Would this bother you?

[Anonymous]

I'm so annoyed. Actually my feelings are hurt and after today I don't know if my relationship with my MB will be the same. We were chatting while I was cleaning up. I was telling her about one of the stay at home moms in my charge's music class. All the sudden she went off on this long tangent that it's not hard to raise a kid and that all stay at home moms are lazy. She also asked why I would want to take care of children because of how bored she was when she was on maternity leave. She even went back to work two weeks early. Then she proceeded to tell me uneducated people like to stay home because they can't do anything else. She also mentioned how she just doesn't respect the whole stay at home mom thing.. Um hello....I'm a nanny. That's all I do is raise your kid. I feel like she looks down on me because I'm a child care provider. I kind of felt slapped.

[Anonymous]

Of course she thinks you're dumb, but she's really the dumb one. Wow. Just wow.

[Anonymous]

That totally sucks OP! I'm sorry! I'm pretty sure this is how my MB feels but at least she has the grace to not say it to my face!

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. I would be searching for a new job asap. She doesn't even respect you . She sounds disgusting.

[Anonymous]

SAHM and a nanny are two very, very different things. I have my degree in ECD and was a preschool teacher - this is what I chose to do with my life. I do not do any cleaning or cooking except for my charge. I actually don't understand SAHM either - women who chose a different career and then gave it up to stay at home with their kids and clean the house?

[Anonymous]

My two cents- she is insecure.
You said she went back to work 2 weeks early, right? She needs to feel like stay at home is less than- and because she is more than, she went back to work.

I do not agree with you though. I think she does value the work you do- in fact she knows that she could not handle the task. She is envious/jealous.

I tell my nanny all the time that I wish I had her job! So I am a jealous MB- just in another way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SAHM and a nanny are two very, very different things. I have my degree in ECD and was a preschool teacher - this is what I chose to do with my life. I do not do any cleaning or cooking except for my charge. I actually don't understand SAHM either - women who chose a different career and then gave it up to stay at home with their kids and clean the house?

Unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

I would be peeved too, but at least now you can see her true colors. People like her are so transparent.

If she continues ranting like this, either change the subject or let her know that as her nanny, you feel personally offended by what she is saying.

Any person with common sense would lay off after that.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHM and a nanny are two very, very different things. I have my degree in ECD and was a preschool teacher - this is what I chose to do with my life. I do not do any cleaning or cooking except for my charge. I actually don't understand SAHM either - women who chose a different career and then gave it up to stay at home with their kids and clean the house?

Unbelievable.

This must be a joke. I'm a preschool teacher who stays at home now. I respect both sahm and wohm. You sound really dumb.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed. Actually my feelings are hurt and after today I don't know if my relationship with my MB will be the same. We were chatting while I was cleaning up. I was telling her about one of the stay at home moms in my charge's music class. All the sudden she went off on this long tangent that it's not hard to raise a kid and that all stay at home moms are lazy. She also asked why I would want to take care of children because of how bored she was when she was on maternity leave. She even went back to work two weeks early. Then she proceeded to tell me uneducated people like to stay home because they can't do anything else. She also mentioned how she just doesn't respect the whole stay at home mom thing.. Um hello....I'm a nanny. That's all I do is raise your kid. I feel like she looks down on me because I'm a child care provider. I kind of felt slapped.

My advice regardless of the situation or what was said is to-no matter how extremely awkward it is-bring up how you felt to your MB. She probably had no idea how insensitive she was being and is probably just insecure about herself. Explain that you felt disrespected. She will probably (hopefully) feel awful and apologize and explain. Don't let it fester, this is an important relationship and you don't want the tension to build up more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHM and a nanny are two very, very different things. I have my degree in ECD and was a preschool teacher - this is what I chose to do with my life. I do not do any cleaning or cooking except for my charge. I actually don't understand SAHM either - women who chose a different career and then gave it up to stay at home with their kids and clean the house?

Unbelievable.

This must be a joke. I'm a preschool teacher who stays at home now. I respect both sahm and wohm. You sound really dumb.

Not PP but anyone who writes, "You sound really dumb." is, herself, totally clueless. Did you really think that would help your cause, PP?

[Anonymous]

SAHM and career nanny are two very different things.

I have no idea why so many are getting so bend out of shape by this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My two cents- she is insecure.
You said she went back to work 2 weeks early, right? She needs to feel like stay at home is less than- and because she is more than, she went back to work.

I do not agree with you though. I think she does value the work you do- in fact she knows that she could not handle the task. She is envious/jealous.

I tell my nanny all the time that I wish I had her job! So I am a jealous MB- just in another way!

+1

I would just let it roll off your back. It is too bad that she did not have the foresight to see how it would sound to you.

I think she was talking to you like a friend, equal, not as a nanny. It is one of those foot in mouth situations.

Yes, we say things we regret sometimes. Just remember that she was not talking about you. Nanny is different from SAHM where you get paid to do all those things. Would it have made you feel better if she added "I would only be ever be SAHM if someone paid me for doing all this."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHM and a nanny are two very, very different things. I have my degree in ECD and was a preschool teacher - this is what I chose to do with my life. I do not do any cleaning or cooking except for my charge. I actually don't understand SAHM either - women who chose a different career and then gave it up to stay at home with their kids and clean the house?

Unbelievable.

This must be a joke. I'm a preschool teacher who stays at home now. I respect both sahm and wohm. You sound really dumb.

Not PP but anyone who writes, "You sound really dumb." is, herself, totally clueless. Did you really think that would help your cause, PP?

Many stay at home mom’s are well educated, myself included. For the most part, I think being a nanny is very similar to being a SAHM. In a world where most people don't respect nannying as a career I find your comment really shocking. But I know my self worth doesn’t come from money, the world, or anything else, but. from. God. period.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:SAHM and a nanny are two very, very different things. I have my degree in ECD and was a preschool teacher - this is what I chose to do with my life. I do not do any cleaning or cooking except for my charge. I actually don't understand SAHM either - women who chose a different career and then gave it up to stay at home with their kids and clean the house?

Unbelievable.

This must be a joke. I'm a preschool teacher who stays at home now. I respect both sahm and wohm. You sound really dumb.

Not PP but anyone who writes, "You sound really dumb." is, herself, totally clueless. Did you really think that would help your cause, PP?

Many stay at home mom’s are well educated, myself included. For the most part, I think being a nanny is very similar to being a SAHM. In a world where most people don't respect nannying as a career I find your comment really shocking. But I know my self worth doesn’t come from money, the world, or anything else, but. from. God. period.

Your self-worth comes from God? Not PP but very interested.

Aren't you the same poster who called the previous poster "really dumb"? How would God feel about that?