Trying to be generous here, but nanny is late and wearing inappropriate clothes to work.

[Anonymous]

Just talk to her about the absolute need to be on time and suggest more appropriate work attire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. Just ask her to be on time.

Her outfit doesn't matter, your child doesn't care either.
You can't micromanage her on that. If at some point it's really inappropriate you can ask her to wear a tshirt, saying that you don't want your child to stain her sexy outfit. She'll get the message (lol)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

Yes, the nanny's hours go until 6. This way if a meeting runs late or I need to stop to do an errand on the way home, I can, without stressing about angering the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

Yes, the nanny's hours go until 6. This way if a meeting runs late or I need to stop to do an errand on the way home, I can, without stressing about angering the nanny.

I’m sure your nanny appreciates your promptness but it’s not just about “angering the nanny”. Your child is waiting for you, too. It’s so cruel when parents make their kids insecure and fearful about “where’s mama?” And “”when my mama be home”.

[Anonymous]

Being late would be an issue for me.
I also do not want to see your bar thru your clothing so I would maybe mention that too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should be on-time but her outfit doesn’t sound that bad.

yes, it does
a see-through blouse is not conducive to playing with children

Why? You breastfed so practically the first thing they saw was your breast. A barevmidriff is certainly not inappropriate. Pompous horse's patoot.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

Yes, the nanny's hours go until 6. This way if a meeting runs late or I need to stop to do an errand on the way home, I can, without stressing about angering the nanny.

I’m sure your nanny appreciates your promptness but it’s not just about “angering the nanny”. Your child is waiting for you, too. It’s so cruel when parents make their kids insecure and fearful about “where’s mama?” And “”when my mama be home”.

NP- How you get that from the last comment is seriously mind-boggling. You are just looking for reasons to find fault.

[Anonymous]

My 2 year old cant tell time so coming home ten minutes later than Nanny's shift end (which I have never done) would not prompt anxiety in my 2 year old.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

Yes, the nanny's hours go until 6. This way if a meeting runs late or I need to stop to do an errand on the way home, I can, without stressing about angering the nanny.

I’m sure your nanny appreciates your promptness but it’s not just about “angering the nanny”. Your child is waiting for you, too. It’s so cruel when parents make their kids insecure and fearful about “where’s mama?” And “”when my mama be home”.

NP- How you get that from the last comment is seriously mind-boggling. You are just looking for reasons to find fault.

NP here. No, the only reason the PP gave for being on time was her nanny’s mood.

I know that, for myself as a nanny, having a heartbroken charge waiting for her constantly late mother was much harder on me than my being disrespected.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 2 year old cant tell time so coming home ten minutes later than Nanny's shift end (which I have never done) would not prompt anxiety in my 2 year old.

Maybe my 2 yr old is smarter but he knows by routine when we’re due home and when nanny leaves.

I agree with the other posters - your child knows and is waiting for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

Yes, the nanny's hours go until 6. This way if a meeting runs late or I need to stop to do an errand on the way home, I can, without stressing about angering the nanny.

I’m sure your nanny appreciates your promptness but it’s not just about “angering the nanny”. Your child is waiting for you, too. It’s so cruel when parents make their kids insecure and fearful about “where’s mama?” And “”when my mama be home”.

My kids know I'll be home by 6pm. They're not insecure or fearful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've hired a very sweet nanny who is from another country.

Her first day, she showed up two hours early. I had asked her to come at 2PM, she showed up at 12. I chalked it up to a possible language barrier and moved on.

Her second day, she was late 7 mins with no text or call to let me know.

Her third day, she was only 3 minutes late. But she showed up to work wearing a black see through blouse and a black bra underneath and her midriff is showing.

I'm a single mom, so i'm not worried about a husband oogling her. But it makes me uncomfortable that she's showing up late and not in appropriate clothes! We are just in the trial period. I was going to give it two more days that I have asked her and if nothing changes I'll just have my mom watch my son next week.

Please tell me i'm not crazy over 3-7 minute lateness and inappropriate clothing?

Single Dad here. Do you have a picture of the low-cut dress, so we can make a better decision on whether you are overly conservative or she over-liberal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'd let the clothing issue go. The timing issue would bother me. Also, I would not hire anyone who I can not communicate with.

A friend's nanny overdosed her toddler because she misunderstood medication directions.

I am never late. I told our nanny I would be home by 6pm, because I knew I'd leave at 5 and get home around 5:30. This gives me a buffer of a half hour.

But you pay until 6, right?

Yes, the nanny's hours go until 6. This way if a meeting runs late or I need to stop to do an errand on the way home, I can, without stressing about angering the nanny.

I’m sure your nanny appreciates your promptness but it’s not just about “angering the nanny”. Your child is waiting for you, too. It’s so cruel when parents make their kids insecure and fearful about “where’s mama?” And “”when my mama be home”.

NP- How you get that from the last comment is seriously mind-boggling. You are just looking for reasons to find fault.

NP here. No, the only reason the PP gave for being on time was her nanny’s mood.

I know that, for myself as a nanny, having a heartbroken charge waiting for her constantly late mother was much harder on me than my being disrespected.

How would the child know?

[Anonymous]

I cannot handle lateness. I am NEVER late and neither is our nanny. We discussed this in our interview.

Nanny is lovely and older and dressed appropriately for a nanny.

I would definitely talk to your nanny about the need for promptness.