Frustrated. 3yr old pees during diaper changes. WWYD?

[Anonymous]

So I've been caring for these two for about 4 months now. Wonderful family--live in a fabulous house (albeit far away!) The kids are just turned 3 and almost 6.

My question/rant is concerning the 3 year old, who--although he is genuinely a sweet kid...has been driving me crazy with this lately. He's still in diapers, which isn't a major issue by itself. But, ever since about 2 weeks after I started up with this family...the 3 year old will occasionally pee, in the MIDDLE of a diaper change.

I completely get that this is normal with infants/newborns, especially boys...but I am 100% sure that he should at least be able to not pee on himself, and me, when this goes down.

Does anyone have any suggestions with this? He's not a mean-spirited kid...but this behavior has been getting quite old, the more it happens.

Help!

[Anonymous]

Change him standing up in the bathroom where the potty is. When he pees, direct him to the potty and do a celebratory dance.

Montessori method is standing diaper changes in the bathroom. No three-year-old should be laying down for a pee change.

[Anonymous]

Get him out of diapers ASAP
My former boss wouldn’t let me do it till boys were older than 4, it was disgusting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Change him standing up in the bathroom where the potty is. When he pees, direct him to the potty and do a celebratory dance.

Montessori method is standing diaper changes in the bathroom. No three-year-old should be laying down for a pee change.

This. He is clearly ready to be potty trained since he has the control to release urine to see your reaction. Definitely have him stand in the bathroom and you stand behind him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get him out of diapers ASAP
My former boss wouldn’t let me do it till boys were older than 4, it was disgusting

OP here,

Unfortunately this isn't my call. Mom is beyond stubborn with this.

Frankly, even if we were able, I don't really feel like shouldering the burden of getting the kid trained. He's an absolute sweetheart, but I can tell day to day how far he is from potty training. Truthfully, my main concern for the time being is simply to not get peed on anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get him out of diapers ASAP
My former boss wouldn’t let me do it till boys were older than 4, it was disgusting

OP here,

Unfortunately this isn't my call. Mom is beyond stubborn with this.

Frankly, even if we were able, I don't really feel like shouldering the burden of getting the kid trained. He's an absolute sweetheart, but I can tell day to day how far he is from potty training. Truthfully, my main concern for the time being is simply to not get peed on anymore.

Then the above. Standing diaper change in the bathroom from behind him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get him out of diapers ASAP
My former boss wouldn’t let me do it till boys were older than 4, it was disgusting

OP here,

Unfortunately this isn't my call. Mom is beyond stubborn with this.

Frankly, even if we were able, I don't really feel like shouldering the burden of getting the kid trained. He's an absolute sweetheart, but I can tell day to day how far he is from potty training. Truthfully, my main concern for the time being is simply to not get peed on anymore.

Then the above. Standing diaper change in the bathroom from behind him.

+1. And he is three. Tell him not to pee until his diaper is back on.

[Anonymous]

Pp here
I really don’t understand these stupid moms that keep kids in diapers past 3 or more
Most kids are out of diapers by then, most schools require 3 year olds to be potty trained
I’d put him down, open the diaper , wipe him quickly, them cover his pipi with new diaper and then take dirty one off in the back and out new one on, that’s how I learned it with babies after being peed on a bunch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get him out of diapers ASAP
My former boss wouldn’t let me do it till boys were older than 4, it was disgusting

OP here,

Unfortunately this isn't my call. Mom is beyond stubborn with this.

Frankly, even if we were able, I don't really feel like shouldering the burden of getting the kid trained. He's an absolute sweetheart, but I can tell day to day how far he is from potty training. Truthfully, my main concern for the time being is simply to not get peed on anymore.

Then the above. Standing diaper change in the bathroom from behind him.

+1. And he is three. Tell him not to pee until his diaper is back on.

This.

I'd even tell him, since he's old enough to understand instructions--that he needs to try and pee BEFORE laying down to get changed. That way you're at least cutting down on the amount of changes somewhat. It's not your job to potty train the kid.

Just say "Hey X, try and go pee, before we change your butt. So you don't have to go potty once your diaper is off."

He should be able to understand. Just give him long enough to actually get all the pee out, before you untape the diaper, or else you'll be faced with the same problem.

[Anonymous]

If the three year old is developmentally normal, he understands and is peeing on you on purpose to see your reaction.

Changing his diaper while he is standing is a great suggestion. In the bathroom and behind him. You’ll get the hang of standing diaper changes after doing a couple. It’s a great way to change older and special needs kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Change him standing up in the bathroom where the potty is. When he pees, direct him to the potty and do a celebratory dance.

Montessori method is standing diaper changes in the bathroom. No three-year-old should be laying down for a pee change.

Do you put a new diaper on standing up??? If so, PLEASE explain! Not OP, just super curious! I can easily remove it, but not sure how replacement could happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the three year old is developmentally normal, he understands and is peeing on you on purpose to see your reaction.

Changing his diaper while he is standing is a great suggestion. In the bathroom and behind him. You’ll get the hang of standing diaper changes after doing a couple. It’s a great way to change older and special needs kids.

OP here.

I'd say that's at least somewhat possible. Although honestly, he's a very good kid. He and his brother have been absolute sweethearts, from day 1. I'm not saying it's impossible--but judging by how he reacts, when this happens (surprised, upset, apologetic, etc) It seems unlikely.

I've never actually tried a diaper change while standing. Is it simple enough to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the three year old is developmentally normal, he understands and is peeing on you on purpose to see your reaction.

Changing his diaper while he is standing is a great suggestion. In the bathroom and behind him. You’ll get the hang of standing diaper changes after doing a couple. It’s a great way to change older and special needs kids.

OP here.

I'd say that's at least somewhat possible. Although honestly, he's a very good kid. He and his brother have been absolute sweethearts, from day 1. I'm not saying it's impossible--but judging by how he reacts, when this happens (surprised, upset, apologetic, etc) It seems unlikely.

I've never actually tried a diaper change while standing. Is it simple enough to do?

At that age it’s super easy. I actually prefer it to the kid lying down.

[Anonymous]

This is crazy. When I was a 2 year old teacher and doing potty training the kids all started being stood for changes.


Later when becoming Montessori any child that had a pee accident or wet pull-up CHANGED THEMSELVES. Like what on earth is in that family’s head? He can go into the bathroom and sit down and take his bottoms and diaper off like a pull-up and just loosely attach the Velcro on his clean one and have him sit down and put his feet through it like underwear and stand and pull it up himself.

You didn’t mention if he has any developmental issues so if not why on earth would you accept a position with a 3 year old wearing DIAPERS? Not even pull ups but diapers? To me that is a huge red flag. He has either gone through many nannies and not had consistency to get trained or his parents are very bad at allowing their kids to move forward. developmentally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here
I really don’t understand these stupid moms that keep kids in diapers past 3 or more
Most kids are out of diapers by then, most schools require 3 year olds to be potty trained
I’d put him down, open the diaper , wipe him quickly, them cover his pipi with new diaper and then take dirty one off in the back and out new one on, that’s how I learned it with babies after being peed on a bunch

"pipi"? Really?