Snow day etiquette

[Anonymous]

For nannies who are expected to work even when the federal government is closed, because parents must work or telework, how do you handle the delicate issue of etiquette? For example, if you employer has to telework but does not have any important deliverables, would it not be considerate of them to offer you a day off during a snow storm? Or, if they do have a critical meeting or project, might it be good to offer you a safe passage home by covering the costs of a cab? Otherwise, what is the point of you going out of your way to trek in dangerous weather to support the family? I realize none of those things are mandatory but it seems callous to completely disregard the safety of the person who you are asking to take such a significant risk to support your family.

For my part, I feel that a nanny should make every effort to arrive to work if they can feasibly do so. So, I am willing to climb through a snow storm, I just want to get as good as I give!

[Anonymous]

For me my safety comes first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me my safety comes first.

I agree with you 100000%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me my safety comes first.

I agree with you.

[Anonymous]

I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

This.

The schools and gov shut down last week due to freezing rain and ice storms(Atl area) last week. I keep up with the weather to accurately plan my travel. The first day I made every attempt and made it there by 9(hr behind) the next day mb texts me that if I need to come late it's ok. I explained to her that the weather and roads would be clear that a.m. But the storm was starting at 1:30/2 so I would need to leave early. Mind you the day before db, an attorney didn't even go downtown for work because his firm closed and mb works from home. So she seemed salty I would want to get out before it got bad out. But my safety comes first and I had a bad experience last year trapped in the ice.

So I arrive at my start time and her parents are in town for my charges bday. He's turning 1. Mb tells me scheduled a photo session for him across town that afternoon and we would all be going! I remind her of the weather & she insists it will only began as rain. We end leaving an hour late and on top of that she suggests I follow them 20 miles in my own car so the grandparents can ride with the kids, and says that way I can leave early from there. Granted this is further from home than my job but I'd never been before. We are there taking pictures until it's sleeting and snowing and the granddad tells me that they're there and I should probably go do what I need before it gets bad. Mb had a major attitude and seemed upset I left. Even the mayor requested employees be sent home between 2-4 so roads could be salted. I left at 2:30. Come pay day she had deducted every hour I was not able to work when it stormed and even underpaid me by "mistake". She also said the gas reimbursement didn't apply because I wasn't driving her kids and because I wanted to leave early so it was my decision to go early.

learned that next time I stay home and that my safety is no concern of hers whatsoever. I'm just another bill to pay sadly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

Similarly it was clear I would could safely get to work this morning but depending on the plows and actual amount of snow I wasn't sure I could get home.
We talked at 7am and DB has already driven downtown to work and MB wanted to work from the office 8-12 noon and then from home. They had serious work to do so I came in and they will drive me home later or I will stay over.

Other times when it is truly bad they tell me to take a snow day. That is if they can both work from home, don't have serious work or deadlines or can switch off watching the children.

They are not in the federal government and frankly half the snow days this season were nonsense, the other half were more legit. We usually talk in the morning before I was to leave and assess the situation and forecast. It is often less about the forecast and more about can I drive in alright- the roads are already cleared, or are at 11am, - and what's the plan for if things get worse and the roads aren't treated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

This.

The schools and gov shut down last week due to freezing rain and ice storms(Atl area) last week. I keep up with the weather to accurately plan my travel. The first day I made every attempt and made it there by 9(hr behind) the next day mb texts me that if I need to come late it's ok. I explained to her that the weather and roads would be clear that a.m. But the storm was starting at 1:30/2 so I would need to leave early. Mind you the day before db, an attorney didn't even go downtown for work because his firm closed and mb works from home. So she seemed salty I would want to get out before it got bad out. But my safety comes first and I had a bad experience last year trapped in the ice.

So I arrive at my start time and her parents are in town for my charges bday. He's turning 1. Mb tells me scheduled a photo session for him across town that afternoon and we would all be going! I remind her of the weather & she insists it will only began as rain. We end leaving an hour late and on top of that she suggests I follow them 20 miles in my own car so the grandparents can ride with the kids, and says that way I can leave early from there. Granted this is further from home than my job but I'd never been before. We are there taking pictures until it's sleeting and snowing and the granddad tells me that they're there and I should probably go do what I need before it gets bad. Mb had a major attitude and seemed upset I left. Even the mayor requested employees be sent home between 2-4 so roads could be salted. I left at 2:30. Come pay day she had deducted every hour I was not able to work when it stormed and even underpaid me by "mistake". She also said the gas reimbursement didn't apply because I wasn't driving her kids and because I wanted to leave early so it was my decision to go early.

learned that next time I stay home and that my safety is no concern of hers whatsoever. I'm just another bill to pay sadly.

