My nanny expects to bring her own kids for the summer

[Anonymous]

We are part of a nanny share and after a week of the share plus bringing her kids, I told her I am not comfortable with her having so many kids each day. She said she has no other solution. How do I handle this? It works during the school year but clearly summer is going to be a problem.

[Anonymous]

You need a new nanny so she can stay home with her kids

[Anonymous]

Pay for her kids to go to daycare.

[Anonymous]

Get your own nanny.

[Anonymous]

New nanny. You are not camp.

[Anonymous]

How much are you paying, how much do you like this nanny and what are your specific objections?

If you are paying a decent rate and not terribly fond of the nanny then cut and run. If you are getting a steal and/or are especially attached to this nanny then it might make sense to come up with some kind of compromise. The one that comes to mind is she hires a teen to come watch her kids for part of the day (such as during the part of the day when she normally takes your kids on an outing, or during naptime's, or some other part of the day that addresses your concerns)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are part of a nanny share and after a week of the share plus bringing her kids, I told her I am not comfortable with her having so many kids each day. She said she has no other solution. How do I handle this? It works during the school year but clearly summer is going to be a problem.

Number and ages of all those kids, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much are you paying, how much do you like this nanny and what are your specific objections?

If you are paying a decent rate and not terribly fond of the nanny then cut and run. If you are getting a steal and/or are especially attached to this nanny then it might make sense to come up with some kind of compromise. The one that comes to mind is she hires a teen to come watch her kids for part of the day (such as during the part of the day when she normally takes your kids on an outing, or during naptime's, or some other part of the day that addresses your concerns)

LOL! Now we are hiring nannies for the nannies children?!?!?!?! This board is absolutely outrageous. Not only do you want all the informality of being a nanny and the numerous perks, but you also want all the formality and perks of a real job (at least the ones that benefit you, but none of the ones that don't.) This board tries to raise nanny pay to astronomical levels, you want pay for days you don't even work, you want taxes withheld but want more pay to make up for the money lost to the government, you want weeks and weeks of paid vacation above and beyond what any normal job would get, you want carte blanche for sick days since "being around kids makes nannies sick", and on and on and on, and now you want the ridiculous perks of not only being able to bring your own children to work thus avoiding the costs of childcare that all other working parents must pay (even those making $8 an hour) but your BOSS MUST HIRE AND PAY A NANNY TO CARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN AT WORK?!?!?!

ARE. YOU. #%&$ING. KIDDING?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you paying, how much do you like this nanny and what are your specific objections?

If you are paying a decent rate and not terribly fond of the nanny then cut and run. If you are getting a steal and/or are especially attached to this nanny then it might make sense to come up with some kind of compromise. The one that comes to mind is she hires a teen to come watch her kids for part of the day (such as during the part of the day when she normally takes your kids on an outing, or during naptime's, or some other part of the day that addresses your concerns)

LOL! Now we are hiring nannies for the nannies children?!?!?!?! This board is absolutely outrageous. Not only do you want all the informality of being a nanny and the numerous perks, but you also want all the formality and perks of a real job (at least the ones that benefit you, but none of the ones that don't.) This board tries to raise nanny pay to astronomical levels, you want pay for days you don't even work, you want taxes withheld but want more pay to make up for the money lost to the government, you want weeks and weeks of paid vacation above and beyond what any normal job would get, you want carte blanche for sick days since "being around kids makes nannies sick", and on and on and on, and now you want the ridiculous perks of not only being able to bring your own children to work thus avoiding the costs of childcare that all other working parents must pay (even those making $8 an hour) but your BOSS MUST HIRE AND PAY A NANNY TO CARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN AT WORK?!?!?!

ARE. YOU. #%&$ING. KIDDING?

Most parents want the best childcare they can afford.
You may have other priorities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you paying, how much do you like this nanny and what are your specific objections?

If you are paying a decent rate and not terribly fond of the nanny then cut and run. If you are getting a steal and/or are especially attached to this nanny then it might make sense to come up with some kind of compromise. The one that comes to mind is she hires a teen to come watch her kids for part of the day (such as during the part of the day when she normally takes your kids on an outing, or during naptime's, or some other part of the day that addresses your concerns)

LOL! Now we are hiring nannies for the nannies children?!?!?!?! This board is absolutely outrageous. Not only do you want all the informality of being a nanny and the numerous perks, but you also want all the formality and perks of a real job (at least the ones that benefit you, but none of the ones that don't.) This board tries to raise nanny pay to astronomical levels, you want pay for days you don't even work, you want taxes withheld but want more pay to make up for the money lost to the government, you want weeks and weeks of paid vacation above and beyond what any normal job would get, you want carte blanche for sick days since "being around kids makes nannies sick", and on and on and on, and now you want the ridiculous perks of not only being able to bring your own children to work thus avoiding the costs of childcare that all other working parents must pay (even those making $8 an hour) but your BOSS MUST HIRE AND PAY A NANNY TO CARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN AT WORK?!?!?!

ARE. YOU. #%&$ING. KIDDING?

You sound like you're losing your shit. What the hell? PP said nanny could hire a teen to watch her kids, not that OP had to pay for it.

OP, do you have a contract? If you do, this shouldn't even be an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you paying, how much do you like this nanny and what are your specific objections?

