Nanny has a nickname she calls my son...

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Anonymous wrote:Ask her to use his real name. She belongs to you, you are paying this woman, tell her what you want. If she can't comply then find a better nanny.

Is this still 2015??? Your attitude is scary as hell. I hope you're a troll. If you're not, you have no business employing someone, let alone procreating.

+ 1,000. Humans like you make me sick.

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Anonymous wrote:We named our son Joshua, and many people call him josh. I hate joshie, something about it irritates me, and DH feels it's too cutesy for a boy. When I heard our nanny call him that I just told her we're fine with either joshua or josh but please not joshie, that neither of us like how that sounds. She said "oh, okay sorry," and we all moved on with life. She calls him Josh or J-Man which is fine with us.

She didn't quit, nobody is bitter, she's been with us four years. If you don't like something, just ask that your nanny stops and if possible offer alternatives.

You do understand that yours in a completely different situation, don't you? OP's nanny has a name completely unrelated to the charge's actual name and is a nickname from something he did or looked like when he was a newborn. Only she calls him that name. Would you really have a problem if your nanny called your Joshua "Bear" and had been calling him that for over a year?

Also understand that you will have NO control over what other kids call your son at school or what he decides to call himself. We named our DD Rose and both DH and I didn't care for Rosie. So what does DD start calling herself at four? Rosie.

OP is having trouble with the closeness between her child and the nanny -- I doubt this has anything to do with the actual name or OP would have said something about it a year ago.

It's not different at all. If Joshie's nanny started calling him "Bear" and the mom didn't like it she could ask her to stop that one also.

It is different. And, it's too late. If you don't like a nickname, you need to ask her to stop before it becomes a real term of endearment, and a habit.

NP here and I see the vast difference and the real issue here. OP didn't have a problem with the nanny's nickname until recently... What happened? My guess is that little Bear is clearly very close to his nanny now that he is more mobile and expressive about it and that is what bothers OP. It is hard to see a newborn's attachment to his nanny but very easy to see a 1.5 year old's attachment.

You should let it go, OP. And be happy. I see so many nannies who ignore their charges and do the bare minimum. They wouldn't come up with a term of endearment because they simply don't care enough.

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Anonymous wrote:We named our son Joshua, and many people call him josh. I hate joshie, something about it irritates me, and DH feels it's too cutesy for a boy. When I heard our nanny call him that I just told her we're fine with either joshua or josh but please not joshie, that neither of us like how that sounds. She said "oh, okay sorry," and we all moved on with life. She calls him Josh or J-Man which is fine with us.

She didn't quit, nobody is bitter, she's been with us four years. If you don't like something, just ask that your nanny stops and if possible offer alternatives.

You do understand that yours in a completely different situation, don't you? OP's nanny has a name completely unrelated to the charge's actual name and is a nickname from something he did or looked like when he was a newborn. Only she calls him that name. Would you really have a problem if your nanny called your Joshua "Bear" and had been calling him that for over a year?

Also understand that you will have NO control over what other kids call your son at school or what he decides to call himself. We named our DD Rose and both DH and I didn't care for Rosie. So what does DD start calling herself at four? Rosie.

OP is having trouble with the closeness between her child and the nanny -- I doubt this has anything to do with the actual name or OP would have said something about it a year ago.

It's not different at all. If Joshie's nanny started calling him "Bear" and the mom didn't like it she could ask her to stop that one also.

It is different. And, it's too late. If you don't like a nickname, you need to ask her to stop before it becomes a real term of endearment, and a habit.

NP here and I see the vast difference and the real issue here. OP didn't have a problem with the nanny's nickname until recently... What happened? My guess is that little Bear is clearly very close to his nanny now that he is more mobile and expressive about it and that is what bothers OP. It is hard to see a newborn's attachment to his nanny but very easy to see a 1.5 year old's attachment.

You should let it go, OP. And be happy. I see so many nannies who ignore their charges and do the bare minimum. They wouldn't come up with a term of endearment because they simply don't care enough.

Why doe everything have to turn into a competition with nannies and this or that meaning someone is a more devoted nanny? Some nannies do nicknames some do not . A nick name is not a measure of how devoted a nanny is.

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I have a nickname for my charge that I'm certain MB does not like. But, I really don't care. That nickname, something cute, is what stops me from saying 'little f-er' when DC kicks me during a tantrum or locks herself in the bathroom forcing me to call MBA because the lock can't be picked from the outside. The fact that DC really is my little love bug, for example, 99% of the time also makes the name stick for me. MB can get over it.

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Mom and nanny, here. As pp's have said, if you don't like a particular nickname, you're well within your rights to ask the nanny to stop. The fact that you don't want the nanny to have an innocuous pet name for your son is upsetting to me. Yes, you're the parent and you named him. So? Your nanny is an important person in his life, and he in hers. Asking her not to have any endearments for him is petty and disrespectful.

Several years ago, I worked for possibly the best MB in the world. I called her little boy a diminutive of his given name, and also, an absolutely ridiculous nickname based on something he'd done. One day, the little boy's sister complained "Why does she call him those things? We don't call him that!"

I would have immediately stopped with the nicknames, if MB has wanted. MB was so sweet, though. She explained to her daughter, "Those are her 'love names' for him." So, instead of being upset, the girl wanted her own "love name," which she got.

Chill out, and be glad your nanny is fond of your kid, OP.

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I don't have a nickname for my charge. I am not crazy about him or his parents and am looking for another job.

