Nanny has a nickname she calls my son...

[Anonymous]

She started calling him this little name when he was an infant because of something he used to do. I never said anything about it at the time. Now, at 1.5 yrs she pretty much calls him this innocuous nickname all the time. It is like "Bear" or "Bug" (obviously neither of those). I don't like the nickname and I don't like that she has a special name for my son.

Is this my problem? Is there anything I should do about it or should I just get over it?

TIA

[Anonymous]

Build a bridge and get over it. You've hired someone who cares deeply enough about your child to have a nickname for him and has a special bond with him. If you can't handle that, quit your job and stay home with your kid.

[Anonymous]

Is it booger? Did he used to eat boogers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it booger? Did he used to eat boogers?

OP's kid is 18 months old. That would be quite a talent for an infant to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Build a bridge and get over it. You've hired someone who cares deeply enough about your child to have a nickname for him and has a special bond with him. If you can't handle that, quit your job and stay home with your kid.

+1 It is your problem, OP, and you are the one who needs to get over it. And I am an MB who wishes my kid's nanny cared enough about my kids to have a special nickname for them.

[Anonymous]

It is actually very psychologically helpful to your son. The nickname establishes a history and context for him to remember that this woman hired to care for him has a vested interest in him and fond memories beyond it being just her job. Very beneficial to a child.

Plus something like Bear or Bug is an adorable nickname.

[Anonymous]

Ask her to use his real name. She belongs to you, you are paying this woman, tell her what you want. If she can't comply then find a better nanny.

[Anonymous]

PP at 10:37 here - I am a nanny and, for the record, if an MB ever came to me over something as ridiculous as me calling her child an affectionate nickname, I'd be giving my notice ASAP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask her to use his real name. She belongs to you, you are paying this woman, tell her what you want. If she can't comply then find a better nanny.

You are either a troll or a ridiculous and petty little woman. I hope you are just a troll.


OP, my DS looked like Winston Churchill when he was a newborn and his nanny started calling him "Old Bean", which became "Beanie". I love it and think it is great that she has a special name for him. If anyone else tries to call him that he says, "No, only Nanny".

Loosen up, OP, it is a long haul. My parents agonized over my little brother's first name and by the time he was in high school everyone (including teachers) called him by a nickname (a shortened version of our last name).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her to use his real name. She belongs to you, you are paying this woman, tell her what you want. If she can't comply then find a better nanny.

You are either a troll or a ridiculous and petty little woman. I hope you are just a troll.


OP, my DS looked like Winston Churchill when he was a newborn and his nanny started calling him "Old Bean", which became "Beanie". I love it and think it is great that she has a special name for him. If anyone else tries to call him that he says, "No, only Nanny".

Loosen up, OP, it is a long haul. My parents agonized over my little brother's first name and by the time he was in high school everyone (including teachers) called him by a nickname (a shortened version of our last name).

Neither dear, I've employed nannies for over 9 years for my 3 kids. I just know how things work. You will never be happy if you wait for a perfect nanny. You have to be the boss and direct them.

[Anonymous]

You don't deserve such a caring and affectionate nanny!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask her to use his real name. She belongs to you, you are paying this woman, tell her what you want. If she can't comply then find a better nanny.

Is this still 2015??? Your attitude is scary as hell. I hope you're a troll. If you're not, you have no business employing someone, let alone procreating.

[Anonymous]

OP, think of it this way. This woman has wiped his butt, bathed him, rocked him to sleep, sang to him, wiped his tears and kissed his boo boos. She's earned the right to care about him, and if that means a special nickname, so be it. Thank your lucky stars that THIS is your big problem with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask her to use his real name. She belongs to you, you are paying this woman, tell her what you want. If she can't comply then find a better nanny.

You are either a troll or a ridiculous and petty little woman. I hope you are just a troll.


OP, my DS looked like Winston Churchill when he was a newborn and his nanny started calling him "Old Bean", which became "Beanie". I love it and think it is great that she has a special name for him. If anyone else tries to call him that he says, "No, only Nanny".

Loosen up, OP, it is a long haul. My parents agonized over my little brother's first name and by the time he was in high school everyone (including teachers) called him by a nickname (a shortened version of our last name).

Neither dear, I've employed nannies for over 9 years for my 3 kids. I just know how things work. You will never be happy if you wait for a perfect nanny. You have to be the boss and direct them.

No, Dear, PP was right - you are a petty little woman. I employ our nanny but have never needed to be the boss and would never hire anyone I needed to "direct". She knows what she is doing.

As for the nickname, OP, I think it is adorable!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't deserve such a caring and affectionate nanny!

+1