Temporary changing au pair room?

[Anonymous]

Our au pair has a huge basement apartment all for herself beside the laundry room we use.
My sister and her two kids are visiting soon. We have an extra guest bedroom but it small and only one shower for the kids and whoever will use the guest room.
It makes sense to temporary make au pair use the guests room and put family in the basement.
AuPair is pretty easy going and will probably not argue but I wonder what do you all think? Anyone ever did that?
TIA

[Anonymous]

No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.

Then maybe you can't afford childcare!

Have you considered displacing YOURSELF instead of your AP? Of course not!

Damn, you are a self centered piece of work!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.

Then maybe you can't afford childcare!

Have you considered displacing YOURSELF instead of your AP? Of course not!

Damn, you are a self centered piece of work!

I recognize your posts!! You spent the whole time telling HMs they can’t afford childcare when they ask a simple question. Maybe you should checkout your privilege and yourself in the mirror? Btw the “guest room” I am talking about is available because I will move my youngest to a PnP in our room! I guess that means I still can’t afford childcare because I don’t have a real guest room on top of the huge basement apartment

Anyway, I always read that we should treat au pairs like our niece, I guess it only works one way? Will a niece have a problem temporary moving to a smaller room to accommodate other family members? I am sure my au pair will have no problem with this because she actually part of our family!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.

Then maybe you can't afford childcare!

Have you considered displacing YOURSELF instead of your AP? Of course not!

Damn, you are a self centered piece of work!

I recognize your posts!! You spent the whole time telling HMs they can’t afford childcare when they ask a simple question. Maybe you should checkout your privilege and yourself in the mirror? Btw the “guest room” I am talking about is available because I will move my youngest to a PnP in our room! I guess that means I still can’t afford childcare because I don’t have a real guest room on top of the huge basement apartment

Anyway, I always read that we should treat au pairs like our niece, I guess it only works one way? Will a niece have a problem temporary moving to a smaller room to accommodate other family members? I am sure my au pair will have no problem with this because she actually part of our family!

Lol. No, that's not me.

If you are already so sure that you are "treating your AP" so well, why are you bothering to ask here?

What you are planning to do is WRONG. Go ahead and do it if you think it works best for YOU. But it is WRONG. If your AP has the opportunity to transfer to another family, she will take it.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the angry PP that it’s not ok. You committed a room in your house to the OP and for that year, it’s her room.

Could you get away with doing it anyway? Sure!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the angry PP that it’s not ok. You committed a room in your house to the OP and for that year, it’s her room.

Could you get away with doing it anyway? Sure!

OP here, thanks for the feedback!
at least we agree that PP is definitely angry lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.

Then maybe you can't afford childcare!

Have you considered displacing YOURSELF instead of your AP? Of course not!

Damn, you are a self centered piece of work!

I recognize your posts!! You spent the whole time telling HMs they can’t afford childcare when they ask a simple question. Maybe you should checkout your privilege and yourself in the mirror? Btw the “guest room” I am talking about is available because I will move my youngest to a PnP in our room! I guess that means I still can’t afford childcare because I don’t have a real guest room on top of the huge basement apartment

Anyway, I always read that we should treat au pairs like our niece, I guess it only works one way? Will a niece have a problem temporary moving to a smaller room to accommodate other family members? I am sure my au pair will have no problem with this because she actually part of our family!

Lol. No, that's not me.

If you are already so sure that you are "treating your AP" so well, why are you bothering to ask here?

What you are planning to do is WRONG. Go ahead and do it if you think it works best for YOU. But it is WRONG. If your AP has the opportunity to transfer to another family, she will take it.

Yeah right it is not you! That was a leap from my question to the conclusion that I can’t afford childcare!
I didn’t expect everyone to agree with me, which why I posted here but I didn’t expect the first response to be from a crazy, angry person either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.

Then maybe you can't afford childcare!

Have you considered displacing YOURSELF instead of your AP? Of course not!

Damn, you are a self centered piece of work!

I recognize your posts!! You spent the whole time telling HMs they can’t afford childcare when they ask a simple question. Maybe you should checkout your privilege and yourself in the mirror? Btw the “guest room” I am talking about is available because I will move my youngest to a PnP in our room! I guess that means I still can’t afford childcare because I don’t have a real guest room on top of the huge basement apartment

Anyway, I always read that we should treat au pairs like our niece, I guess it only works one way? Will a niece have a problem temporary moving to a smaller room to accommodate other family members? I am sure my au pair will have no problem with this because she actually part of our family!

Lol. No, that's not me.

If you are already so sure that you are "treating your AP" so well, why are you bothering to ask here?

What you are planning to do is WRONG. Go ahead and do it if you think it works best for YOU. But it is WRONG. If your AP has the opportunity to transfer to another family, she will take it.

Yeah right it is not you! That was a leap from my question to the conclusion that I can’t afford childcare!
I didn’t expect everyone to agree with me, which why I posted here but I didn’t expect the first response to be from a crazy, angry person either.

Lol...

