Hi all,
I have a nanny who has been with us for about 5 months and she is really sweet and is like a part of our family. She is young and is very capable of doing things efficiently. Lately though I have been noticing that she has slowed down in her chores so there is less work tackled even when she has enough time to manage it. And she also has lately started to tweak things without asking. Like vacuum was 2-3 times a week and now she does it only once a week. I hate to keep following up and reminding her only because I don’t have time to do that and I don’t want to nag her and ruin the overall dynamic. I would like to gets some ideas on how to communicate such things without ruining relations as getting the message across. I also recently increased her salary so I feel more irritated about her not performing. Please help! Thank you |
Maybe you can create a check list for her to complete daily? |
Maybe she is focused on your child(ren) instead of cleaning. Wouldn’t that be a good thing? |
Tell her "We love how wonderful you are with the kids. But we've noticed lately that you're not putting in the same amount of effort you were during the first three months of working with us. It almost seems like since we gave you a raise, you don't think you have to do all the same things you were hired to do. What's going on?"
The only acceptable answer is some variation of "I'm sorry, I'll go back to what I was doing before." |
Whats in her contract?How old are the kids? Our nanny had a lot more time to do things when the baby was little and napped more and is now 18 months and toddling all over the place and needs more supervision. |
You need a daily schedule for each weekday, with a checklist. And I wouldn't bet on her not still somehow finding ways to slack.
We had a similar experience, and our nanny also started being late in the mornings, forgetting her keys, etc. We eventually had to let her go. |
Create a weekly calendar you'll put on the fridge and write down the tasks. |
This. Just call her the cleaning lady and there’ll be less confusion. |
OP, can you give us her full list and the ages of your children, so maybe we can see what's going on? Unless you're fine with kids parked in front of screens constantly and/or have children old enough to both help do chores and play unsupervised, there will be times that things just have to slide a bit. But without knowing how much she's supposed to do, how many kids there are, what the nap schedule is or anything else? We can only guess. |
The nanny is NOT your housekeeper. |
Vacuuming is not a nanny duty |
Why don’t Americans understand what a nanny is? And isn’t. |
What is this post? Our nanny (of 4 years) will apologize profusely to me at the end of the day if she doesn't get a chance to put the kids' lunch dishes in the dishwasher, then she'll stay late to do it. I'm like, you didn't do the dishes because the kids were super high-maintenance today. Go home! I'll do the dishes!
OP, your nanny isn't vacuuming 2-3 times a week anymore because she's trying to establish with you that vacuuming isn't her job. You shouldn't be asking your nanny to vacuum, for goodness sakes. |
Please stop taking advantage of this young naive woman, and do your own housecleaning! |
I don’t think OP is coming back. |