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I've given all the children I've been blessed to work with nicknames. From "empress" to "lovebug". No parent has complained in 15 years. Reading some of these posts makes me appreciate my former employers even more.

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Anonymous wrote:I've given all the children I've been blessed to work with nicknames. From "empress" to "lovebug". No parent has complained in 15 years. Reading some of these posts makes me appreciate my former employers even more.

If I heard you call my DD empress or even princess I would fire you without discussion.

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Anonymous wrote:She started calling him this little name when he was an infant because of something he used to do. I never said anything about it at the time. Now, at 1.5 yrs she pretty much calls him this innocuous nickname all the time. It is like "Bear" or "Bug" (obviously neither of those). I don't like the nickname and I don't like that she has a special name for my son.

Is this my problem? Is there anything I should do about it or should I just get over it?

TIA

Two separate issues.
1) you don't like the nickname. If that's the case, you should have asked her to stop calling your son the nickname a long time ago.
2) you don't like that she has a special name for your son. Sounds like you're jealous of their bond.

If you don't like that particular nickname, ask her to pick a different one. If you don't want her to use any nicknames....that's a whole different ballgame.
Personally, I prefer to use nicknames when out in public so strangers don't know my kid's name. It's the same reason I don't want their names on school bags.

lol why? I always wonder why I wanted to move to America from my country, you people are crazy.

Of course you would focus on that part. Obnoxious.

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Anonymous wrote:I've given all the children I've been blessed to work with nicknames. From "empress" to "lovebug". No parent has complained in 15 years. Reading some of these posts makes me appreciate my former employers even more.

If I heard you call my DD empress or even princess I would fire you without discussion.

A. How could you be so horrible to a nanny that obviously loves your children.
B. Who are you? You post a lot of remarks like this. You're like the angriest MB on earth.

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Anonymous wrote:I've given all the children I've been blessed to work with nicknames. From "empress" to "lovebug". No parent has complained in 15 years. Reading some of these posts makes me appreciate my former employers even more.

If I heard you call my DD empress or even princess I would fire you without discussion.

A. How could you be so horrible to a nanny that obviously loves your children.
B. Who are you? You post a lot of remarks like this. You're like the angriest MB on earth.

There are always the "I would fire the nanny immediately" comments. So childish and ridiculous. The working mother needs the nanny for childcare or she can't go to work and the SAH MB needs the nanny because she can't handle her own kids. No one is going to be fired. But it makes the posters feel like they have power when they write it. It is sad and pathetic when you think about it.

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If this is the worst thing you have to say about your nanny OP, then congrats to you.

Seems like you won the lotto on the perfect nanny.

I have a nickname for my charge(s) and it is more quirky than what your nanny has.

It's all par for the course. Giving a youngster a unique nickname is a term of endearment.

Not a deal-breaker like you are painting it out to be.

I feel sorry for your son.

You do not sound like a very good parent if you actually are offended if someone else calls your child an affectionate moniker.

Seems like you care more about yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I've given all the children I've been blessed to work with nicknames. From "empress" to "lovebug". No parent has complained in 15 years. Reading some of these posts makes me appreciate my former employers even more.

If I heard you call my DD empress or even princess I would fire you without discussion.

A. How could you be so horrible to a nanny that obviously loves your children.
B. Who are you? You post a lot of remarks like this. You're like the angriest MB on earth.

There are always the "I would fire the nanny immediately" comments. So childish and ridiculous. The working mother needs the nanny for childcare or she can't go to work and the SAH MB needs the nanny because she can't handle her own kids. No one is going to be fired. But it makes the posters feel like they have power when they write it. It is sad and pathetic when you think about it.

I have a feeling it is the same troll - the chick who has never been a nanny and never employed a nanny. No working mother is going to cut off her nose to spite her face for something so ridiculous as a nickname.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't have a nickname for my charge. I am not crazy about him or his parents and am looking for another job.

+ 1 I don't have a nickname for my charge. I do have several nicknames for my MB that I always use in private -- none of them nice.

I'm looking for another job too.

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Anonymous wrote:I've given all the children I've been blessed to work with nicknames. From "empress" to "lovebug". No parent has complained in 15 years. Reading some of these posts makes me appreciate my former employers even more.

If I heard you call my DD empress or even princess I would fire you without discussion.

A. How could you be so horrible to a nanny that obviously loves your children.
B. Who are you? You post a lot of remarks like this. You're like the angriest MB on earth.

There are always the "I would fire the nanny immediately" comments. So childish and ridiculous. The working mother needs the nanny for childcare or she can't go to work and the SAH MB needs the nanny because she can't handle her own kids. No one is going to be fired. But it makes the posters feel like they have power when they write it. It is sad and pathetic when you think about it.

I have a feeling it is the same troll - the chick who has never been a nanny and never employed a nanny. No working mother is going to cut off her nose to spite her face for something so ridiculous as a nickname.

NP, but some people who are paying their nannies really well feel entitled to some certain level of quality childcare and a certain level of "exactly what I want." I mean if you are paying your nanny $12 an hour like most of the posters on this board I can see kind of catering to them and trying to keep them happy in other ways. While I might not fire my nanny immediately as that previous post suggests, with the rate I am paying if I see something I don't like or want changed, even hypothetically what nanny is calling DC, then I will request she change and if she can't I will happily move on to someone better. It's really not hard to find a nanny when you are paying well over $20 an hour.