Emm, need help please

[Anonymous]

I work for this one mom, Monday to Friday. Six months after that she changed my working day to Monday to Thursday. Same salary.

I got a part-time work that only need me on Friday and I told her and she is fine with it.

Today the mom told me I need to work on Friday. I told her I already made commitment with new family and I cannot just leave or give notice because they are my ex- boss.


What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I re-write my prob again.

I work for this single mom from Monday to Friday. Some days I worked 10 hours long and some days only 6 hours long. Sometimes I worked on Sunday too. Mom pay my monthly salary.

3 months ago, her ex-husband told me that I'm no longer needed on Friday. He will watch the baby himself. Not long after that he told me he will watch the baby on Thursday starting from 2 pm.

Because of my low salary (on my area) I find and found another part time job. I informed the mom and she didn't say anything about it.

Today around 12.40 pm the dad told me he cannot watch the baby and was mad when I told him Ive another job to go to. He said 'you work for us Monday to Friday!".

He gets more mad when I told him that I work for his wife Monday, Tuesday, Wed and Thursday. He said he pay half of my service and demand I discuss with him first!

now I'm angry because:-

1. He's the one who want to care for the baby on Thursday and Friday

2. He should let me know in advance

3. He need to discuss with his ex not with me


I told the mom I'm not comfortable discussing with his ex and if he keep bothering me I will quit my job.

[Anonymous]

You go to your other job. If they want you to be available then they pay you to be available.

[Anonymous]

Nannies are hourly employees. You don't get a salary, you are paid by the hour. If your contract states you work mon-Friday with guaranteed hours then you are available to work those days an dthey pay you whether you work or not. F they change it to mom-thurs then it's in the new contract and you are not obligated to reserve Friday for them.
If you are working on a salary with no contract then it's illegal and you have no recourse. Adjust to them or find a whole new job. Don't sell yourself sjort next time. Negotiate a contract and sign one that works.

[Anonymous]

OP again,

Who is my boss/employer?

The mom, the ex husband or both of them?

I was hire by the mom and get paid by the mom. Never have any child discussion whatsoever with the dad.

Now the dad said I work for him too.

I'm confuse

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are hourly employees. You don't get a salary, you are paid by the hour. If your contract states you work mon-Friday with guaranteed hours then you are available to work those days an dthey pay you whether you work or not. F they change it to mom-thurs then it's in the new contract and you are not obligated to reserve Friday for them.
If you are working on a salary with no contract then it's illegal and you have no recourse. Adjust to them or find a whole new job. Don't sell yourself sjort next time. Negotiate a contract and sign one that works.

Monthly meaning she pay my hourly rate x 8 hour x 5 days x 4 weeks. But, no overtime, no paid holidays no sick paid day. No contract. Mom is nice/good person but not the ex-husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are hourly employees. You don't get a salary, you are paid by the hour. If your contract states you work mon-Friday with guaranteed hours then you are available to work those days an dthey pay you whether you work or not. F they change it to mom-thurs then it's in the new contract and you are not obligated to reserve Friday for them.
If you are working on a salary with no contract then it's illegal and you have no recourse. Adjust to them or find a whole new job. Don't sell yourself sjort next time. Negotiate a contract and sign one that works.

Monthly meaning she pay my hourly rate x 8 hour x 5 days x 4 weeks. But, no overtime, no paid holidays no sick paid day. No contract. Mom is nice/good person but not the ex-husband.

Well, if you're working 40 hours per week, then you don't get overtime anyway.

If the mother hired you, she is your boss. That the dad contributes via child support or any other arrangement has nothing to do with you - that is an arrangement worked out between them (and potentially the court). Per PPs, you need to talk to the mother and work this out with her.

However, also per PP, if you have guaranteed hours (you are paid the same amount even if they don't need you), then you should be free/available for all of those hours (again, as the PP stated).

[Anonymous]

Whoever pays you is your boss.

[Anonymous]

This is a bit confusing: you say that pay and guarantee 40 hrs per week. OK. When they switched with dad watching kids Thu 2 pm to Friday did they A) asked you to put in more hours Mon-Thu so that you still work 40 hrs per week; B) decreased your weekly pay to hours worked times your rate; or C) continued to pay for 40 hrs per week while using substantially less?

If it is C) I'm afraid you are wrong, they pay you for Friday hours, you benefited from them not needing you. Too bad you don't have contract.

It sounds like dad's portion of child support was calculated assuming he contributes 50 percent of your pay and taxes, which is why he said what you said... however your employer is still mom. Talk to her. Put things in writing.

As a side note: do you know how irritating for MBs it is when a nanny double dips and books something for the hours that you pay them for and but don't use? My daughter was in preschool 12 hrs a week... I was very specific to the nanny: I pay you for those hours. This is work time. Any appointments/ errands you want to do I need to know about... next thing I know, the school doesn't have power, they have to close ... and the nanny got another gig that I know nothing about and suggests her boyfriend babysits!!! Do you know how mad I was?

