Question for the parents.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry

she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.

Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the appointment falls within your work hours then you should be going with her to the appointment.

This.

I'm shocked this is even a question.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like this isn’t a good fit for you. You should give notice so they can find someone who meets their needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like this isn’t a good fit for you. You should give notice so they can find someone who meets their needs.

OP here! I did, and I start in August. I already signed my contract. These comments are hilarious because I briefed you on the basics and every comment someone has some weird response. One thing that's certain, I have been in the buisness for a very long time and because of my references I can get work anywhere. I've only been working for them for one year and that's enough for me. I most certainly wish there was a way to upload pictures of her text so I can show how much she appreciated my help and did admit after I gave my notice that she understands that the work environment has been a bit tough because of their personal dynamic. IDC about the negative comments it's all just noise I'm thankful I have self awareness otherwise these hateful responses would've bothered me. BTW I'm their 4th nanny this was my bad I should've known.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry

she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.

Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.

What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.

[Anonymous]

What’s the big deal ? I did it as a nanny. You’re getting paid ! Why you complaining ? If it bothers you such much go wiejbarvacdayyvcaee

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry

she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.

Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.

What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.

The responsibility is child care and it’s not an unreasonable ask

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry

she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.

Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.

What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.

The responsibility is child care and it’s not an unreasonable ask

Oh but it is stuck to the contract period!

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the big deal ? I did it as a nanny. You’re getting paid ! Why you complaining ? If it bothers you such much go wiejbarvacdayyvcaee

That’s why you go to the park to complain to your nanny friends about the parents. Problem is there are Nannie’s like you that accept anything and do anything because you’re getting “paid.” Gtfoh value yourself. A contact is a legal document and if it’s not in there they can’t ask the nanny to do it.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry

she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.

Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.

What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.

The responsibility is child care and it’s not an unreasonable ask

It's unreasonable if it's not in the contract.

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I would fully expect a nanny to attend a medical appointment if asked.

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Anonymous wrote:So the family I work for their baby has allergies a lot of Dr appointments. His most recent one is coming up and the mom asked me to come with her to his allergist so I can sit with them for 3 hours while she works because her husband has to work. I politely declined. I did so because the responsibilities are getting more ridiculous. I started as a nanny now I cook, meal prep, do laundry, and new task Dr office visits (which I would'nt mind if it were a check up but not sit for 3 hours). I feel overwhelmed. I first wanted to offer help her out where I see can use a hand because her husband refuses to help but wow that just went from helping to it being mandatory. I guess I am just looking for some advice.

Time to move on.

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Anonymous wrote:I would fully expect a nanny to attend a medical appointment if asked.

For three hours.. dream on. Medical appointments , school meetings with teacher are the parents duty and responsibility.

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Anonymous wrote:MB here. I would go. My kid had these appointments and they are fine, you just play in the room while they get a small dose every 30 minutes. Your job is to engage. You are engaging with the baby, just not in the usual environment.

If I were the mom and you couldn’t come to be an extra set of hands I would start looking for a new nanny. If you refuse to go, don’t expect her to be nice and flexible when you need time off, since she’ll have to miss half a day of work for each appointment.

Environments like yours are what’s unhealthy for an in home employee. Asking a lot while paying very little. The Nannie’s that are calling OP lazy are classic “pick me” Nannie’s that do everything they’re told and still get fired. She did nothing wrong no means no especially if there are other children. OP stand firm on your choices but if I were you I’d stop doing tasks that aren’t in your contract even if you’re just trying to help because now the situation you’re stuck in is, it’s mandatory. Go into these nanny jobs with no feelings because these families have none. Someone actually said that the dad is working to pay the nanny true but it’s still his job to be a parent it’s not the Nanny’s job to manage an entire household on a nanny salary hire a governess or a household manager for that or pay her what one will make. The way some of you think is yuck.

The discussion is about taking a child under your care during the day to a doctors appointment as the parents work, which is why they hired a nanny. No one is asking them to take care of the family, they are being asked to take care of the kids they are in charge of. I would terminate the nanny too. I'd expect a nanny to help with medical appointments, as most cannot take that much time off work which is why you hire a nanny, do the kids laundry, keep the areas the kids are in during the day picked up, clean the kids rooms and do the laundry

she said it's not in her contract so big fat NO! The moms because no man will be cackling like this on the internet, the moms on this thread and every thread on this platform says things they normally wouldn't say to their nanny so they get on here to let it all out. A nanny's job is to care for children, tidy their play rooms, engage, feedetc. Medical runs aren't mandatory and when I was hired by a very popular agency I was told doctors appointments, distributing medicines are better left for the parents to do. If it's in the contract that they are responsible for drs appointments they can't fire her and if they do I hope she sues.

Employees are at will. You can be fired for any reason. If the parents cannot keep their jobs because of the child's needs and the nany will not help, they will lose their job so common sense is to fire the nanny and hire a more willing one.

What a silly thing to say, contracts are there for a reason. Attorney and a mom here, If it's not in the contract there's no such thing as "fire the nanny" she said they put in the contract they're responsible for Dr appointments so they're responsible that's it. Why is that so hard to understand? Our contract states all duties and responsibilities and if I need help with something outside of the contract I ask but I make sure our nanny knows it's ok to say no because it's not in the contract. Any corporation is like this, if it's not in the job description, contract, agreement etc, lawfully the employee can say no and if they get terminated, they can most definitely look into a breach of contract lawsuit. I've seen it happen many times especially with domestic workers. My advice to everyone on this post both parents and nannies is to make sure you know what you're signing and parents make sure you are clear with what you expect from your nanny because you can't come back later after a document is signed by both parties to change anything and or ask for additional duties. Nannies you have rights as well and if it's not in your contract if you don't agree and you get terminated seek legal counsel.

The responsibility is child care and it’s not an unreasonable ask

Child care does not include medical appointments.