When to quit....

[Anonymous]

I've been with my NF for almost three years. Info love my charge but for so many reasons I am not in love with this job. I acutely dread going in. They have been good to me but there is a lot of job creep and a lot issues. I feel like it's time to move on. So for the MB's out there would you be okay with a one-two month notice? I realize that finding a nanny can take time and I do want my charge to be prepared and not just have his whole world flipped upside down. I do know there is a chance they could just fire me but at least I can say I did the right thing. Any suggestions?

[Anonymous]

From an MB here. It does take time and we appreciate a month's notice. We have it in our contract that we have to give months notice or pay if we are terminating the agreement. So with us, if you gave notice, but ended up not needed you sooner than a month, we'd still have to pay. We ask for a month from our nanny too.


It takes longer than you think to find a good nanny.

[Anonymous]

Two months would be ideal if you want to keep a good reference. Even if you have to suck it up, it is always good to try to end on a good note.

[Anonymous]

Curious - what are the "issues" and "job creep"? I ask only because it is equally hard to find a good NF and you may be leaving only to find yourself in a worse position. Jobs are really hard to come by, especially these kinds of jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From an MB here. It does take time and we appreciate a month's notice. We have it in our contract that we have to give months notice or pay if we are terminating the agreement. So with us, if you gave notice, but ended up not needed you sooner than a month, we'd still have to pay. We ask for a month from our nanny too.


It takes longer than you think to find a good nanny.

. How come all human being can't think that way ?? I know why because they're running their own show on they don't care about others !!

[Anonymous]

MB here - what does your contract say? Also, at this age (assuming your charge is 3ish), it is fairly easy to find daycare opening or preschool. So one month may be OK, depending on your charge. Really the child is the one most affected.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a very considerate employee OP, and are keeping the child's best interest at heart.

Sure, they may find another nanny quicker than they thought and fire you, but at least you can know that you did the right thing.

You are more than giving them enough time to find another nanny to replace you.

Even just one month would suffice, but if you are more than willing to do two months, then that speaks very highly of your character.

[Anonymous]

Another MB here. Our contract with our nanny states one month notice from either party (barring misconduct.)

I think a month is generous, fair, and plenty of time for a family to at least line up interim care if a permanent nanny can't be found. The only caveat is if it's right over the holidays or around a family's vacation or some other thing that might make that full month more like just two weeks in terms of hiring.

Two months, if you can give that, is really lovely, incredibly professional and gracious. I also think it's unnecessary. You could frame it as giving them a month's notice, but you would consider staying another couple of weeks if the search is taking them longer than they expected, or their chosen candidate can't start right away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been with my NF for almost three years. Info love my charge but for so many reasons I am not in love with this job. I acutely dread going in. They have been good to me but there is a lot of job creep and a lot issues. I feel like it's time to move on. So for the MB's out there would you be okay with a one-two month notice? I realize that finding a nanny can take time and I do want my charge to be prepared and not just have his whole world flipped upside down. I do know there is a chance they could just fire me but at least I can say I did the right thing. Any suggestions?

OP, most likely the cretins you work for will fire you immediately. Give no,more notice than time you can live without a job. They would never give you a month's notice and you should not give a month's notice. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been with my NF for almost three years. Info love my charge but for so many reasons I am not in love with this job. I acutely dread going in. They have been good to me but there is a lot of job creep and a lot issues. I feel like it's time to move on. So for the MB's out there would you be okay with a one-two month notice? I realize that finding a nanny can take time and I do want my charge to be prepared and not just have his whole world flipped upside down. I do know there is a chance they could just fire me but at least I can say I did the right thing. Any suggestions?

OP, most likely the cretins you work for will fire you immediately. Give no,more notice than time you can live without a job. They would never give you a month's notice and you should not give a month's notice. Good luck.

Why do you instantly assume the worst? OP said they have been good to her but it's time to move on. You leap to "cretins" and assumptions about what they will do. Just because you had a bad experience doesn't mean everyone else will. OP sounds like she is handling this very professionally, which is very much to her credit. Your approach seems quite the opposite.

[Anonymous]

You can always hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.

Not every nanny can afford to be unemployed for weeks or months until she secures her next great job.

[Anonymous]

There was tremendous job creep. Good employers do not engage in job creep. They are cretins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two months would be ideal if you want to keep a good reference. Even if you have to suck it up, it is always good to try to end on a good note.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Two months would be ideal if you want to keep a good reference. Even if you have to suck it up, it is always good to try to end on a good note.

Yep. That's exactly how so many nannies get burned. You'd be surprised how ruthless these parents are. Most of them operate on "take advantage of whomever you can," sadly. We learned the hard way, because we thought they cared about their child... and those who care for their child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious - what are the "issues" and "job creep"? I ask only because it is equally hard to find a good NF and you may be leaving only to find yourself in a worse position. Jobs are really hard to come by, especially these kinds of jobs.

you think SO?