Question for the parents.

[Anonymous]

So the family I work for their baby has allergies a lot of Dr appointments. His most recent one is coming up and the mom asked me to come with her to his allergist so I can sit with them for 3 hours while she works because her husband has to work. I politely declined. I did so because the responsibilities are getting more ridiculous. I started as a nanny now I cook, meal prep, do laundry, and new task Dr office visits (which I would'nt mind if it were a check up but not sit for 3 hours). I feel overwhelmed. I first wanted to offer help her out where I see can use a hand because her husband refuses to help but wow that just went from helping to it being mandatory. I guess I am just looking for some advice.

[Anonymous]

If the appointment falls within your work hours then you should be going with her to the appointment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the appointment falls within your work hours then you should be going with her to the appointment.

I disagree! You sound like one of the parents that has no problem taking advantage of your nanny. PWhy isn’t her husband a part of this? This is why Nannies become resentful toward their employers because sitting for two hours in a medical facility isn’t a Nanny’s job. A nanny is hired to care for your child if said child or children has to undergo any medical procedure, it’s the parent’s job to be available for said procedure even if it’s for allergy testing. You are basically filling in like her husband and from what I’m understanding you didn’t sign up for any of it. Her husband needs to be present for that procedure not you. That’s it!

[Anonymous]

Nanny here and that is your job. You look after the baby. I’d let you go for that. Adding the other responsibilities if it’s not in your contract I get. Sounds like house management

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like there's definitely a breach in contract there. Helping is one thing but to go above and beyond is another and it sounds more like a house manager position than it does a nanny position. We have a very strict contract that's very clear so no one feels confused or feel like their boundaries are being crossed. Our children's health is our responsibility and we are the only ones that are present for appointments pertaining to their health unless something happened when we're away at work only then does the nanny have permission to of course drive them to the hospital or accompany emergency services until we get there. Sitting for hours in a hospital is NOT your responsibility and you should decline especially if it's not in your contract. You also should stop over extending yourself because now it's no longer you "helping out' but more so you're now expected to do those things and I'm quite sure at the same rate you're being paid to nanny their baby. Contracts are in place for this very reason. I hope this helps!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here and that is your job. You look after the baby. I’d let you go for that. Adding the other responsibilities if it’s not in your contract I get. Sounds like house management

How is going on Dr visit for hours her job? That is health issues it is parents job not the nanny and she said the dad is not helping so sounds like the mom is putting dad responsibility on the nanny

[Anonymous]

Could you clarify.

1. Does this appt fall during your working hours?
2. Is she wanting you to come because there is a lot of waiting around during those 3 hrs? It doesn't sound like she wants you there for the medical aspect of the appt. It sounds like there is going to be a lot of waiting around in those 3 hrs, which she wants to be able to work during. And she wants you there to provide childcare. Which, if it falls during your normal hours, is your job.

[Anonymous]

Are you a PT Nanny and this is outside your hours? If so I agree either way you.
If it’s within your hours and they’re paying you, why do you care about being at the doctors office?

[Anonymous]

Not your job on or off the clock. Is this the only kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not your job on or off the clock. Is this the only kid?

Nope they have 4 kids total and I’m a full time nanny. My contract already cleared me of termination for the simple fact they put in there drs appointments are solely on the parents. Not my issue I stand in my decision, I’m not waiting at a hospital for 3 plus hours that’s her child and his health is her responsibility therefore my staying around while I still have their other children to tend to is nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could you clarify.

1. Does this appt fall during your working hours?
2. Is she wanting you to come because there is a lot of waiting around during those 3 hrs? It doesn't sound like she wants you there for the medical aspect of the appt. It sounds like there is going to be a lot of waiting around in those 3 hrs, which she wants to be able to work during. And she wants you there to provide childcare. Which, if it falls during your normal hours, is your job.

They have 3 other kids and it’s not my job. He has to have a bunch of tests ran and be monitored for those hours by a dr. She knows her child has to undergo a lot of medical procedures with his allergies they both needed to clear their schedules to see it through. I’ve been a nanny for a very long time and this is a first.

[Anonymous]

These responses are ridiculous. A child’s health is the parent’s responsibility on or off the clock. I have a kid with allergies and I went through this same ordeal WITH my husband present and we did not ask our nanny to be there. Our kid our problem. OP you need to go over your contract and make sure you’re protected should in case she decides to fire you and if I’m not mistaken the drs prefer family to be the only people in that small room on the day of these tests.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny your job is to care for the kids. Yes, you can take them to doctor's appointments. Yes, you do the kids cooking, clean their rooms and play room, do their laundry and change their sheets. That is taking care of them. Not just sitting on the couch on your phone. You are lazy. You are there to take care of the kids so they can work and pay you. If they cannot work due to child care, they need to find a new nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not your job on or off the clock. Is this the only kid?

Nope they have 4 kids total and I’m a full time nanny. My contract already cleared me of termination for the simple fact they put in there drs appointments are solely on the parents. Not my issue I stand in my decision, I’m not waiting at a hospital for 3 plus hours that’s her child and his health is her responsibility therefore my staying around while I still have their other children to tend to is nuts.

That's exactly your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not your job on or off the clock. Is this the only kid?

Nope they have 4 kids total and I’m a full time nanny. My contract already cleared me of termination for the simple fact they put in there drs appointments are solely on the parents. Not my issue I stand in my decision, I’m not waiting at a hospital for 3 plus hours that’s her child and his health is her responsibility therefore my staying around while I still have their other children to tend to is nuts.

They can still terminate you and should.