agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

No, my rates stay the same, Ms Troll.

You are the real troll here. No one cares if your rates stay the same. That is not representative of the majority of live-in positions.

+1 good call on the live-in troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies really should get paid more to live-in. You're giving up your privacy. Or it'd have to be Completely separate quarters, including entrance and kitchen.

Yeah but no one is forcing us to be live-ins. You take the live-in job knowing the pay is less. If you want more privacy, you take the live-out job. I'm a live-in and think I'm compensated fairly.

No, my rates stay the same, Ms Troll.

You are the real troll here. No one cares if your rates stay the same. That is not representative of the majority of live-in positions.

The majority of them are off the books.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The average (non-high profile) family is going to pay you a bit less per hour for someone living in compared to someone living out. The ones that pay a great rate for live-in work either desperately need/want someone to live in and can afford a higher amount, or could probably pay a higher rate and ARE dropping it a bit but you just can't tell since it is still a great rate. The wealthier families also give better benefit packages and usually have a car for you to use most of the time (including off hours) since they have a car that is just for the kids/nanny instead of one that gets used by the parents as well on weekends. 3 or 4 cars is pretty common in those situations.

My current live-in family is pretty good. There are issues that I had stated in one of my previous posts, but I think most live-in situations have some minor stuff even. The mom is very relaxed about things, I can have friends over (including male friends) any time I want to, we watch tv and movies in my room, I can have out of town guests stay over in the spare room (she has many that stay here as well, several times a month sometimes), and she is great about understanding that sometimes things just don't get done one day, but as long as it does get done eventually, or I try, it is all cool. I also am allowed to have my own pets live with me, we are in talks about adding another cat for them as well (they have had them in the past).

We are close but also give each other space and it works out good. If anything, she is probably more lenient about things with the kids than I am, so I have to sometimes pull myself back since it is not my position to tell her how to parent them. We are very similar with our personalities, it is more than I am OCD while she is not (more on the other extreme) but that makes us fit since she needs someone like me to do certain stuff and I like to do that stuff anyways.

you sound awesome - would you mind sharing what you get paid? I’m looking for a nanny and considering a live-in but have no idea how to go about the process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The average (non-high profile) family is going to pay you a bit less per hour for someone living in compared to someone living out. The ones that pay a great rate for live-in work either desperately need/want someone to live in and can afford a higher amount, or could probably pay a higher rate and ARE dropping it a bit but you just can't tell since it is still a great rate. The wealthier families also give better benefit packages and usually have a car for you to use most of the time (including off hours) since they have a car that is just for the kids/nanny instead of one that gets used by the parents as well on weekends. 3 or 4 cars is pretty common in those situations.

My current live-in family is pretty good. There are issues that I had stated in one of my previous posts, but I think most live-in situations have some minor stuff even. The mom is very relaxed about things, I can have friends over (including male friends) any time I want to, we watch tv and movies in my room, I can have out of town guests stay over in the spare room (she has many that stay here as well, several times a month sometimes), and she is great about understanding that sometimes things just don't get done one day, but as long as it does get done eventually, or I try, it is all cool. I also am allowed to have my own pets live with me, we are in talks about adding another cat for them as well (they have had them in the past).

We are close but also give each other space and it works out good. If anything, she is probably more lenient about things with the kids than I am, so I have to sometimes pull myself back since it is not my position to tell her how to parent them. We are very similar with our personalities, it is more than I am OCD while she is not (more on the other extreme) but that makes us fit since she needs someone like me to do certain stuff and I like to do that stuff anyways.

you sound awesome - would you mind sharing what you get paid? I’m looking for a nanny and considering a live-in but have no idea how to go about the process.

What hourly range did u have in mind?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The average (non-high profile) family is going to pay you a bit less per hour for someone living in compared to someone living out. The ones that pay a great rate for live-in work either desperately need/want someone to live in and can afford a higher amount, or could probably pay a higher rate and ARE dropping it a bit but you just can't tell since it is still a great rate. The wealthier families also give better benefit packages and usually have a car for you to use most of the time (including off hours) since they have a car that is just for the kids/nanny instead of one that gets used by the parents as well on weekends. 3 or 4 cars is pretty common in those situations.

My current live-in family is pretty good. There are issues that I had stated in one of my previous posts, but I think most live-in situations have some minor stuff even. The mom is very relaxed about things, I can have friends over (including male friends) any time I want to, we watch tv and movies in my room, I can have out of town guests stay over in the spare room (she has many that stay here as well, several times a month sometimes), and she is great about understanding that sometimes things just don't get done one day, but as long as it does get done eventually, or I try, it is all cool. I also am allowed to have my own pets live with me, we are in talks about adding another cat for them as well (they have had them in the past).

We are close but also give each other space and it works out good. If anything, she is probably more lenient about things with the kids than I am, so I have to sometimes pull myself back since it is not my position to tell her how to parent them. We are very similar with our personalities, it is more than I am OCD while she is not (more on the other extreme) but that makes us fit since she needs someone like me to do certain stuff and I like to do that stuff anyways.

you sound awesome - would you mind sharing what you get paid? I’m looking for a nanny and considering a live-in but have no idea how to go about the process.

What hourly range did u have in mind?

I have absolutely no idea. 15?

[Anonymous]

Im not in the USA (right now the middle east) but one of my favourite things about living in is the level of niceness it affords. I currently live in a huge villa that i could never afford even with roomates. Other pros for me: can wake up 10m before i start work, no commune on long days (or short ones), all of my income is disposable so it FEELS like i earn more, can meal prep and do laundry during nap time so can get more out of my time off. Cons: lack of privacy/ other people always around, the baby in my current position doesnt make a lot of noise but in my last position the kids would wake me without fail at 8.30am on Saturday morning!

Im moving to Switzerland jn the fall for a live in position and hopefully by the end of the contract i will havebpaid off my student loan. Once i have i will imly be looking at live in jobs that offer separate accommodation (like the pp who has a cottage on the grounds )

[Anonymous]

Forgot to say: in the first couple of weeks it can help to leave the house at your end time, walk around the block, out to dinner, the gym, cafe with a book. I feel like this helps set the tone that once you are off you are off.

[Anonymous]

Can you ever really "share" the same kitchen when everyone wants to eat dinner at 6? Or the Nanny have to go out to eat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you ever really "share" the same kitchen when everyone wants to eat dinner at 6? Or the Nanny have to go out to eat?

*does the Nanny...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can you ever really "share" the same kitchen when everyone wants to eat dinner at 6? Or the Nanny have to go out to eat?

NP here, but if everyone was eating dinner at 6, and the nanny wants to eat dinner at 6, she either lets me know she wants to eat with us, and I fix her a plate, or she makes something simple for herself in the kitchenette in the basement and eats in her room. Typically, she eats with us or is out doing her own thing and eats at a different time.