Need to leave my babysitting family of 3 days.

[Anonymous]

First, I would like to say thank you for reading this. Second this is not a 'poor me' story. I need to quit but I am afraid of how they will react. They are a very nice couple, but I have been extremely unhappy with their attachment parenting style.

Should I text the mom or I need to give her 2 weeks notice? We dont do contract.

I've only been with them this week. Monday, Wed and Thursday.

Should I say :"Hi, {Name} I am sorry this is not working for me"

Really need help here.

Thanks guys!

[Anonymous]

Unless you plan on totally bailing and not going back, just be an adult, go in Monday and do your job and when they come home tell them it isn't working for you for various reasons but you would be happy to stay until Friday or the following Friday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless you plan on totally bailing and not going back, just be an adult, go in Monday and do your job and when they come home tell them it isn't working for you for various reasons but you would be happy to stay until Friday or the following Friday.

Thanks, but I really don't feel like going back to work at all.

I don't think I can work for another hour. My whole body is arches, stiff and my feet get super tired because I need to carry the baby for one and half hour outside the house in Ergo. He can only take his morning and noon nap in Ergo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you plan on totally bailing and not going back, just be an adult, go in Monday and do your job and when they come home tell them it isn't working for you for various reasons but you would be happy to stay until Friday or the following Friday.

Thanks, but I really don't feel like going back to work at all.

I don't think I can work for another hour. My whole body is arches, stiff and my feet get super tired because I need to carry the baby for one and half hour outside the house in Ergo. He can only take his morning and noon nap in Ergo.

If you don't plan on going back then who cares how you handle it. There is simply no adult, professional, correct way to bail on a job with no notice. Text them ASAP and say it didn't work out and that you are sorry and they will have Sat/Sun to at least reach out to the other candidates they turned down and hopefully snag their #2. Go!

[Anonymous]

If this is your first week than no notice is needed it's still a trail period. Just tell them ASAP that it isn't working or family commitments came up if you don't feel like explaining why you're leaving.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you plan on totally bailing and not going back, just be an adult, go in Monday and do your job and when they come home tell them it isn't working for you for various reasons but you would be happy to stay until Friday or the following Friday.

Thanks, but I really don't feel like going back to work at all.

I don't think I can work for another hour. My whole body is arches, stiff and my feet get super tired because I need to carry the baby for one and half hour outside the house in Ergo. He can only take his morning and noon nap in Ergo.

You tell them, Hi Sally, can you give me a call when you get a chance? Over the phone say: I really enjoy working for your family and your child is delightful but I cannot physically carry Larla/Larlo for the required time. I'd love to continue to work for your family and happy to rock baby to sleep, but then baby needs to sleep in a crib or PNP and I'll need a stroller for our walks. If that's not possible, I'll continue for two weeks in less you find a replacement sooner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless you plan on totally bailing and not going back, just be an adult, go in Monday and do your job and when they come home tell them it isn't working for you for various reasons but you would be happy to stay until Friday or the following Friday.

Thanks, but I really don't feel like going back to work at all.

I don't think I can work for another hour. My whole body is arches, stiff and my feet get super tired because I need to carry the baby for one and half hour outside the house in Ergo. He can only take his morning and noon nap in Ergo.

You tell them, Hi Sally, can you give me a call when you get a chance? Over the phone say: I really enjoy working for your family and your child is delightful but I cannot physically carry Larla/Larlo for the required time. I'd love to continue to work for your family and happy to rock baby to sleep, but then baby needs to sleep in a crib or PNP and I'll need a stroller for our walks. If that's not possible, I'll continue for two weeks in less you find a replacement sooner.

OP said she doesn't want to go back, not even for a day.

[Anonymous]

Grow up, you do not quit at a moment's notice. You inform them of your limitations (cannot physically carry baby for that long), and offer to finish out the week (or whatever period of time you can) in a modified fashion (i.e. will hold baby on couch during naps). Don't be that immature, unprofessional employee that gives the profession a bad name.

[Anonymous]

I have two thoughts. 1) you're not used to the physical demands of the job but you'll get used to it after a few days if you stick with it. Or 2) maybe you're coming down with the flu and that's why you're so tired and achy.

That said the ergo isn't for everyone. I HATE that carrier. I like the bjorn active much much better. Under duress I can use the becco. The ergo just isn't right for my body and causes significant pain and discomfort. Can you ask her if you can try a different carrier?

[Anonymous]

I get it OP.

Sometimes you just KNOW when a job will not work out and that you are not a strong match for each other.

And if during the first week or so, you realize this then now out gracefully since it really is a trial period.

If you do not want to go in next week, you are under no obligation to do so.
Just thank them for their offer however after a few days it is clear that the job will not work out at all.

AP is a tough parenting style to work with in my personal experience.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Their baby only sleeps in an Ergo? You could also mention that that is going to set them up for nightmare sleep problems as the child gets older!

[Anonymous]

I think you need to finish out next week but tell them you cant carry the baby. If they are adamant you have to carry the baby then say you cant go in.

[Anonymous]

I would ot go back and just text them that you quit. Being a nanny for attachment style parenting kids is the worst job, maybe even worse than working for SAHMs. You also should have known better and never taken this job, when I hear attachment parenting I don't even bother going for the interview.

[Anonymous]

Things sometimes don't work out.

call them today. the sooner the better for both of you.
give her the courtesy of being able to look for a replacement over the weekend. As a working mom, please don't wait until Monday. Childcare changes is one of the most stressful times in a working mom's life. We balance and juggle so much- our jobs and lives rely upon dependable childcare- please give her as much time as possible to work on a solution