If I was angry about anything, it was because I was watching my college basketball team lose.
I am not an AP host, and I have never been an AP. I have no skin in the AP game.

I am a normal person who just calls it like it is--you are a terrible person for even considering this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.

Then maybe you can't afford childcare!

Have you considered displacing YOURSELF instead of your AP? Of course not!

Damn, you are a self centered piece of work!

I recognize your posts!! You spent the whole time telling HMs they can’t afford childcare when they ask a simple question. Maybe you should checkout your privilege and yourself in the mirror? Btw the “guest room” I am talking about is available because I will move my youngest to a PnP in our room! I guess that means I still can’t afford childcare because I don’t have a real guest room on top of the huge basement apartment

Anyway, I always read that we should treat au pairs like our niece, I guess it only works one way? Will a niece have a problem temporary moving to a smaller room to accommodate other family members? I am sure my au pair will have no problem with this because she actually part of our family!

Lol. No, that's not me.

If you are already so sure that you are "treating your AP" so well, why are you bothering to ask here?

What you are planning to do is WRONG. Go ahead and do it if you think it works best for YOU. But it is WRONG. If your AP has the opportunity to transfer to another family, she will take it.

Yeah right it is not you! That was a leap from my question to the conclusion that I can’t afford childcare!
I didn’t expect everyone to agree with me, which why I posted here but I didn’t expect the first response to be from a crazy, angry person either.

Lol...

If I was angry about anything, it was because I was watching my college basketball team lose.
I am not an AP host, and I have never been an AP. I have no skin in the AP game.

I am a normal person who just calls it like it is--you are a terrible person for even considering this.

Ha it all makes sense now! you are the angry nanny who always post negatively here. Don’t you have your own forum?
Being a terrible person for this? You still sound angry, over the top and not qualified to answer any of my questions.

[Anonymous]

Op, We have done something similar where family stayed in au pair room while she was on vacation. There was two days overlap when au pair stayed in the guest bedroom before family left. It wasn’t a big deal for her and I think this will depends on the type of au pair you have.
Also in my handbook I do mention that we might switch room if needed as I usually host lot of family for the holidays. I think as long as au pair has her own bed room you are not breaking any rule and you are ok (again it also depend from your au pair attitude). Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.
Not ok.

If the bathroom situation is not acceptable for your visiting family, put them up in a hotel for the duration of their stay.

OP here. What is not ok about that? Please elaborate. Not every family can afford hotels!! Also it is not just about the bathroom. it doesn’t make sense to have 3 people cramped in a small bedroom while au pair is alone in a huge apartment. This will be for 1-2 weeks.

Then maybe you can't afford childcare!

Have you considered displacing YOURSELF instead of your AP? Of course not!

Damn, you are a self centered piece of work!

I recognize your posts!! You spent the whole time telling HMs they can’t afford childcare when they ask a simple question. Maybe you should checkout your privilege and yourself in the mirror? Btw the “guest room” I am talking about is available because I will move my youngest to a PnP in our room! I guess that means I still can’t afford childcare because I don’t have a real guest room on top of the huge basement apartment

Anyway, I always read that we should treat au pairs like our niece, I guess it only works one way? Will a niece have a problem temporary moving to a smaller room to accommodate other family members? I am sure my au pair will have no problem with this because she actually part of our family!

Lol. No, that's not me.

If you are already so sure that you are "treating your AP" so well, why are you bothering to ask here?

What you are planning to do is WRONG. Go ahead and do it if you think it works best for YOU. But it is WRONG. If your AP has the opportunity to transfer to another family, she will take it.

Yeah right it is not you! That was a leap from my question to the conclusion that I can’t afford childcare!
I didn’t expect everyone to agree with me, which why I posted here but I didn’t expect the first response to be from a crazy, angry person either.

Lol...

If I was angry about anything, it was because I was watching my college basketball team lose.
I am not an AP host, and I have never been an AP. I have no skin in the AP game.

I am a normal person who just calls it like it is--you are a terrible person for even considering this.

Ha it all makes sense now! you are the angry nanny who always post negatively here. Don’t you have your own forum?
Being a terrible person for this? You still sound angry, over the top and not qualified to answer any of my questions.

Lol, dream on. I'm not a nanny. Ask Jeff. I've been posting on DCUM for over 10 years. Like I said I have absolutely NO skin in the game. Just an impartial person that can see the ugly person that you are.

Yeah right, “ask Jeff“, anonymous poster. I am done with you! Go judge other people! You got a lot of time on your hand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, We have done something similar where family stayed in au pair room while she was on vacation. There was two days overlap when au pair stayed in the guest bedroom before family left. It wasn’t a big deal for her and I think this will depends on the type of au pair you have.
Also in my handbook I do mention that we might switch room if needed as I usually host lot of family for the holidays. I think as long as au pair has her own bed room you are not breaking any rule and you are ok (again it also depend from your au pair attitude). Good luck!

Op here, thanks for the feedback!

[Anonymous]

Good luck in your rematch. Please treat your new AP better than the current one!