[Anonymous]

If you are being paid for Friday, you need to stay available for Friday. You work for both parents, OP. I don't doubt that the exhusband is a jerk but you were wrong to take another job on the days they pay you for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a bit confusing: you say that pay and guarantee 40 hrs per week. OK. When they switched with dad watching kids Thu 2 pm to Friday did they A) asked you to put in more hours Mon-Thu so that you still work 40 hrs per week; B) decreased your weekly pay to hours worked times your rate; or C) continued to pay for 40 hrs per week while using substantially less?

If it is C) I'm afraid you are wrong, they pay you for Friday hours, you benefited from them not needing you. Too bad you don't have contract.

Yes the answer is C.

The day that he told me I dont have to work on Friday, I thank him. He asked "why thank you?" I said 'thanks for giving me extra day off". He then said "no, you dont have to work on Friday anymore". "Forever?" I asked and he said yes. Later on he told me he will watch the child on Thursday too.

I told the mom about this and she said both of them had a new arrangement. When I told her I have a side job on Thursday evening and on Friday, she didn't say anything. She didn't cut my salary because its very low at the first place also sometimes she need me to do overnight care.

It sounds like dad's portion of child support was calculated assuming he contributes 50 percent of your pay and taxes, which is why he said what you said... however your employer is still mom. Talk to her. Put things in writing.

Will do this on Monday. Thank you.

As a side note: do you know how irritating for MBs it is when a nanny double dips and books something for the hours that you pay them for and but don't use? My daughter was in preschool 12 hrs a week... I was very specific to the nanny: I pay you for those hours. This is work time. Any appointments/ errands you want to do I need to know about... next thing I know, the school doesn't have power, they have to close ... and the nanny got another gig that I know nothing about and suggests her boyfriend babysits!!! Do you know how mad I was?

I understand but when the ex husband told me he will watch the child and I dont have to work on Thursday and Friday anymore/forever I dont think I was wrong.

Thank you for you advice and in-put.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are being paid for Friday, you need to stay available for Friday. You work for both parents, OP. I don't doubt that the exhusband is a jerk but you were wrong to take another job on the days they pay you for.

I will wait till Monday and see how things turn up. If they need me to work five days a week, I want a contract. I accepted this low salary job because Mom told me (at the time) she in the process to get the child support. Now that I know the ex give her child support money I will ask for different salary.


Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a bit confusing: you say that pay and guarantee 40 hrs per week. OK. When they switched with dad watching kids Thu 2 pm to Friday did they A) asked you to put in more hours Mon-Thu so that you still work 40 hrs per week; B) decreased your weekly pay to hours worked times your rate; or C) continued to pay for 40 hrs per week while using substantially less?

If it is C) I'm afraid you are wrong, they pay you for Friday hours, you benefited from them not needing you. Too bad you don't have contract.

It sounds like dad's portion of child support was calculated assuming he contributes 50 percent of your pay and taxes, which is why he said what you said... however your employer is still mom. Talk to her. Put things in writing.

As a side note: do you know how irritating for MBs it is when a nanny double dips and books something for the hours that you pay them for and but don't use? My daughter was in preschool 12 hrs a week... I was very specific to the nanny: I pay you for those hours. This is work time. Any appointments/ errands you want to do I need to know about... next thing I know, the school doesn't have power, they have to close ... and the nanny got another gig that I know nothing about and suggests her boyfriend babysits!!! Do you know how mad I was?

Next time, hire a nanny/housekeeper. Don't pay someone to do absolutely nothing. They start to think any work at all is more than they should have to do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a bit confusing: you say that pay and guarantee 40 hrs per week. OK. When they switched with dad watching kids Thu 2 pm to Friday did they A) asked you to put in more hours Mon-Thu so that you still work 40 hrs per week; B) decreased your weekly pay to hours worked times your rate; or C) continued to pay for 40 hrs per week while using substantially less?

If it is C) I'm afraid you are wrong, they pay you for Friday hours, you benefited from them not needing you. Too bad you don't have contract.

It sounds like dad's portion of child support was calculated assuming he contributes 50 percent of your pay and taxes, which is why he said what you said... however your employer is still mom. Talk to her. Put things in writing.

As a side note: do you know how irritating for MBs it is when a nanny double dips and books something for the hours that you pay them for and but don't use? My daughter was in preschool 12 hrs a week... I was very specific to the nanny: I pay you for those hours. This is work time. Any appointments/ errands you want to do I need to know about... next thing I know, the school doesn't have power, they have to close ... and the nanny got another gig that I know nothing about and suggests her boyfriend babysits!!! Do you know how mad I was?

Next time, hire a nanny/housekeeper. Don't pay someone to do absolutely nothing. They start to think any work at all is more than they should have to do!

Oh... it's you, again. So boring.