Nanny who does not feed the kid???

[Anonymous]

Good Morning All!

I recently hired a nanny for my ex. It is a court order that I do it. My ex has no parenting skills. Our son is 2 years old. The nanny is paid $20.oo per hour during the times dad has him.
I interviewed the nanny and it seems like a good fit. The nanny and the dad pick up 2 times per a week. I prepared the toddler bag that includes food. Everything is provided to the dad and the nanny to care for the child.
During the first two weeks my son did not eat any food. All the food, fruit and snacks were returned. The nanny informed us that my son did not eat. I also had to take my son to the doctor twice he was so week and had an infection. He is with the father more than five hours.
I spoke with the nanny about my son not eating. The same day when my son returned home she said he ate all of his food. The following week she admitted to me that she throw away the food to make it look like my son was eating . At this point I became concerned about my son’s health.
She has been with my son from March-present and my son does not eat with her. Most time he would not even drink water. All the food is returned. I have spoke to her and she said my son does not want to eat.
My son’s father has mental health issues and really is not involved in the caring aspect so he does not noticed these things.
I believe the nanny is only watching the kid and doing nothing.
Are there any suggestions how to handle this situation? thanks

[Anonymous]

OP sorry this is happening to you, is Dad not even able to monitor that his son is eating? I am a nanny and say by all means find a new nanny, any nanny especially an experienced one would be able to get a child fed. Do you know if your son is just getting junk food and not eating what you send and the nanny is just saying he is not eating. Either way fire this nanny ASAP, you and your son deserve better service. If you found this nanny through and agency, let them know about this.

[Anonymous]

My son is not eating any food at all. not even his snacks.
His father is not well and does not monitor the nanny.
I prepared organic food, a main dish, provided fruits, and then snacks. she has a variety of things to choose from.

I got her from DC urban mom.

thanks

[Anonymous]

As a parent, your main focus in life right now is to advocate for your child. No exceptions!

If your child's lack of nourishment is causing him to visit his M.D. then this is a huge issue.

Let the nanny go & tell her exactly W-H-Y.

This is a serious issue and she needs to understand that for future positions.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Is she not feeding him or is he refusing to eat?

If she's not feeding him, fire her immediately and find a better nanny.
If he's not eating, find out why, either replace the nanny or adjust the visitation schedule or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good Morning All!

I recently hired a nanny for my ex. It is a court order that I do it. My ex has no parenting skills. Our son is 2 years old. The nanny is paid $20.oo per hour during the times dad has him.
I interviewed the nanny and it seems like a good fit. The nanny and the dad pick up 2 times per a week. I prepared the toddler bag that includes food. Everything is provided to the dad and the nanny to care for the child.
During the first two weeks my son did not eat any food. All the food, fruit and snacks were returned. The nanny informed us that my son did not eat. I also had to take my son to the doctor twice he was so week and had an infection. He is with the father more than five hours.
I spoke with the nanny about my son not eating. The same day when my son returned home she said he ate all of his food. The following week she admitted to me that she throw away the food to make it look like my son was eating . At this point I became concerned about my son’s health.
She has been with my son from March-present and my son does not eat with her. Most time he would not even drink water. All the food is returned. I have spoke to her and she said my son does not want to eat.
My son’s father has mental health issues and really is not involved in the caring aspect so he does not noticed these things.
I believe the nanny is only watching the kid and doing nothing.
Are there any suggestions how to handle this situation? thanks

You need to discuss all this trauma with your child's pediatrician immediately, and have things documented.

[Anonymous]

Is he too stressed out to eat over there?

[Anonymous]

You can't really blame the nanny here. Should she force feed ?? Your son needs help.

[Anonymous]

This child is severely traumatized. Poor thing.

[Anonymous]

How is his appetite once he is back at your house?

I think I would have the nanny work at your home as well as the ex's house for a few weeks, so you can observe. Then you can figure out if it is the nanny or the environment over at Dad's house as to the reason he is not eating.

Poor sweetie!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This child is severely traumatized. Poor thing.

+1

[Anonymous]

The title of your post is misleading, OP. Your nanny is trying to feed your child but he won't eat.

[Anonymous]

You need to find out why your child won't eat. Can you observe him when he is at fathers? Maybe you need the feeding clinic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The title of your post is misleading, OP. Your nanny is trying to feed your child but he won't eat.

Bingo.

[Anonymous]

I have dealt with this as a nanny. You need to have her come to your house as well for a bit, so he can get used to her. Have her feed him at that time as well