Tardiness

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I get skeptical about writing emails to my employer because I feel they come off harsh (I'm straight to the point) but I like to have documentation. I recently changed my work hours after the parents asked me to. It was optional and I decided what the heck. Before my hours were changed we had more than a few occasions where they were always late- anywhere between 10-30 minutes late. I addressed it and they began arriving on time. Now that my hours are changed, they have been late, TWICE! I am thinking to give them one more chance and the next time they are late I will tell them either a) get it together or b) I need to go back to my original hours. I work long days and I am in school. They are more than apologetic, however, that' does not cut it for me, when it's been an ongoing issue. I know they appreciate me but it's so inconsiderate to the employee. You have a schedule, adhere to it. I am really starting to become frustrated with this and it's only the 2nd week. I don't really have a question I'm just venting. Do any nannies have this issue with their employer(s)?

[Anonymous]

You're being very unreasonable and should consider a different line of work. The point to having a nanny is to have someone with the kids when they're sick or on vacation from school and to have someone at the house so if you're stuck late at work or hosed up in traffic you don't have to worry about the day care center closing or charging a dollar a minute. NO ONE gets home at the exact same time every single day. Stuff happens. Stop adding to their stress. Your job is to reduce their stress. Please, find a new job. Everyone will be happier.

[Anonymous]

My employers know that they cannot be late. I am NEVER late - never once in the two plus years I have been working for them - so I set the example. They are sometimes five minutes late at the most.

You set the tone, OP. Yes, please tell them that this is a problem for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're being very unreasonable and should consider a different line of work. The point to having a nanny is to have someone with the kids when they're sick or on vacation from school and to have someone at the house so if you're stuck late at work or hosed up in traffic you don't have to worry about the day care center closing or charging a dollar a minute. NO ONE gets home at the exact same time every single day. Stuff happens. Stop adding to their stress. Your job is to reduce their stress. Please, find a new job. Everyone will be happier.

You must be one of those parents who are late everyday. You must also be a parent who takes advantage of their nanny. When you hire someone, you let them know that they are expected to work from 9-5 and fulfill XYZ duties. When they are late, I am not compensated! I get paid by the hour. You made a commitment to me, just like I made a commitment to you. How would you feel if your nanny arrive to work late everyday? I have been working with children for 12 years and I have EXCELLENT references. I love my charge and their parents. However, I have obligations as well. I am not being unreasonable and you sound like a "dumbass!" Did I not mention that this has been an ongoing issue?! Late here and there is fine but when it's almost every week, UNACCEPTABLE! You changed the hours to prevent being late, but yet, you're still late!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My employers know that they cannot be late. I am NEVER late - never once in the two plus years I have been working for them - so I set the example. They are sometimes five minutes late at the most.

You set the tone, OP. Yes, please tell them that this is a problem for you.

Yes, 5 minutes is understandable but I still don't expect it to happen everyday. I am always on time, whenever they ask me in advance to come early or stay late, I always do. I also babysit for them as well for date nights. I am going to see what happens next week but I will address it if it happens again. I work 50 hrs week and in school, so I'm sure anyone can understand how I look forward to being relieved on time. Thanks pp!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're being very unreasonable and should consider a different line of work. The point to having a nanny is to have someone with the kids when they're sick or on vacation from school and to have someone at the house so if you're stuck late at work or hosed up in traffic you don't have to worry about the day care center closing or charging a dollar a minute. NO ONE gets home at the exact same time every single day. Stuff happens. Stop adding to their stress. Your job is to reduce their stress. Please, find a new job. Everyone will be happier.

You must be one of those parents who are late everyday. You must also be a parent who takes advantage of their nanny. When you hire someone, you let them know that they are expected to work from 9-5 and fulfill XYZ duties. When they are late, I am not compensated! I get paid by the hour. You made a commitment to me, just like I made a commitment to you. How would you feel if your nanny arrive to work late everyday? I have been working with children for 12 years and I have EXCELLENT references. I love my charge and their parents. However, I have obligations as well. I am not being unreasonable and you sound like a "dumbass!" Did I not mention that this has been an ongoing issue?! Late here and there is fine but when it's almost every week, UNACCEPTABLE! You changed the hours to prevent being late, but yet, you're still late!

You're an idiot. Either you're paid by the hour or you don't get compensated for when they're late. Which is it? Can't be both. Signed, the NANNY you quoted who gets paid by the HOUR meaning I get paid for every minute I work.

[Anonymous]

I really can't believe that comment about "the point of having a nanny." That pp is total an ass! You must suck as an employer- probably don't even have children or a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're being very unreasonable and should consider a different line of work. The point to having a nanny is to have someone with the kids when they're sick or on vacation from school and to have someone at the house so if you're stuck late at work or hosed up in traffic you don't have to worry about the day care center closing or charging a dollar a minute. NO ONE gets home at the exact same time every single day. Stuff happens. Stop adding to their stress. Your job is to reduce their stress. Please, find a new job. Everyone will be happier.

You must be one of those parents who are late everyday. You must also be a parent who takes advantage of their nanny. When you hire someone, you let them know that they are expected to work from 9-5 and fulfill XYZ duties. When they are late, I am not compensated! I get paid by the hour. You made a commitment to me, just like I made a commitment to you. How would you feel if your nanny arrive to work late everyday? I have been working with children for 12 years and I have EXCELLENT references. I love my charge and their parents. However, I have obligations as well. I am not being unreasonable and you sound like a "dumbass!" Did I not mention that this has been an ongoing issue?! Late here and there is fine but when it's almost every week, UNACCEPTABLE! You changed the hours to prevent being late, but yet, you're still late!

