Going back to female AP

[Anonymous]

We started in AP program hosting females; then as kids got older went to males.
There are very few males this year and we are looking at females too.
Our children prefer the video games and sports/physical play of males. Has anyone transitioned back to females Nd had it work ok?

We have boys: 9 and 11 and a girl 7.

We are with ccap. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

There are plenty sporty girls who will love to play video games rather than play make believe with toddlers. I wouldn’t worry. Look for girls who did some sport and not for girls who say they like sports

[Anonymous]

Definitely look for sports activity over interest. You want someone with demonstrated (recent) activity in any organized sports. For video games, ask which genres they like to play and select for similarity, then have the kids talk to prospective APs about the ones they like.

[Anonymous]

It will never work, OP. All males are sporty gamers and no females enjoy sports or playing video games.

Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We started in AP program hosting females; then as kids got older went to males.
There are very few males this year and we are looking at females too.
Our children prefer the video games and sports/physical play of males. Has anyone transitioned back to females Nd had it work ok?

We have boys: 9 and 11 and a girl 7.

We are with ccap. Thanks!

We did F, M, M, M,F

Our boys (we have 3) are begging for another male. It's not that women are less sporty, our boys just really prefer that male bonding. And our experience has been that the men have been much more physical and have much more tolerance for play.

[Anonymous]

We hosted females for six years and males for four years. We then went back to a female (DD was 15), and it was such a mistake. It’s not about being sporty or not. It’s the energy and the emotion and drama. We returned to hosting males for the next two years and just exited the program this past month. Had we stayed, we definitely would have hosted another BP. I hope returning to a female ap works better for you, OP, than it did for us, but for us, I regretted it almost immediately and throughout the entire year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We hosted females for six years and males for four years. We then went back to a female (DD was 15), and it was such a mistake. It’s not about being sporty or not. It’s the energy and the emotion and drama. We returned to hosting males for the next two years and just exited the program this past month. Had we stayed, we definitely would have hosted another BP. I hope returning to a female ap works better for you, OP, than it did for us, but for us, I regretted it almost immediately and throughout the entire year.

With a teen girl in the house (or a preteen girl who is very into makeup/fashion or is prone to melodrama), I’d steer clear of a female AP. This is not a nanny who will stay calm and diffuse the situation or who will be patient about not being able to get into the bathroom. Most APs are almost as immature as the preteens and teens they shuttle around, and it’s a recipe for disaster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We hosted females for six years and males for four years. We then went back to a female (DD was 15), and it was such a mistake. It’s not about being sporty or not. It’s the energy and the emotion and drama. We returned to hosting males for the next two years and just exited the program this past month. Had we stayed, we definitely would have hosted another BP. I hope returning to a female ap works better for you, OP, than it did for us, but for us, I regretted it almost immediately and throughout the entire year.

With a teen girl in the house (or a preteen girl who is very into makeup/fashion or is prone to melodrama), I’d steer clear of a female AP. This is not a nanny who will stay calm and diffuse the situation or who will be patient about not being able to get into the bathroom. Most APs are almost as immature as the preteens and teens they shuttle around, and it’s a recipe for disaster.

2:43 here (good God, why was I on DCUM then??). It actually had nothing to do with our daughter, who liked our female AP and laughed with her. She did not learn bad habits from the ap or pay attention to her drama. I’m the one who had the hardest time with her drama. But more than it being a negative against her, we actually just missed the big brother presence of a BP. Our son missed having someone who genuinely enjoyed legos and video games and playing basketball, definitely, but he also just missed the calm no fuss manner of all of our German and Austrian BPs. We are finishing our first month not in the program after hosting for 12 years, and I will say we all definitely miss having a big brother type around for my son.

[Anonymous]

I bet DH is happy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I bet DH is happy!

I'm not trying to be an asshole, but it is actually pretty hard finding an a pair who is NOT overweight have you seen these girls??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet DH is happy!

I'm not trying to be an asshole, but it is actually pretty hard finding an a pair who is NOT overweight have you seen these girls??

And yet you manage to be an asshole. Most American women are "overweight" - just like American men. Many thin men prefer "overweight" women. Most American men also cheat on their wives. They really don't need to cheat with the AP, tho. They are already cheating with their co-workers, anonymous internet hookups, escorts, even your friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet DH is happy!

I'm not trying to be an asshole, but it is actually pretty hard finding an a pair who is NOT overweight have you seen these girls??

And yet you manage to be an asshole. Most American women are "overweight" - just like American men. Many thin men prefer "overweight" women. Most American men also cheat on their wives. They really don't need to cheat with the AP, tho. They are already cheating with their co-workers, anonymous internet hookups, escorts, even your friends.

Really? It's amazing that the average American man couid find so many willing partners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I bet DH is happy!

I'm not trying to be an asshole, but it is actually pretty hard finding an a pair who is NOT overweight have you seen these girls??

To quote the Knight Templar at the end of Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade, "He chose poorly."