What should I do?
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So I was wondering if You guys could help me out pls.
I’m working fir a family who’s pretty well off, they’re not billionaires, but the parents make a very good income. This only matters because of my questions. So they told me they don’t want me to work for them right now, which I said I totally understand and respect, but I’d like to get at least two weeks pay (social distancing money) from them, if they can, so that I can cover some of my bills for the month of April. At first they ignored me for a week, I asked what’s going on and if I’m being paid or am I having a job... Eventually they said they can’t pay me for every week if this keeps going on, I said I understand, not what I’m asking for. To make a story short. Talked to the mom on the phone and she’s telling me how she’s upset about me asking them for money,.... Mind you, they’re both still working from home. Apparently the dads salary got reduced, but she’s the one still working and she makes 80% of their income, I know for fact. She was very rude and yelling at me how I’m attacking her.... I’m like how am I attacking you? I simply asked what my job future is and if I’m being paid because we have a 52 weeks agreement. And she’s also asking me if I’ll stay with them and come back whenever we are allowed to be working again. This she asked because I’m sure she won’t pay me if I tell her I’m leaving, and she doesn’t want to fire me so they don’t have to pay me severance. Basically, she’s putting me on the back burner, no pay no nothing, but expects me to come back in two months....not getting another job. Oh and she ended by saying she didn’t have time to stay in touch, only an occasional how are you is enough. She will talk to husband and tell me what’s going on, if I’m getting any money or not. I mean at one point I was almost ok taking 2 weeks pay, losing 6 weeks pay. I’ve been working for them for more than 11 years with guaranteed pay. So it’s not like I’m there only for two weeks. So do you guys think I overreacted, I’m asking too much??? I simply wanted to know where I stand. I mean if they don’t want to pay me for 8 weeks, I’ll either get unemployment or look for another job, I can’t afford sitting at home and not getting paid. In 2 months they probably made at least 100k, and I made 0. But if I want unemployment, don’t they need to fire me first or something? Can I just go and file without them firing me? I’m all confused, I guess with all the stress I can’t think right THANK YOU! |
Anonymous
| You can def file unemployment even with hrs cut. Good luck and mom sounds horrible. I’d move on! |
Anonymous
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File for unemployment, OP. This sounds like a lay-off situation which is covered under unemployment insurance.
But I would also start thinking about a new job if I were you. How old is your youngest charge? |
Anonymous
| File for unemployment, find a new job. You don't have a job at this point and time to move on. They are saying they cannot afford to pay you. Make sure get it in writing via text or email for unemployment. |
Anonymous
| Somehow I think you are exaggerating salary if they made $100K in two months. How do you know this? You looking through their bank accounts? |
Anonymous
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I know about how much they make because I know their job titles
Plus they have stocks And a few times in those 11 years the mom left her quarterly salary paper from Work laying around on the counter and by accident I saw it, thinking it was the kids homework That happened maybe 2/3 times and it’s not like I was looking for it I’m addition to that I know the dad works in finances making deals So if you know what kind of job titles they have, and you look for your area where you live, you can about guess what they make And I went on the dads jobs website where he posted about the $2 trillion stimulus bill And you nannies should check it out Small businesses under 150 employees They’re getting money to cover all of their employees, so it’s a wake up call for us nannies to get screwed Telling me how he has to lay off a lot of people, yes, so they can get unemployment , you can’t just tell them to not ask for unemployment and not pay them So back to my question, knowing the family is well off and I know it’s not my business, but at some point, I’m sure every nanny wants to be treated fairly, Knowing this family has a lot of money What should I do? Take any money they offer now, and quit or stick it out till they call me back and not do anything, like they’re asking me I’m scared about what to do too
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Sorry meant to say*** so we do NOT get screwed
Nannies look at that bill Everybody should get paid for these two weeks Please educate yourself But then Again I’m sure most nannies are getting paid for these two weeks anyways |
Anonymous
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Youngest 9.5
Oldest 15
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Anonymous
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Look for another job.
This bill will have a maximum of $1,200 to help you... File for unemployment, that will be more helpful. |
Anonymous
| Perhaps send an email, so you have your conversation in writing for whatever you decide? I would just send a follow up email and letting her know it is unclear what their plans are; either you get paid for 2 weeks (do you have PTO remaining and is it accrued or given all at once?) or unfortunately, you will have to seek other options (that’s all you need to say don’t mention anything about unemployment, another job, etc). They definitely can’t expect to just call you whenever to come and work and not seek other opportunities without some type of retainer fee. Personally, after providing a service to a family after 11 years and this is how they act, I’d get the 2 week pay and find another family. There’s a lot of people showing their true colors during this time and to do so to those who have taken care of your children, is wrong. Sorry, op. |
Anonymous
| Look for another job and file for unemployment. While you know how much money they have coming in, you don't know how much the mortgage and other bills they have to pay are. In this area, it can be 100k every two months easy. Sounds like she would have given you the money already, if it was nothing to them, like you make it sound. If it was so little to them, they probably could have used extra help around the house and not fired you, since both work full time from home, which is not easy at all. |
Anonymous
| I didn’t read it all but if the family isn’t paying you during this time ...lose them. The kids may be fabulous, the parents not. We are paying our Nanny until things look decent to come back. We treasure her and no way would we put our lives or hers in jeopardy by having her come to the house. |
Anonymous
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God bless you! Even if yuh didn’t read all of my post hahaha
I mean I’m not a gold digger but come on We are in the middle of a pandemic And they tell me this They want to keep me for the next 6.5 weeks Pay me $0 Don’t want to fire me And I gotta be ready to work for them again like wth hahahahaha Your nanny is so lucky!!!
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Anonymous
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I’m a nanny and I find your attitude very entitled. It sucks that you’re out of work but this is not a situation anyone could predicted. Many people are isolating and many are losing their jobs. I personally wouldn’t pay you at all. I am not getting paid for my time off. It sucks but there is nothing I can do. My employees did give me some extra pay, but I do not expect for them to be paying me the entire time.
Your entitlement rubs me the wrong way. You may know what your employers make, but you don’t know their expenses. It’s sounds like you’re a PT employee since the kids are older. You can search for a new job but I doubt many people are looking with everything going on. |
Anonymous
Most families are not paying their nannies for 8 weeks. |