Trying to be generous here, but nanny is late and wearing inappropriate clothes to work.

[Anonymous]

I've hired a very sweet nanny who is from another country.

Her first day, she showed up two hours early. I had asked her to come at 2PM, she showed up at 12. I chalked it up to a possible language barrier and moved on.

Her second day, she was late 7 mins with no text or call to let me know.

Her third day, she was only 3 minutes late. But she showed up to work wearing a black see through blouse and a black bra underneath and her midriff is showing.

I'm a single mom, so i'm not worried about a husband oogling her. But it makes me uncomfortable that she's showing up late and not in appropriate clothes! We are just in the trial period. I was going to give it two more days that I have asked her and if nothing changes I'll just have my mom watch my son next week.

Please tell me i'm not crazy over 3-7 minute lateness and inappropriate clothing?

[Anonymous]

She should be on-time but her outfit doesn’t sound that bad.

[Anonymous]

Lots of nannies dress differently. I have seen in the park those wearing those Gym leggings that doesn't help their shape; other, wearing shorts really tight and super short like it's a PJs short and other showing their breast. But I have also seen Nannies who dress more appropiate for work. Some families care about it and some does.

[Anonymous]

Just talk to her about the importance of being on time and don’t worry about her clothes.

[Anonymous]

Lol@3 minutes. I hope you're never late. I wouldn't be bothered by anything less than 5.

[Anonymous]

I agree that the Nanny’s outfit that you described sounds very inappropriate for her job.

However being seven minutes late may only be problematic if it doesn’t occur on a regular basis.

Three minutes late borders on you micromanaging just a tad!

[Anonymous]

Fellow mom and I don't think I would keep her after the trial period. In the grand scheme of things, no, a couple of minutes isn't a big deal. On the other hand, it's her first week and this is when she's presumably making her best impression. If this is her best, I imagine she'll be even later when she's more relaxed. And I'm all for people wearing what makes them feel good on their own time, but transparent or cropped shirts are unprofessional. We cover our underwear (visually included) when we go to work.

[Anonymous]

How is she getting to work?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Lol@3 minutes. I hope you're never late. I wouldn't be bothered by anything less than 5.

5 minutes a day is almost a 1/2 hour a week. 26 hours a year. People who are late show no respect for others’ time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Lol@3 minutes. I hope you're never late. I wouldn't be bothered by anything less than 5.

5 minutes a day is almost a 1/2 hour a week. 26 hours a year. People who are late show no respect for others’ time.

If you’re going to hold her to such strict standards, you better never be a minute late coming home. It works both ways.

[Anonymous]

I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should be on-time but her outfit doesn’t sound that bad.

yes, it does
a see-through blouse is not conducive to playing with children

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is she getting to work?

I think this is an important question - is she using public transportation?
Personally, I would have an issue with that outfit.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're second guessing yourself. Don't second guess yourself. I'm sorry that you will likely have to look for another nanny.

[Anonymous]

Be grateful for her and as long as she has clothes on, shut up. Three minutes late is not a problem. Ten or more minutes late everyday us a problem.