Nanny has a nickname she calls my son...

[Anonymous]

Our nanny has a special nickname for each of our kids. I absolutely do NOT have a problem with it and cannot even think of a reason why I possibly would have a problem with it.


I swear to God, I have never encountered women like those on this forum in real life. I have never even thought of some of the nonsensical "issues" they have with their nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She started calling him this little name when he was an infant because of something he used to do. I never said anything about it at the time. Now, at 1.5 yrs she pretty much calls him this innocuous nickname all the time. It is like "Bear" or "Bug" (obviously neither of those). I don't like the nickname and I don't like that she has a special name for my son.

Is this my problem? Is there anything I should do about it or should I just get over it?

TIA

Two separate issues.
1) you don't like the nickname. If that's the case, you should have asked her to stop calling your son the nickname a long time ago.
2) you don't like that she has a special name for your son. Sounds like you're jealous of their bond.

If you don't like that particular nickname, ask her to pick a different one. If you don't want her to use any nicknames....that's a whole different ballgame.
Personally, I prefer to use nicknames when out in public so strangers don't know my kid's name. It's the same reason I don't want their names on school bags.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She started calling him this little name when he was an infant because of something he used to do. I never said anything about it at the time. Now, at 1.5 yrs she pretty much calls him this innocuous nickname all the time. It is like "Bear" or "Bug" (obviously neither of those). I don't like the nickname and I don't like that she has a special name for my son.

Is this my problem? Is there anything I should do about it or should I just get over it?

TIA

Two separate issues.
1) you don't like the nickname. If that's the case, you should have asked her to stop calling your son the nickname a long time ago.
2) you don't like that she has a special name for your son. Sounds like you're jealous of their bond.

If you don't like that particular nickname, ask her to pick a different one. If you don't want her to use any nicknames....that's a whole different ballgame.
Personally, I prefer to use nicknames when out in public so strangers don't know my kid's name. It's the same reason I don't want their names on school bags.

lol why? I always wonder why I wanted to move to America from my country, you people are crazy.

[Anonymous]

Unless the nickname is Snotty, Boogers, Poopy Head, or Pissy, you likely need to move past your own insecurities and try to be glad your nanny has a bond with your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She started calling him this little name when he was an infant because of something he used to do. I never said anything about it at the time. Now, at 1.5 yrs she pretty much calls him this innocuous nickname all the time. It is like "Bear" or "Bug" (obviously neither of those). I don't like the nickname and I don't like that she has a special name for my son.

Is this my problem? Is there anything I should do about it or should I just get over it?

TIA

Perhaps you might work on your own parenting skills, and leave the nanny alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless the nickname is Snotty, Boogers, Poopy Head, or Pissy, you likely need to move past your own insecurities and try to be glad your nanny has a bond with your child.

Another long-time nanny employer here. I understand your feelings (irritation, jealousy, insecurity) OP, because I also felt them as a new mother. Trust me on this: you want your nanny to forge a close and loving relationship with your child. It will NOT take away from your bond with your son but, instead, make your child feel more secure when you are not with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She started calling him this little name when he was an infant because of something he used to do. I never said anything about it at the time. Now, at 1.5 yrs she pretty much calls him this innocuous nickname all the time. It is like "Bear" or "Bug" (obviously neither of those). I don't like the nickname and I don't like that she has a special name for my son.

Is this my problem? Is there anything I should do about it or should I just get over it?

TIA

Perhaps you might work on your own parenting skills, and leave the nanny alone.

OP asked for advice so that she would not act inappropriately. She thanked us in advance for our help. No need to jump all over her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless the nickname is Snotty, Boogers, Poopy Head, or Pissy, you likely need to move past your own insecurities and try to be glad your nanny has a bond with your child.

Another long-time nanny employer here. I understand your feelings (irritation, jealousy, insecurity) OP, because I also felt them as a new mother. Trust me on this: you want your nanny to forge a close and loving relationship with your child. It will NOT take away from your bond with your son but, instead, make your child feel more secure when you are not with him.

This. 100%. Always think of what is in the best interest of your children - and a loving and dedicated nanny is in their best interest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She started calling him this little name when he was an infant because of something he used to do. I never said anything about it at the time. Now, at 1.5 yrs she pretty much calls him this innocuous nickname all the time. It is like "Bear" or "Bug" (obviously neither of those). I don't like the nickname and I don't like that she has a special name for my son.

Is this my problem? Is there anything I should do about it or should I just get over it?

TIA[/quotte]

You are jealous of the close relationship between your nanny and your child. Instead, you should be grateful for this closeness because your child is the beneficiary. You will look like the pathetic idiot you are if you tell her yo w uit using het name for him.