If you are paying a decent rate and not terribly fond of the nanny then cut and run. If you are getting a steal and/or are especially attached to this nanny then it might make sense to come up with some kind of compromise. The one that comes to mind is she hires a teen to come watch her kids for part of the day (such as during the part of the day when she normally takes your kids on an outing, or during naptime's, or some other part of the day that addresses your concerns)

LOL! Now we are hiring nannies for the nannies children?!?!?!?! This board is absolutely outrageous. Not only do you want all the informality of being a nanny and the numerous perks, but you also want all the formality and perks of a real job (at least the ones that benefit you, but none of the ones that don't.) This board tries to raise nanny pay to astronomical levels, you want pay for days you don't even work, you want taxes withheld but want more pay to make up for the money lost to the government, you want weeks and weeks of paid vacation above and beyond what any normal job would get, you want carte blanche for sick days since "being around kids makes nannies sick", and on and on and on, and now you want the ridiculous perks of not only being able to bring your own children to work thus avoiding the costs of childcare that all other working parents must pay (even those making $8 an hour) but your BOSS MUST HIRE AND PAY A NANNY TO CARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN AT WORK?!?!?!

ARE. YOU. #%&$ING. KIDDING?

You sound like you're losing your shit. What the hell? PP said nanny could hire a teen to watch her kids, not that OP had to pay for it.

OP, do you have a contract? If you do, this shouldn't even be an issue.

Yes. Those of us with reading comprehension can all see that no one suggested that the OP should have to pay for a nanny for anyone's kid but her own. But if the nanny is going to be required to put her kids in inexpensive camp or hire another nanny to care for them, that is going to eat up her entire salary and she is going to quit. If OP wants to avoid that, she could think about a situation where the nanny hires someone to care for her children for part of the day while she is at work. If she can bring her kids with her and supervise a teenage babysitter, then she will be on hand to ensure that the teenager is doing an adequate job. I would not leave my kids all day with a teenager, but if I was working from home I would feel differently.

[Anonymous]

If you hire a nanny with kids, you have to ask about summer/holiday plans. What did you do over Christmas break?

There are a couple of issues here, but I'm guessing the main one is that she didn't ask, didn't try to work out a plan to minimize disruption to you or her paid charges, and then acted like it was no big deal and you should just deal.

If she were to "get it" that this is, in fact, a big deal, would you feel differently? Is there any way she could do this, including taking a reduced rate for the summer, that would work for you? Given that this will happen every year, what do you want to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you paying, how much do you like this nanny and what are your specific objections?

If you are paying a decent rate and not terribly fond of the nanny then cut and run. If you are getting a steal and/or are especially attached to this nanny then it might make sense to come up with some kind of compromise. The one that comes to mind is she hires a teen to come watch her kids for part of the day (such as during the part of the day when she normally takes your kids on an outing, or during naptime's, or some other part of the day that addresses your concerns)

LOL! Now we are hiring nannies for the nannies children?!?!?!?! This board is absolutely outrageous. Not only do you want all the informality of being a nanny and the numerous perks, but you also want all the formality and perks of a real job (at least the ones that benefit you, but none of the ones that don't.) This board tries to raise nanny pay to astronomical levels, you want pay for days you don't even work, you want taxes withheld but want more pay to make up for the money lost to the government, you want weeks and weeks of paid vacation above and beyond what any normal job would get, you want carte blanche for sick days since "being around kids makes nannies sick", and on and on and on, and now you want the ridiculous perks of not only being able to bring your own children to work thus avoiding the costs of childcare that all other working parents must pay (even those making $8 an hour) but your BOSS MUST HIRE AND PAY A NANNY TO CARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN AT WORK?!?!?!

ARE. YOU. #%&$ING. KIDDING?

Most parents want the best childcare they can afford.
You may have other priorities.

A nanny bringing her own kids to a SHARE is not the best anyone can afford. At that point a daycare would be better with qualified and trained staff.

[Anonymous]

How did this not come up in the interview process?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much are you paying, how much do you like this nanny and what are your specific objections?

If you are paying a decent rate and not terribly fond of the nanny then cut and run. If you are getting a steal and/or are especially attached to this nanny then it might make sense to come up with some kind of compromise. The one that comes to mind is she hires a teen to come watch her kids for part of the day (such as during the part of the day when she normally takes your kids on an outing, or during naptime's, or some other part of the day that addresses your concerns)

LOL! Now we are hiring nannies for the nannies children?!?!?!?! This board is absolutely outrageous. Not only do you want all the informality of being a nanny and the numerous perks, but you also want all the formality and perks of a real job (at least the ones that benefit you, but none of the ones that don't.) This board tries to raise nanny pay to astronomical levels, you want pay for days you don't even work, you want taxes withheld but want more pay to make up for the money lost to the government, you want weeks and weeks of paid vacation above and beyond what any normal job would get, you want carte blanche for sick days since "being around kids makes nannies sick", and on and on and on, and now you want the ridiculous perks of not only being able to bring your own children to work thus avoiding the costs of childcare that all other working parents must pay (even those making $8 an hour) but your BOSS MUST HIRE AND PAY A NANNY TO CARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN AT WORK?!?!?!

ARE. YOU. #%&$ING. KIDDING?

Most parents want the best childcare they can afford.
You may have other priorities.

A nanny bringing her own kids to a SHARE is not the best anyone can afford. At that point a daycare would be better with qualified and trained staff.

Which daycare would that be, Einstein?