I was let go today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I am wondering if they feel that you are over-involved and want a care provider who has a little more professional detachment.

You sound like an idiot. Find another thread to be rude in. If I have ever been “over involved” it’s due to me having to be because I managed their kids lives for 3 years and had to be while they worked 53 hours a week and traveled around the country for work simultaneously. Sorry I’m not a cold bitch.

Ignore her, OP. She is just bitter and ugly.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry OP. Being fired shakes the foundation in awful ways.

A few things to focus on while you're trying to handle the shock:
- they gave you a nice sized check
- be sure to confirm that they will not contest unemployment
- they want to stay in touch - so perhaps you don't have to permanently sever all ties with the kids
- try to remain calm and stay on good terms with them so you have their good reference and support in finding your next job.

Trust that everything will be ok - it could still be a lot worse (nasty, no severance, no recommendation, no contact...)

It will be ok, truly. Obviously you're a great nanny to have been with them for 3 years and to have handled special needs kids. You will find another family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so sorry OP. Being fired shakes the foundation in awful ways.

A few things to focus on while you're trying to handle the shock:
- they gave you a nice sized check
- be sure to confirm that they will not contest unemployment
- they want to stay in touch - so perhaps you don't have to permanently sever all ties with the kids
- try to remain calm and stay on good terms with them so you have their good reference and support in finding your next job.

Trust that everything will be ok - it could still be a lot worse (nasty, no severance, no recommendation, no contact...)

It will be ok, truly. Obviously you're a great nanny to have been with them for 3 years and to have handled special needs kids. You will find another family.

+1. I agree with all the above 100%. Good luck, OP. I’m sorry this happened so out of the blue.

[Anonymous]

I think it was very rude + inconsiderate of them to not give you ANY notice that after three years, your job was about to end.

They were probably waiting to see if their child was going to get a daycare spot before they fired you.
Did you even know they were on a daycare list??

I wouldn’t use the actual words “Goodbye” to the kids.
That sounds so final to me.
Let them know that you will be coming less - but you all will still have opportunities to see each other on date nights.

I think your boss should write you a recommendation letter including her contact info to help your job search.

Hopefully the $4G will be enough until you can find a brand-new family to work for.
You might include in your new contract w/them that they should offer you a two-week notice if they ever plan on letting you go.

Keep your head up.
You will find another family soon.
Try hard and do not get discouraged!

I wish you the best w/all of your endeavors.

[Anonymous]

They gave you $4,000 and will have you a letter of reference. Be glad they are beling so generous. Do noy go, or call, hospital about child having procedure. If they want you to know they would have kept you around. It's a crappy way to let you go, but there is nothing you can do about it.

[Anonymous]

Hey sorry that happened to you! I got let go today too because they’re moving out of state unexpected
Hired me a few months ago and said they won’t move, yea right
Oh well, like somebody else said, could have been much worse, they gave you very nice check, use the time to relax and start a new job, prepare for a new job. And distance yourself from them
Good luck

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They gave you $4,000 and will have you a letter of reference. Be glad they are beling so generous. Do noy go, or call, hospital about child having procedure. If they want you to know they would have kept you around. It's a crappy way to let you go, but there is nothing you can do about it.

A month severance ($4000) after three years is not generous. It’s pretty low-rung and minimal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I am wondering if they feel that you are over-involved and want a care provider who has a little more professional detachment.

You sound like an idiot. Find another thread to be rude in. If I have ever been “over involved” it’s due to me having to be because I managed their kids lives for 3 years and had to be while they worked 53 hours a week and traveled around the country for work simultaneously. Sorry I’m not a cold bitch.

Ignore her, OP. She is just bitter and ugly.

I have been a nanny for 12 years. My current job I have been in for 4 years. My first shift with both children was their first night home from the hospital. I work 65-70 hours every week. I am the first face they see 5 mornings a week and I do everything but the last 10 minutes of bedtime. I am responsible for every aspect of their lives to some extent or another. And I love the children deeply and think about them and worry about them over the weekends, but there is a lot in your OP that sounds off to me. You sound kind of territorial and defensive of the importance of your role. If you take these kinds of jobs with semi-absentee parents, you really have to accept deep down in your heart that they are the parents and their role is more important in the long run and it is your job to build that relationship and connection, not to supplant them or judge them. Because at some point the parents will come to resent what feels to them like backseat driving.

I am really sorry that they handled this in such an abrupt way. I know how it feels to leave a nanny family on good terms, so I can only imagine what it must be to leave in an awkward and unprepared way. I am not trying to put you down. It sounds like you were a loving and dedicated carwgiver to these children under trying circumstances.

My point is this: you are about to search for a new family to work with and build an entirely new relationship with a new parent or set of parents. This is a good time to be reflective about what went wrong here. Almost everything is a two-way street. And if you want to be successful and happy as a nanny long-term, you need to always remember that your relationship and care for the parents is just as important as the relationship and care for the children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honestly I am wondering if they feel that you are over-involved and want a care provider who has a little more professional detachment.

You sound like an idiot. Find another thread to be rude in. If I have ever been “over involved” it’s due to me having to be because I managed their kids lives for 3 years and had to be while they worked 53 hours a week and traveled around the country for work simultaneously. Sorry I’m not a cold bitch.

Ignore her, OP. She is just bitter and ugly.

I have been a nanny for 12 years. My current job I have been in for 4 years. My first shift with both children was their first night home from the hospital. I work 65-70 hours every week. I am the first face they see 5 mornings a week and I do everything but the last 10 minutes of bedtime. I am responsible for every aspect of their lives to some extent or another. And I love the children deeply and think about them and worry about them over the weekends, but there is a lot in your OP that sounds off to me. You sound kind of territorial and defensive of the importance of your role. If you take these kinds of jobs with semi-absentee parents, you really have to accept deep down in your heart that they are the parents and their role is more important in the long run and it is your job to build that relationship and connection, not to supplant them or judge them. Because at some point the parents will come to resent what feels to them like backseat driving.

I am really sorry that they handled this in such an abrupt way. I know how it feels to leave a nanny family on good terms, so I can only imagine what it must be to leave in an awkward and unprepared way. I am not trying to put you down. It sounds like you were a loving and dedicated carwgiver to these children under trying circumstances.

My point is this: you are about to search for a new family to work with and build an entirely new relationship with a new parent or set of parents. This is a good time to be reflective about what went wrong here. Almost everything is a two-way street. And if you want to be successful and happy as a nanny long-term, you need to always remember that your relationship and care for the parents is just as important as the relationship and care for the children.

NP here. You are reading WAY too much into OP’s posts!! I see a lot of projection on your part, PP.

Let a fellow nanny process losing her job and changing her life without all the assumptions (which frankly sound like your s*it).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They gave you $4,000 and will have you a letter of reference. Be glad they are beling so generous. Do noy go, or call, hospital about child having procedure. If they want you to know they would have kept you around. It's a crappy way to let you go, but there is nothing you can do about it.

A month severance ($4000) after three years is not generous. It’s pretty low-rung and minimal.

+1. After three years, it’s pretty low.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Hugs, OP. Better things await you! Stay positive and embrace the change.

[Anonymous]

I know it hurts. I’m sorry. But six months from now you will look back and be glad it happened.

[Anonymous]

I hope you’re having a good weekend, OP. I’m thinking about you.

[Anonymous]

What does your contract say? If it says either party must give two months, then I would let them know and if no other check was forthcoming, take them to small claims court. Good luck.