I was let go today
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Anonymous
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Out of the blue. Db wrote me a check for $4000 and said they’d be a reference for me, told me I’d been amazing.
I’m in shock at the moment. Last time something like this happened I had plenty notice and hadn’t been with the family even a year. I’ve taken care of them 3 years and so much of my thinking is centered around what I can and want to do with them. I’ve been so excited at the thought of my youngest being able to walk this Halloween and all the fun things to do during the holiday season. I’m sick to my stomach. The youngest is having a procedure done in the morning and I’m not even needed. I still want to go but fear I’ll be an annoyance and distraction. I can’t believe this...3 years |
Anonymous
| What is their reason for letting you go? Something must have happened, I can't see why you wouldn't give your nanny of 3 years as much notice as possible! |
Anonymous
They said they can’t afford me and the youngest starts daycare on Monday. He’s shy a few months of 2. But may have cerebral palsy which I would think makes daycare the worst option but finances are finances I suppose. The oldest are going to be in ASP. I didn’t even get to really say goodbye because the kids don’t know and were eating dinner and think that I’m picking them up tomorrow. |
Anonymous
| I think they’re not being honest and found another nanny. No way they let you go with no notice and you don’t get to say a proper goodbye! What terrible parents. |
Anonymous
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I’m so sorry, OP. It really sucks!
If it helps any, I was fired from a three year job suddenly and found out I was fired from the teachers at my charge’s preschool on Christmas Day! But I was able to get another job in five days with a family I truly adore - hands down the best nanny job I’ve ever had. It will be okay. |
Anonymous
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Not being able to say goodbye would upset me. Can you ask them if you can come one day next week and see the kids? Or even on a weekend take them out for ice cream or something?
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Anonymous
No I actually believe them. They’d never risk losing me for another nanny they’re unsure of, that would eventually quit because the kids aren’t easy at all. Unless they are really good liars because they still want me to keep in touch and asked if the boys need to see me if I would do some date nights or other things when they get back on their feet. I’m going over this afternoon to see the youngest but won’t be there long because family will be around. But yeah I do agree they’re terrible and it feels terrible too! It’s like they think it’s only about money to me but I love them so much and have worked so hard with them. They all have special needs and I’ve also had relationships with their teachers and therapists for years that I didn’t get to say goodbye to. Some of the therapists haven’t even met the parents and only know me. It’s like so abrupt my head is spinning. I woke up this morning and didn’t even recall what had happened at first. |
Anonymous
| Honestly I am wondering if they feel that you are over-involved and want a care provider who has a little more professional detachment. |
Anonymous
Thank you so much for this! It’s nice to know when you’re not alone in a situation when it feels like it. I’m sorry for the way you found out that’s absolutely disgusting. Hopefully my next chapter will be better also. I’ve been crying all morning. |
Anonymous
Hugs, OP. |
Anonymous
You sound like an idiot. Find another thread to be rude in. If I have ever been “over involved” it’s due to me having to be because I managed their kids lives for 3 years and had to be while they worked 53 hours a week and traveled around the country for work simultaneously. Sorry I’m not a cold bitch. |
Anonymous
Yes I am planning on it already. I have to at least say goodbye in the sense that I won’t be around daily but here and there to babysit and for birthdays. |
Anonymous
| MB here and that is a TERRIBLE thing to do. After 3 years?! My heart is in my throat even considering doing something like this to our nanny of 2 years. The kids are going to be heartbroken! I'm sure they didn't JUST find out they couldn't afford you, they must have known for some time. |
Anonymous
My quests is that the parents were waiting for a spot in daycare to open. Doesn’t make it easier for OP however but at least she knows her employers were telling the truth. |
Anonymous
Be glad for that, OP. At least you will be able to see the kids. |