Question for the parents.

[Anonymous]

MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.

Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.

Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.

They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny your job is to care for the kids. Yes, you can take them to doctor's appointments. Yes, you do the kids cooking, clean their rooms and play room, do their laundry and change their sheets. That is taking care of them. Not just sitting on the couch on your phone. You are lazy. You are there to take care of the kids so they can work and pay you. If they cannot work due to child care, they need to find a new nanny.

I disagree completely.

I am a Nanny & strictly provide childcare ONLY.

I am in charge of of the three E’s:

• Engage

• Entertain

• Educate

I do not have to cook, clean, do the laundry nor change anyone’s bedsheets.
That is where the housekeeper comes in……

You sound lazy. If the family has a housekeeper, great, many do not. You are responsible for the kids needs. That is their rooms, playroom, family room...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ I believe this is a legitimate post - that it is not a troll post.

Her family is clearly taking full advantage of her.
The Father is delegating his parental responsibilities to the OP which is just wrong on so many levels.

OP:
You should be caring for the four kids (which is enough of a huge job!)
You should not be expected to also cook, clean the house and wash the laundry too.

And the Father needs to step up + go to the Dr. appointments.

The father is WORKING to pay the nanny's salary. She should cook for the kids, clean the kid areas and kids laundry. She is a replacement parent, and that's what parents do while caring for kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This reeks of troll. Fascinating how OP's story has changed throughout the thread to make it more in her favor. The original post talked about the allergist for 3 hours, then it's turned into a weekly hospital appt for 3 hours? Original post said nothing about the other kids -- who is watching them while OP and the mom are at the allergist/hospital weekly? The dad? I thought he was completely useless according to OP? By the way, as someone who also has allergist visits, they don't take weekly 3-hour appointments. The initial visit might be that long depending on testing, but most subsequent visits are 90 minutes tops.

OP elected to cook, meal prep, and do laundry, and is now annoyed that they like her to do those extra tasks? If someone wanted to volunteer to do my laundry and cook for me, you'd better believe I'd like it to continue! You only have yourself to blame for this part, OP. You chose to take on the extra work. According to you, you've been doing this for 25 years -- this isn't your first rodeo, and you should have known what to expect.

OP here, so let me clear some things up since you think you have all the answers. First, your allergy and how it affects you will definitely be different to how said same allergy will affect someone else. The baby has extreme allergy issues that this medical visit is needed once a week every week for two months according to his mother so they can give him small doses of the things he's allergic to then keep him there for three hours minimum to make sure he doesn't have a reaction to it (it's some sort of therapy). When I initially made my post I was briefed via text until she got all the details so that's why I did not add that it'll be every week FYI. I did not see it necessary to list the amount of kids or mention them, so in answer to the bs you're spewing there are 4 kids total 7,4,2,9mths. Two oldest in school until 3 I have toddler and baby. It's full time. I offered to help the mom in those situations because she needed the help and I was not going to sit around and watch her spiral especially when her husband acts as though everything is a chore when it comes to helping her out so I did and I made it clear this is only when I can, it's not mandatory or in my contract and she was ok with that needless to say she kept asking anyway. I don't know where people like you get off assuming stuff just because it doesn't make sense to you. So we're clear I was hired to care for children only, no housekeeping, no drs appointments, that is taken care of by the parents all of this is in my contract. In answer to your other silly remark this is my first rodeo when it comes to foolishness like this. I have never experienced chaos like this all my past families stuck to the contract even if I offered to help out here and there. Also, both parents are always active and present, never have I ever experienced such toxicity in a household so Idgaf if you think it's made up or it doesn't make sense it's what's going on. If anyone's a troll it's you dear so run along and take your other friends with you.

You sound lazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.

Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.

Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.

They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.

The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.

Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.

Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.

They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.

The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.

Say it louder for the people up top

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.

Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.

Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.

They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.

The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.

These parents are working 8-10+ hours a day on top of being parents, caring for the house and other needs. YOUR job is to care for the kids and the kids needs. If its taking kids to medical appointments, that's your job. Your job is also to cook, clean and do laundry for the kids. I'm assuming you don't have kids of your own if you think all of this is so easy as a parent when you are working. Whats the point of a nanny if they aren't going to do these things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.

Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.

Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.

They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.

The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.

These parents are working 8-10+ hours a day on top of being parents, caring for the house and other needs. YOUR job is to care for the kids and the kids needs. If its taking kids to medical appointments, that's your job. Your job is also to cook, clean and do laundry for the kids. I'm assuming you don't have kids of your own if you think all of this is so easy as a parent when you are working. Whats the point of a nanny if they aren't going to do these things.

Hi I'm a nanny and the family I work for are very strict about sticking to the contract. Medical appointments are the responsibility of parents and they gladly do it. if it is in the contract about such things OP is right to not do it. She said their are other kids this appointment is 3 hours and she has to sit there that long I wouldn't want to do it either and if that get me fired so be it. I read so many complaint on here and some parents want their nanny to perform miracles. If you can hardly manage what makes you think the nanny can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry

she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.

Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.

Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.

They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.

The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.

These parents are working 8-10+ hours a day on top of being parents, caring for the house and other needs. YOUR job is to care for the kids and the kids needs. If its taking kids to medical appointments, that's your job. Your job is also to cook, clean and do laundry for the kids. I'm assuming you don't have kids of your own if you think all of this is so easy as a parent when you are working. Whats the point of a nanny if they aren't going to do these things.

lol no it is YOUR job to take your own child to the Dr, It is YOUR job to clean your home, it is YOUR job to cook. The mom I work for meal preps her baby's food for the week, she washes all her baby's laundry from the weekend so there's no laundry pile up at the beginning of the week, when the baby is done playing at night she cleans up just the way I left it for the next day, and shes a single mom. There are parents that actually work and still perform minor duties for their kids it's called BALANCE. A nanny is there to make sure your kids are happy, safe, active and fed when you're not around. WE ARE NOT YOUR PERSONAL SLAVES. The nannies that agree to jump at your beck and call are at the park or library speaking poorly about your family and soon the entire neighborhood knows who you are and not for good reason.

[Anonymous]

Yikes!!! What an exhausting thread. Opinions are like buttholes everybody has one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. I would have said yes to a one time thing but every week ? That's a nightmare.

Your main problem is that you never learned to say no, even after 25 years of nannying. Cooking for the whole family is not ok and doing their laundry either, unless you get extra cash for it and are happy to do it.

Give your hand, they'll eat your arm.

They never asked her to!! Nanny did extra tasks of her own choosing.

The parents complain they don't have the "time" to do it and we - nannies - end up doing the task to ease their burden.
That's how it's always been unless you learn to not offer your help or say no when asked. And some parents are very manipulative into getting you to do it.

These parents are working 8-10+ hours a day on top of being parents, caring for the house and other needs. YOUR job is to care for the kids and the kids needs. If its taking kids to medical appointments, that's your job. Your job is also to cook, clean and do laundry for the kids. I'm assuming you don't have kids of your own if you think all of this is so easy as a parent when you are working. Whats the point of a nanny if they aren't going to do these things.

lol no it is YOUR job to take your own child to the Dr, It is YOUR job to clean your home, it is YOUR job to cook. The mom I work for meal preps her baby's food for the week, she washes all her baby's laundry from the weekend so there's no laundry pile up at the beginning of the week, when the baby is done playing at night she cleans up just the way I left it for the next day, and shes a single mom. There are parents that actually work and still perform minor duties for their kids it's called BALANCE. A nanny is there to make sure your kids are happy, safe, active and fed when you're not around. WE ARE NOT YOUR PERSONAL SLAVES. The nannies that agree to jump at your beck and call are at the park or library speaking poorly about your family and soon the entire neighborhood knows who you are and not for good reason.

You are incredibly lazy. You should be doing the baby's laundry and food. That's YOUR job. Its not being a slave. Its about caring for a child. You are a glorified babysitter keepign the kid alive. So, you just sit on the sofa all day on your phone keeping the kid alive? How will you manage if you have your own kids?