Live in Nanny with unprofessional and petty employer

[Anonymous]

Im currently at the bitter end of a long and grueling 4 months of what was supposed to be a long term live in nanny position. I came in from a long term preschool teacher job and was invited to move in with my current family and be a full time nanny. The initial agreement was because I still had a year long lease in place they’d pay the years remainder of my lease on top of what I’d make hourly. First mistake was me asking for a contract and not pushing them to sign it but agreeing to everything and moving in anyway. Within my first 2 weeks there the mother came to me and said the father (who technically was supposed to be living in his own place but was constantly at her apartment) didn’t like the idea of having to pay my rent and pay me hourly so it was asked if they could not pay my rent. I naively agreed. Still no contract. As the months went by a few things caught my eye that made me question the sanity and capabilities of the parents. Mostly mom. Things like letting the 2 year old child play on the balcony alone, leaving her in the bath tub alone, and the big one of all, the toddlers bedroom was a literal closet. No window. No sockets. A walk-in closet connected to my room. It was weird to me the moment I got there but after watching them offer up melatonin and try barricading the toddler in the room with her crib because she could now climb out of it, I felt compelled to say something and before doing so I discussed it with my sister who works for CPS who informed me that not only was it wrong but it was illegal and as a mandated reporter from my teaching position I could get in trouble as much as the parents. So I tried to bring it up to the mother seeing as this was her house first and she immediately blew up at me and told me to give my 30 days. On top of this there were a number of other things that made me not sad at all for this experience to be over. But as of the last week or so they’ve been on a new nanny hunt and found someone to take my position but I overheard my boss tell the new nanny that she can start as early as the following week even though I don’t leave for another 2 and a half weeks. My overall question is is it within my right to demand she not let the new nanny take my hours seeing as I’m still gonna be living with her for another 2 1/2 weeks? I’m technically not fired it was a mutual agreement that I’d leave but I still have bills to pay back home and almost 3 weeks without work will ruin me. Is it within her right to just let me suffer and risk losing my apartment because she won’t let me work?

[Anonymous]

Sorry. But Only an idiot would have fallen for this scam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. But Only an idiot would have fallen for this scam.

Thanks ?

[Anonymous]

How the hell did you agree to move in without getting a check for all the rest they said they'd pay on your last apartment? How did you agree to a nanny job without seeing the child's bedroom? And why would you have started without a signed contract?

[Anonymous]

Move out. Why would you stay so long?

[Anonymous]

You have to leave immediately, OP. This is a truly horrible situation.

God help that poor child.

[Anonymous]

Are you not even looking for a new job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have to leave immediately, OP. This is a truly horrible situation.

God help that poor child.

Call CPS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry. But Only an idiot would have fallen for this scam.

So nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How the hell did you agree to move in without getting a check for all the rest they said they'd pay on your last apartment? How did you agree to a nanny job without seeing the child's bedroom? And why would you have started without a signed contract?

We have mutual friends so I went in trusting mom a little more than I should’ve I suppose. I wrote a contract out and sent it to them myself and it was supposed to be gone over and signed once I arrived. This was my first nanny job so I guess I didnt think you cover the basis the way I would a regular job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you not even looking for a new job?

My old teaching job is already ready to take me back. I guess the one thing I did right was take a leave of absence from them instead of completely quit just in case this happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Move out. Why would you stay so long?

Honestly out of worry for the child. Me being here has been the only consistency she’s had. Parents are models, in and out all the time.

[Anonymous]

Go back to your old place, get a new job and report them to CPS. Period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you not even looking for a new job?

My old teaching job is already ready to take me back. I guess the one thing I did right was take a leave of absence from them instead of completely quit just in case this happened.

Stop with the martyr crap. She is not your responsibility. Get out orvstop complaining about getting screwed.

[Anonymous]

Call CPS - you are a mandated reporter - call CPS.