You're an idiot. Either you're paid by the hour or you don't get compensated for when they're late. Which is it? Can't be both. Signed, the NANNY you quoted who gets paid by the HOUR meaning I get paid for every minute I work.

Jackass- I get paid to work 9-5 not 9-5:30! So if your family is 30 minutes late, you're ok with that? Not getting paid for those 30 minutes? You may work for free but I don't! At the end of the day, I am a human being, who works 11 hr days (no I don't really work 9-5) 3 children and although the money is good, I want to be relieved on time at the end of my shift! Period!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're being very unreasonable and should consider a different line of work. The point to having a nanny is to have someone with the kids when they're sick or on vacation from school and to have someone at the house so if you're stuck late at work or hosed up in traffic you don't have to worry about the day care center closing or charging a dollar a minute. NO ONE gets home at the exact same time every single day. Stuff happens. Stop adding to their stress. Your job is to reduce their stress. Please, find a new job. Everyone will be happier.

You must be one of those parents who are late everyday. You must also be a parent who takes advantage of their nanny. When you hire someone, you let them know that they are expected to work from 9-5 and fulfill XYZ duties. When they are late, I am not compensated! I get paid by the hour. You made a commitment to me, just like I made a commitment to you. How would you feel if your nanny arrive to work late everyday? I have been working with children for 12 years and I have EXCELLENT references. I love my charge and their parents. However, I have obligations as well. I am not being unreasonable and you sound like a "dumbass!" Did I not mention that this has been an ongoing issue?! Late here and there is fine but when it's almost every week, UNACCEPTABLE! You changed the hours to prevent being late, but yet, you're still late!

You're an idiot. Either you're paid by the hour or you don't get compensated for when they're late. Which is it? Can't be both. Signed, the NANNY you quoted who gets paid by the HOUR meaning I get paid for every minute I work.

NP here. I am always compensated (paid) when my employers are late and I find it unacceptable as well. First, their children are also waiting for the parent to arrive home and it is unfair to the children. Second, it is unfair to me. I am never late either and I expect one of my two employers to be on time as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're being very unreasonable and should consider a different line of work. The point to having a nanny is to have someone with the kids when they're sick or on vacation from school and to have someone at the house so if you're stuck late at work or hosed up in traffic you don't have to worry about the day care center closing or charging a dollar a minute. NO ONE gets home at the exact same time every single day. Stuff happens. Stop adding to their stress. Your job is to reduce their stress. Please, find a new job. Everyone will be happier.

I do. I always plan a half hour into my commute to make sure I have home on time to relive our nanny. If our nanny didn't arrive one time, I would fire her. How could I expect less of myself? Plus, as a PP pointed out, there are two of us - one of us can always be on time.

OP, talk to your employer. You don;t need to send a text or an email. The next time one is late, stress the importance of being on time and tell them the position this puts you in. I feel very strongly that if you are never late then they should never be late (barring a true emergency, of course).

[Anonymous]

Op here- in the past after them being late more than 5 times the did give me money- it was like here's for dealing with us, but it's not every time. I don't really like to charge late fees because I don't want the family to think "oh, well she'll be okay with us being late because will pay her." Its not just about money, I value my time and I just think it's being considerate of your nannies.i agree with you too, the children know when it's time for mommy and daddy to come home and they look forward to it (as do I ) If you see that you're arriving home late then try leaving at a different time. P.s the parents go to work whenever they feel like it- I'm not even sure if they have a set schedule.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're being very unreasonable and should consider a different line of work. The point to having a nanny is to have someone with the kids when they're sick or on vacation from school and to have someone at the house so if you're stuck late at work or hosed up in traffic you don't have to worry about the day care center closing or charging a dollar a minute. NO ONE gets home at the exact same time every single day. Stuff happens. Stop adding to their stress. Your job is to reduce their stress. Please, find a new job. Everyone will be happier.

I do. I always plan a half hour into my commute to make sure I have home on time to relive our nanny. If our nanny didn't arrive one time, I would fire her. How could I expect less of myself? Plus, as a PP pointed out, there are two of us - one of us can always be on time.

OP, talk to your employer. You don;t need to send a text or an email. The next time one is late, stress the importance of being on time and tell them the position this puts you in. I feel very strongly that if you are never late then they should never be late (barring a true emergency, of course).

Maybe I will take that route (just talking to them). The mom has said numerous times they're trying but I mean come on. I do understand traffic but I come from an hour away and I make sure that I leave out early to ensure I don't run into major traffic. I typical arrive almost 10 minutes early and I am opening the door right at 7:30 every morning. I hate being late, it doesn't sit right with me Thank you for your response!

[Anonymous]

The funny thing is if this was the nanny 10-30min late. People will say let her go. If she will not take it, she doesn't have too. They may not be a good fit together. I come in late 5-10min everyday so do my boss. I'm flexible for them all the time. And I know how to do my job. So they are fexiable for me. It's a good fit. But I know another family wouldn't take it for me.

[Anonymous]

MB here. When we first got a nanny we were not sure about timing. Sometimes someone at work would ask a question as I was heading out, or the train would be late, etc.

After a month we just accepted that we were paying for a half hour later than we thought we needed, So we pay for 2.5 hrs more than we always use, but it's worth it to not be stressing out about getting home at time and the nanny knows they may get to leave early each day.

[Anonymous]

I find the PP who stated that the OP should get over herself should understand that being late is what sets a Nanny apart from a childcare center!!

That response was the most outrageous "logic" I have ever heard of!!

Just like any job out there, employees deserve the respect + privilege to leave when they have completed their work shift.

Barring rare emergencies of course.