[Anonymous]

We named our son Joshua, and many people call him josh. I hate joshie, something about it irritates me, and DH feels it's too cutesy for a boy. When I heard our nanny call him that I just told her we're fine with either joshua or josh but please not joshie, that neither of us like how that sounds. She said "oh, okay sorry," and we all moved on with life. She calls him Josh or J-Man which is fine with us.

She didn't quit, nobody is bitter, she's been with us four years. If you don't like something, just ask that your nanny stops and if possible offer alternatives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless the nickname is Snotty, Boogers, Poopy Head, or Pissy, you likely need to move past your own insecurities and try to be glad your nanny has a bond with your child.

Another long-time nanny employer here. I understand your feelings (irritation, jealousy, insecurity) OP, because I also felt them as a new mother. Trust me on this: you want your nanny to forge a close and loving relationship with your child. It will NOT take away from your bond with your son but, instead, make your child feel more secure when you are not with him.

This. 100%. Always think of what is in the best interest of your children - and a loving and dedicated nanny is in their best interest.

Yes, brilliant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We named our son Joshua, and many people call him josh. I hate joshie, something about it irritates me, and DH feels it's too cutesy for a boy. When I heard our nanny call him that I just told her we're fine with either joshua or josh but please not joshie, that neither of us like how that sounds. She said "oh, okay sorry," and we all moved on with life. She calls him Josh or J-Man which is fine with us.

She didn't quit, nobody is bitter, she's been with us four years. If you don't like something, just ask that your nanny stops and if possible offer alternatives.

You do understand that yours in a completely different situation, don't you? OP's nanny has a name completely unrelated to the charge's actual name and is a nickname from something he did or looked like when he was a newborn. Only she calls him that name. Would you really have a problem if your nanny called your Joshua "Bear" and had been calling him that for over a year?

Also understand that you will have NO control over what other kids call your son at school or what he decides to call himself. We named our DD Rose and both DH and I didn't care for Rosie. So what does DD start calling herself at four? Rosie.

OP is having trouble with the closeness between her child and the nanny -- I doubt this has anything to do with the actual name or OP would have said something about it a year ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We named our son Joshua, and many people call him josh. I hate joshie, something about it irritates me, and DH feels it's too cutesy for a boy. When I heard our nanny call him that I just told her we're fine with either joshua or josh but please not joshie, that neither of us like how that sounds. She said "oh, okay sorry," and we all moved on with life. She calls him Josh or J-Man which is fine with us.

She didn't quit, nobody is bitter, she's been with us four years. If you don't like something, just ask that your nanny stops and if possible offer alternatives.

You do understand that yours in a completely different situation, don't you? OP's nanny has a name completely unrelated to the charge's actual name and is a nickname from something he did or looked like when he was a newborn. Only she calls him that name. Would you really have a problem if your nanny called your Joshua "Bear" and had been calling him that for over a year?

Also understand that you will have NO control over what other kids call your son at school or what he decides to call himself. We named our DD Rose and both DH and I didn't care for Rosie. So what does DD start calling herself at four? Rosie.

OP is having trouble with the closeness between her child and the nanny -- I doubt this has anything to do with the actual name or OP would have said something about it a year ago.

It's not different at all. If Joshie's nanny started calling him "Bear" and the mom didn't like it she could ask her to stop that one also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, think of it this way. This woman has wiped his butt, bathed him, rocked him to sleep, sang to him, wiped his tears and kissed his boo boos. She's earned the right to care about him, and if that means a special nickname, so be it. Thank your lucky stars that THIS is your big problem with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We named our son Joshua, and many people call him josh. I hate joshie, something about it irritates me, and DH feels it's too cutesy for a boy. When I heard our nanny call him that I just told her we're fine with either joshua or josh but please not joshie, that neither of us like how that sounds. She said "oh, okay sorry," and we all moved on with life. She calls him Josh or J-Man which is fine with us.

She didn't quit, nobody is bitter, she's been with us four years. If you don't like something, just ask that your nanny stops and if possible offer alternatives.

You do understand that yours in a completely different situation, don't you? OP's nanny has a name completely unrelated to the charge's actual name and is a nickname from something he did or looked like when he was a newborn. Only she calls him that name. Would you really have a problem if your nanny called your Joshua "Bear" and had been calling him that for over a year?

Also understand that you will have NO control over what other kids call your son at school or what he decides to call himself. We named our DD Rose and both DH and I didn't care for Rosie. So what does DD start calling herself at four? Rosie.

OP is having trouble with the closeness between her child and the nanny -- I doubt this has anything to do with the actual name or OP would have said something about it a year ago.

It's not different at all. If Joshie's nanny started calling him "Bear" and the mom didn't like it she could ask her to stop that one also.

It is different. And, it's too late. If you don't like a nickname, you need to ask her to stop before it becomes a real term of endearment, and a habit.