My wife refused to pay the nanny for her last day at work

[Anonymous]

Nanny quit last Tuesday due to family emergency. She didn't give noticed and my wife is upset and refused to pay her. We don't have a contract and my wife feels it's ok not to pay her.

I think the nanny can easily get us in trouble if we don't pay her asap.
My wife anger is making her crazy and out of touch with reality.

[Anonymous]

Why can't you pay her?

[Anonymous]

Your wife is cheap that is why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why can't you pay her?

OP here,
I Zelle her last night and money is still unprocessed. Nanny most likely blocked our number because my wife was calling her nonstop.

[Anonymous]

Hope you were paying your nanny on the books or she can get you into trouble with the IRS.

[Anonymous]

Reading this; it seems something really bad happen between both of you; which make the Nanny quit just like that. No idea about her reasons but when a Nanny quit just like that on the spot; there's a strong reason.

Why your wife would want to get in trouble of no wanting her to pay just 1 day which Nanny have worked? She deserves her money. On the other hand; if her work environment was toxic and with a couple of parents always on my back and not letting me do my Job; I would quit too. And I would prefer leave this 1 day for for you; like "my Treat to you" and being singing happily of no having to come back to that stressful position. If your wife think that this money would make her happy again; go ahead lol. Well, that's just me.

But yes, your Nanny deserve to be paid for what she has worked for. Period.

[Anonymous]

If your nanny told you; she was leaving for a Family emergency; it's really a bad sign. She just needed to move on; from this position. As a nanny, I can tell she was not happy working for you anymore. Probably a several issues had arise during her last weeks or long time before. This is a reason why nannies quit Asap; trying to exit in a descent way; without the need to give you any explanation.

If your nanny have block you and your wife it's another bad sign too. Nobody would want to be stalk after a bad experience.

You did the right thing; paying her from your behalf. Good luck finding a new replacement.

[Anonymous]

If you don't have a contract, there wasn't any notice period stipulated.

[Anonymous]

This feels like a troll post. I guess she technically could report you to the IRS and you might face penalties, but she’d be self reporting her own tax evasion as well, and she’d have to pony up the taxes on her own income, which I doubt she’d want to do…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This feels like a troll post. I guess she technically could report you to the IRS and you might face penalties, but she’d be self reporting her own tax evasion as well, and she’d have to pony up the taxes on her own income, which I doubt she’d want to do…

+1

I agree…..

This post DOES scream troll to me too for some reason.

But I will bite -
OP, if your Nanny quit, then why was your wife calling her over & over??

Also > you owe your Nanny the $$.
Period.
You (or your wife) need to pay the Nanny for the hours that she worked for you.
It is against the law to withhold payment from her.

She has the right to be paid immediately for her work + if you do not, you may rightfully (!) be sued in a court of law for much more.

I concur that if a Nanny quits on the spot ~ it is usually because the job has become unbearable.
Try speaking w/your wife to find out what could have possibly upset your Nanny last week.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This feels like a troll post. I guess she technically could report you to the IRS and you might face penalties, but she’d be self reporting her own tax evasion as well, and she’d have to pony up the taxes on her own income, which I doubt she’d want to do…

+1

I agree…..

This post DOES scream troll to me too for some reason.

But I will bite -
OP, if your Nanny quit, then why was your wife calling her over & over??

Also > you owe your Nanny the $$.
Period.
You (or your wife) need to pay the Nanny for the hours that she worked for you.
It is against the law to withhold payment from her.

She has the right to be paid immediately for her work + if you do not, you may rightfully (!) be sued in a court of law for much more.

I concur that if a Nanny quits on the spot ~ it is usually because the job has become unbearable.
Try speaking w/your wife to find out what could have possibly upset your Nanny last week.

Good luck!

Right?! Feels troll-y. Op, if this is real, you need to sit your wife down and remind her she’s an adult. Good that you paid the nanny for services rendered. That’s the responsible thing to do. You also need to tell your wife she cannot call someone over and over - to the point that person blocks her. That’s not normal adult behavior.

[Anonymous]

Just mail your nanny a check.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This feels like a troll post. I guess she technically could report you to the IRS and you might face penalties, but she’d be self reporting her own tax evasion as well, and she’d have to pony up the taxes on her own income, which I doubt she’d want to do…

+1

I agree…..

This post DOES scream troll to me too for some reason.

But I will bite -
OP, if your Nanny quit, then why was your wife calling her over & over??

Also > you owe your Nanny the $$.
Period.
You (or your wife) need to pay the Nanny for the hours that she worked for you.
It is against the law to withhold payment from her.

She has the right to be paid immediately for her work + if you do not, you may rightfully (!) be sued in a court of law for much more.

I concur that if a Nanny quits on the spot ~ it is usually because the job has become unbearable.
Try speaking w/your wife to find out what could have possibly upset your Nanny last week.

Good luck!

Right?! Feels troll-y. Op, if this is real, you need to sit your wife down and remind her she’s an adult. Good that you paid the nanny for services rendered. That’s the responsible thing to do. You also need to tell your wife she cannot call someone over and over - to the point that person blocks her. That’s not normal adult behavior.

+1

I agree that it is really weird for OP’s wife to call someone so many times that the person feels the need to block her.

But this entire post just screams fake to me so…

Next!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This feels like a troll post. I guess she technically could report you to the IRS and you might face penalties, but she’d be self reporting her own tax evasion as well, and she’d have to pony up the taxes on her own income, which I doubt she’d want to do…

IRS knows who has the cash to pony up on the penalties, and it ain’t the nanny! Lol. If nanny is illegal, she’ll certainly get red carpet treatment from the IRS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This feels like a troll post. I guess she technically could report you to the IRS and you might face penalties, but she’d be self reporting her own tax evasion as well, and she’d have to pony up the taxes on her own income, which I doubt she’d want to do…

IRS knows who has the cash to pony up on the penalties, and it ain’t the nanny! Lol. If nanny is illegal, she’ll certainly get red carpet treatment from the IRS.

They’ll go after the employer for sure but nanny will have to pay at least her taxes (say $5k or so if she makes $50k/year) plus underpayment penalties. So if nanny is only trying to get a single week’s worth of payment, it’d be dumb for her to report them to the IRS.