Annual raise

[Anonymous]

How many of you get annual raises?

I've been with the same family for two years now.
Last year I got a raise around Christmas time, even though my one year anniversary was a few weeks later.
This year it seems like I didn't get a raise.
I know that MB loves me as the nanny. She calls me her lifesaver. I got a bonus (one week's pay) and gifts for Christmas. I'm the only nanny who stayed that long with them. The longest one I think was 6 months.
Things are great in general.

My MB is really distracted and forgetful. She often forgets about her meetings and then calls the last minute to ask if I can stay longer, she can't remember her kids' after school activities and what time they start - she starts driving home after work instead of meeting me in the after school activity place and then texts she will be a few min late because she forgot where she was going, etc.
I wonder if she simply forgot about the raise.

I know not all nannies get raises every year, but I always have, in every nanny job I stayed more than one year.
And she gave me one last year.

Is there a nice and non confrontational way to bring it up?
What would you do?

[Anonymous]

Ask for a review. That should trigger it.

[Anonymous]

I have not received a raise since I started with my NF years ago but from day 1 they have been paying me a salary leagues above what the nannies on this board strive to make so I have been more than happy and how no desire to rock the boat for a little more money. Couldn't be happier with my NF or salary.

[Anonymous]

MB here.

I would wait until your two year anniversary is near (sounds like that's within a few weeks right?)

Then ask if you can schedule a time to touch base. "As we are nearing my two year anniversary I just want to touch base about your overall thoughts on my performance, maybe setting some goals for this year for Janie, etc..."

Then if your employers don't discuss performance and raise you can bring it up directly at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here.

I would wait until your two year anniversary is near (sounds like that's within a few weeks right?)

Then ask if you can schedule a time to touch base. "As we are nearing my two year anniversary I just want to touch base about your overall thoughts on my performance, maybe setting some goals for this year for Janie, etc..."

Then if your employers don't discuss performance and raise you can bring it up directly at that point.

Is that what you do with your employer?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:MB here.

I would wait until your two year anniversary is near (sounds like that's within a few weeks right?)

Then ask if you can schedule a time to touch base. "As we are nearing my two year anniversary I just want to touch base about your overall thoughts on my performance, maybe setting some goals for this year for Janie, etc..."

Then if your employers don't discuss performance and raise you can bring it up directly at that point.

Is that what you do with your employer?

Essentially, yes.

[Anonymous]

Cost of living increases every year, especially rent in the DC area. Of course you should expect an annual raise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have not received a raise since I started with my NF years ago but from day 1 they have been paying me a salary leagues above what the nannies on this board strive to make so I have been more than happy and how no desire to rock the boat for a little more money. Couldn't be happier with my NF or salary.

How is this helpful to OP exactly?

[Anonymous]

If we gave our nanny a raise ($1/year) every year, she'd be making $22/hour now for 1 child who naps 2-3 hours/day. Is this really expected? We pay well and give a generous bonus. We've given one raise in the 3 years she's been with us. I'm in upper Nw and don't know anyone who pays that much for 1 child unless it's for a combo nanny/housekeeper/cook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If we gave our nanny a raise ($1/year) every year, she'd be making $22/hour now for 1 child who naps 2-3 hours/day. Is this really expected? We pay well and give a generous bonus. We've given one raise in the 3 years she's been with us. I'm in upper Nw and don't know anyone who pays that much for 1 child unless it's for a combo nanny/housekeeper/cook.

Do you want to keep a happy nanny or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have not received a raise since I started with my NF years ago but from day 1 they have been paying me a salary leagues above what the nannies on this board strive to make so I have been more than happy and how no desire to rock the boat for a little more money. Couldn't be happier with my NF or salary.

How is this helpful to OP exactly?

Because find a job that pays what you want and be happy from day 1 instead of hoping for a raise every year for 5 years to reach your desired salary. I would hope you can see how one os better than the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If we gave our nanny a raise ($1/year) every year, she'd be making $22/hour now for 1 child who naps 2-3 hours/day. Is this really expected? We pay well and give a generous bonus. We've given one raise in the 3 years she's been with us. I'm in upper Nw and don't know anyone who pays that much for 1 child unless it's for a combo nanny/housekeeper/cook.

Lucky nanny. Everybody else has to pay more for rent. Food, general COL exvepty our nanny. $22/hr is less than $46,000 a year. Cheapskate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have not received a raise since I started with my NF years ago but from day 1 they have been paying me a salary leagues above what the nannies on this board strive to make so I have been more than happy and how no desire to rock the boat for a little more money. Couldn't be happier with my NF or salary.

How is this helpful to OP exactly?

Because find a job that pays what you want and be happy from day 1 instead of hoping for a raise every year for 5 years to reach your desired salary. I would hope you can see how one os better than the other.

Or find a job and make sure that the contract includes yearly reviews and raises.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If we gave our nanny a raise ($1/year) every year, she'd be making $22/hour now for 1 child who naps 2-3 hours/day. Is this really expected? We pay well and give a generous bonus. We've given one raise in the 3 years she's been with us. I'm in upper Nw and don't know anyone who pays that much for 1 child unless it's for a combo nanny/housekeeper/cook.

Do you want to keep a happy nanny or not?

--says extortionist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If we gave our nanny a raise ($1/year) every year, she'd be making $22/hour now for 1 child who naps 2-3 hours/day. Is this really expected? We pay well and give a generous bonus. We've given one raise in the 3 years she's been with us. I'm in upper Nw and don't know anyone who pays that much for 1 child unless it's for a combo nanny/housekeeper/cook.

Do you want to keep a happy nanny or not?

--says extortionist.

Nope, realist here. 1. Nanny will be unhappy and need to be replaced. or 2. Nanny will quit thinking that you aren't happy with performance and she needs to quit before you fire her. Either way, the question stands.