Actually, sounds like you all had a productive and safe "snow day" out!
Maybe your bosses are from the half of the world that knows how to drive in the snow or rain.

[Anonymous]

It's different for us since we have a live-in, so no commute or safety issues as such, but I try to pass on at least some of the perks - hours are shorter that day since there's no commute for me. So nanny gets to sleep in a bit and get off a bit early. She's also off for lunch since we have it with the kids. It's not much, I know, but it's what I get as a perk for the day and so does she.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

This.

The schools and gov shut down last week due to freezing rain and ice storms(Atl area) last week. I keep up with the weather to accurately plan my travel. The first day I made every attempt and made it there by 9(hr behind) the next day mb texts me that if I need to come late it's ok. I explained to her that the weather and roads would be clear that a.m. But the storm was starting at 1:30/2 so I would need to leave early. Mind you the day before db, an attorney didn't even go downtown for work because his firm closed and mb works from home. So she seemed salty I would want to get out before it got bad out. But my safety comes first and I had a bad experience last year trapped in the ice.

So I arrive at my start time and her parents are in town for my charges bday. He's turning 1. Mb tells me scheduled a photo session for him across town that afternoon and we would all be going! I remind her of the weather & she insists it will only began as rain. We end leaving an hour late and on top of that she suggests I follow them 20 miles in my own car so the grandparents can ride with the kids, and says that way I can leave early from there. Granted this is further from home than my job but I'd never been before. We are there taking pictures until it's sleeting and snowing and the granddad tells me that they're there and I should probably go do what I need before it gets bad. Mb had a major attitude and seemed upset I left. Even the mayor requested employees be sent home between 2-4 so roads could be salted. I left at 2:30. Come pay day she had deducted every hour I was not able to work when it stormed and even underpaid me by "mistake". She also said the gas reimbursement didn't apply because I wasn't driving her kids and because I wanted to leave early so it was my decision to go early.

learned that next time I stay home and that my safety is no concern of hers whatsoever. I'm just another bill to pay sadly.

Actually, sounds like you all had a productive and safe "snow day" out!
Maybe your bosses are from the half of the world that knows how to drive in the snow or rain.

Yes because I LEFT. It was horrible within an hour. Mb wanted me to stay till the evening. And if you know so much about driving on snow then you know there is a difference between driving on simply snow and black ice, which is what we had. But thanks anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

This.

The schools and gov shut down last week due to freezing rain and ice storms(Atl area) last week. I keep up with the weather to accurately plan my travel. The first day I made every attempt and made it there by 9(hr behind) the next day mb texts me that if I need to come late it's ok. I explained to her that the weather and roads would be clear that a.m. But the storm was starting at 1:30/2 so I would need to leave early. Mind you the day before db, an attorney didn't even go downtown for work because his firm closed and mb works from home. So she seemed salty I would want to get out before it got bad out. But my safety comes first and I had a bad experience last year trapped in the ice.

So I arrive at my start time and her parents are in town for my charges bday. He's turning 1. Mb tells me scheduled a photo session for him across town that afternoon and we would all be going! I remind her of the weather & she insists it will only began as rain. We end leaving an hour late and on top of that she suggests I follow them 20 miles in my own car so the grandparents can ride with the kids, and says that way I can leave early from there. Granted this is further from home than my job but I'd never been before. We are there taking pictures until it's sleeting and snowing and the granddad tells me that they're there and I should probably go do what I need before it gets bad. Mb had a major attitude and seemed upset I left. Even the mayor requested employees be sent home between 2-4 so roads could be salted. I left at 2:30. Come pay day she had deducted every hour I was not able to work when it stormed and even underpaid me by "mistake". She also said the gas reimbursement didn't apply because I wasn't driving her kids and because I wanted to leave early so it was my decision to go early.

learned that next time I stay home and that my safety is no concern of hers whatsoever. I'm just another bill to pay sadly.

Actually, sounds like you all had a productive and safe "snow day" out!
Maybe your bosses are from the half of the world that knows how to drive in the snow or rain.

Too bad that half of the world lives in Fantasyland. The other half lives in the real world where when the government and schools are closed due to unsafe driving conditions, anyone who isn't essential personnel stays off the roads. PS-attorneys are not essential personnel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

If I were you, I'd start looking for a new job
Ungrateful cretins.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

This.

The schools and gov shut down last week due to freezing rain and ice storms(Atl area) last week. I keep up with the weather to accurately plan my travel. The first day I made every attempt and made it there by 9(hr behind) the next day mb texts me that if I need to come late it's ok. I explained to her that the weather and roads would be clear that a.m. But the storm was starting at 1:30/2 so I would need to leave early. Mind you the day before db, an attorney didn't even go downtown for work because his firm closed and mb works from home. So she seemed salty I would want to get out before it got bad out. But my safety comes first and I had a bad experience last year trapped in the ice.

