Frustrating

[Anonymous]

Hello all,
Sorry it would be little long. I have some questions for parents and nannies. I'm working for a family for almost 3 years now as a nanny housekeeper position with 3 children. I will go step by step. When I started the job it was only 1 child so I had a lot of times to the housekeeper. 1) It was a a light housekeeper, load, unloading, and folding clothes for the whole family and doing the dishes. When I started the child was 14 months and had a surgery so she stayed at the hospital for 2 weeks. I was barely coming but I was paid the 40 h/weekly. Sincerely, I felt bad to be paid without working. I started cooking for the family, organizing their closet, organizing the pantry, walking the dog and vacuum the leaving room. The mom stayed home for 3 months without working so some days I was coming some days not. Twice a week I was doing grocery and 3 times dry cleaning or poste office. At that time, she was asking me to pick some extra for her sister's grocery that I dropped. At that point, it wasn't annoying since I weren't working full time and got paid full time. Few months later, she got pregnant and her sister was bringing her 2 children at home but she wfh. It wasn't bad until some morning I came to work and she told me, " can you take all the kids to the playground, museum, zoo etc..." Once a while is fine with me because I had a lot of free time. However, it started to be too much. Her nephews started to eat and leave everything around, she makes me go and work for her with all the children for free and they started to really disrespect me by telling me " our mom said you can't have your phone when you're with us" " mom said to do our laundry and dishes before leaving and so on...The family I worked for started putting their clothes on the floor, making me cook every single day and Fridays cook and take food to her sister. Leaving the sing from all dirty dishes from the weekend for me. Making walk to dog twice a day and sending the dog to the groomer once a week. Sometimes the grandparents, the sister and the nephews clothes to wash. The sister now could text me and tell me to do this and that. I have spoke with the family that she didn't hire me for a nanny share. I'm frustrated and took 2 weeks off and I really want to ghost them because I know nothing would change. What can you suggest me, how to handled it please? Sorry for the error I'm not a native English speaker.
Thank you

[Anonymous]

Find a new job ASAP. I am happier working in a preschool because stuff like this can't happen, but that's me.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. Quit Asap. I am %100 that you will find a nice family who respect you and value your work. And no someone who takes advantage of you. Do not waste your time. Honestly I would advice to focuse in finding only 1 position. "A nanny position" or "a Housekeeper position". Believe me, it's not worth at all taking a Job like a "Nanny-housekeeper" You deserve more. There are lots of great families out there; who will really respect you and offer you the position that you really deserve.

[Anonymous]

When the relatives was you do do stuff, you say you'd be happy to for xx price.

[Anonymous]

OP here thank you

[Anonymous]

You must respectfully give your notice, OP. Start looking for a new nanny position tonight and line up interviews. It’s a great time to get a new job.

And regardless of your future position, NEVER do more regularly than you are contracted to do. Your extra time should be with your charge only. And never, ever, ever do anything for relatives. This is a recipe for disaster not to mention your employers lose respect for you. Set yourself up as either a housekeeper OR a nanny. Never both.

Your situation is horrible. But leave on good terms as you’ll need the reference.

[Anonymous]

1. Give whatever notice is required in your contract verbally, or if you don't have a contract, two weeks. "My needs have changed, so I am giving my notice that I will no longer be working with you after x date."
2. At the end of the day, send an email with the same wording, but add something about wanting to make sure that there's no miscommunication and that nobody forgets. Send it to both parents and the sister.
3. Start looking for and interviewing for a new job. Look for either a housekeeping or nanny job, and make sure that the contract reflects that you won't be asked to cross from one into the other.
4. If you find another nanny job, make sure there's a clause for infrequent care of other minors with your charges. That covers playdates, but it wouldn't allow things like you going and working for your employer's sister.
5. Make sure your contract has both a weekly guaranteed rate and an hourly rate. Make sure that duties are clearly listed in an addendum that can be updated at any time with both parties' consent (signified by initialling the new list).

[Anonymous]

1) Be grateful you have a job -> think about what other job you can get
2) Work is tough, nobody likes to work, but everyone likes to be paid
3) Have honest discussion and ask for extra compensation for the extra tasks

[Anonymous]

Op, I don't know if you are up to it, but restaurants are hiring right now like crazy; no experience needed.You will not be without a job for long.
I'm actually changing from restaurant job to working with children. I will keep the restaurant job part time just in case.