So I arrive at my start time and her parents are in town for my charges bday. He's turning 1. Mb tells me scheduled a photo session for him across town that afternoon and we would all be going! I remind her of the weather & she insists it will only began as rain. We end leaving an hour late and on top of that she suggests I follow them 20 miles in my own car so the grandparents can ride with the kids, and says that way I can leave early from there. Granted this is further from home than my job but I'd never been before. We are there taking pictures until it's sleeting and snowing and the granddad tells me that they're there and I should probably go do what I need before it gets bad. Mb had a major attitude and seemed upset I left. Even the mayor requested employees be sent home between 2-4 so roads could be salted. I left at 2:30. Come pay day she had deducted every hour I was not able to work when it stormed and even underpaid me by "mistake". She also said the gas reimbursement didn't apply because I wasn't driving her kids and because I wanted to leave early so it was my decision to go early.

learned that next time I stay home and that my safety is no concern of hers whatsoever. I'm just another bill to pay sadly.

This is unreal. So your db is an attorney and was able to stay off of work due to bad conditions out, yet they still insisted you drive in? Doesn't make any sense to me. You should find a better family, especially if they Nicole and dime you this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

This.

The schools and gov shut down last week due to freezing rain and ice storms(Atl area) last week. I keep up with the weather to accurately plan my travel. The first day I made every attempt and made it there by 9(hr behind) the next day mb texts me that if I need to come late it's ok. I explained to her that the weather and roads would be clear that a.m. But the storm was starting at 1:30/2 so I would need to leave early. Mind you the day before db, an attorney didn't even go downtown for work because his firm closed and mb works from home. So she seemed salty I would want to get out before it got bad out. But my safety comes first and I had a bad experience last year trapped in the ice.

So I arrive at my start time and her parents are in town for my charges bday. He's turning 1. Mb tells me scheduled a photo session for him across town that afternoon and we would all be going! I remind her of the weather & she insists it will only began as rain. We end leaving an hour late and on top of that she suggests I follow them 20 miles in my own car so the grandparents can ride with the kids, and says that way I can leave early from there. Granted this is further from home than my job but I'd never been before. We are there taking pictures until it's sleeting and snowing and the granddad tells me that they're there and I should probably go do what I need before it gets bad. Mb had a major attitude and seemed upset I left. Even the mayor requested employees be sent home between 2-4 so roads could be salted. I left at 2:30. Come pay day she had deducted every hour I was not able to work when it stormed and even underpaid me by "mistake". She also said the gas reimbursement didn't apply because I wasn't driving her kids and because I wanted to leave early so it was my decision to go early.

learned that next time I stay home and that my safety is no concern of hers whatsoever. I'm just another bill to pay sadly.

*nickle



This is unreal. So your db is an attorney and was able to stay off of work due to bad conditions out, yet they still insisted you drive in? Doesn't make any sense to me. You should find a better family, especially if they Nicole and dime you this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

This.

The schools and gov shut down last week due to freezing rain and ice storms(Atl area) last week. I keep up with the weather to accurately plan my travel. The first day I made every attempt and made it there by 9(hr behind) the next day mb texts me that if I need to come late it's ok. I explained to her that the weather and roads would be clear that a.m. But the storm was starting at 1:30/2 so I would need to leave early. Mind you the day before db, an attorney didn't even go downtown for work because his firm closed and mb works from home. So she seemed salty I would want to get out before it got bad out. But my safety comes first and I had a bad experience last year trapped in the ice.

So I arrive at my start time and her parents are in town for my charges bday. He's turning 1. Mb tells me scheduled a photo session for him across town that afternoon and we would all be going! I remind her of the weather & she insists it will only began as rain. We end leaving an hour late and on top of that she suggests I follow them 20 miles in my own car so the grandparents can ride with the kids, and says that way I can leave early from there. Granted this is further from home than my job but I'd never been before. We are there taking pictures until it's sleeting and snowing and the granddad tells me that they're there and I should probably go do what I need before it gets bad. Mb had a major attitude and seemed upset I left. Even the mayor requested employees be sent home between 2-4 so roads could be salted. I left at 2:30. Come pay day she had deducted every hour I was not able to work when it stormed and even underpaid me by "mistake". She also said the gas reimbursement didn't apply because I wasn't driving her kids and because I wanted to leave early so it was my decision to go early.

learned that next time I stay home and that my safety is no concern of hers whatsoever. I'm just another bill to pay sadly.

Please leave and find another family that uses their brains and cares about your safety more than their purse.