Snow day etiquette

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm due at work by 8am, arrived at 7am hoping my NF could use a few hours to telework (DB is a fed who works from home, DW is an attorney who works downtown but she did not go in today). I let them know I needed to leave by noon in order to be able to have a parking space at my home. They showed no appreciation that I showed up and were miffed when I left. Lesson learned. Next time bad weather is predicted, I'm staying home.

This.

The schools and gov shut down last week due to freezing rain and ice storms(Atl area) last week. I keep up with the weather to accurately plan my travel. The first day I made every attempt and made it there by 9(hr behind) the next day mb texts me that if I need to come late it's ok. I explained to her that the weather and roads would be clear that a.m. But the storm was starting at 1:30/2 so I would need to leave early. Mind you the day before db, an attorney didn't even go downtown for work because his firm closed and mb works from home. So she seemed salty I would want to get out before it got bad out. But my safety comes first and I had a bad experience last year trapped in the ice.

So I arrive at my start time and her parents are in town for my charges bday. He's turning 1. Mb tells me scheduled a photo session for him across town that afternoon and we would all be going! I remind her of the weather & she insists it will only began as rain. We end leaving an hour late and on top of that she suggests I follow them 20 miles in my own car so the grandparents can ride with the kids, and says that way I can leave early from there. Granted this is further from home than my job but I'd never been before. We are there taking pictures until it's sleeting and snowing and the granddad tells me that they're there and I should probably go do what I need before it gets bad. Mb had a major attitude and seemed upset I left. Even the mayor requested employees be sent home between 2-4 so roads could be salted. I left at 2:30. Come pay day she had deducted every hour I was not able to work when it stormed and even underpaid me by "mistake". She also said the gas reimbursement didn't apply because I wasn't driving her kids and because I wanted to leave early so it was my decision to go early.

learned that next time I stay home and that my safety is no concern of hers whatsoever. I'm just another bill to pay sadly.

Actually, sounds like you all had a productive and safe "snow day" out!
Maybe your bosses are from the half of the world that knows how to drive in the snow or rain.

You have to be kidding. Not everyone enjoys driving in sleet and snow for the fun of it

[Anonymous]

I never go when is going to snow no matter what, they don't pay me but I don't care because my safety is first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's different for us since we have a live-in, so no commute or safety issues as such, but I try to pass on at least some of the perks - hours are shorter that day since there's no commute for me. So nanny gets to sleep in a bit and get off a bit early. She's also off for lunch since we have it with the kids. It's not much, I know, but it's what I get as a perk for the day and so does she.

You're a great employer - that's really sweet of you! I'm a live-in and don't bitch about having to be here, but some small gesture like getting off a little early or coming a little late would be really sweet!

[Anonymous]

OP here. It sounds like I am not the only one in this predicament. I have considered having a talk with my NF about this but it seems like the sort of thing that comes down to basic consideration, that you would either possess regard for other people or not. Sadly, for those who do not they will probably never be great employers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It sounds like I am not the only one in this predicament. I have considered having a talk with my NF about this but it seems like the sort of thing that comes down to basic consideration, that you would either possess regard for other people or not. Sadly, for those who do not they will probably never be great employers.

Perfectly said. I've worked for some really wonderful families, and now for a some people who really don't have regard for others. Oh the things I could tell you. I have so many examples.

When it's been a dangerous snow day (serious snow storm), and everyone is being told to stay home and not go on the roads, my employers insist on coming to pick me up if I'm "afraid to drive in the snow".

[Anonymous]

Today was the first snow day I've taken all winter. Twice this winter I almost wrecked my car. Lesson learned. If I don't feel safe I am no longer going in. I am not paid enough in one day to replace my vehicle.

[Anonymous]

When we had a live-out nanny, if I got a snow day I would give her one too out of decency. If I was working from home because of snow, I would still cut short her hours so she wouldn't be in stranded on road in bad weather ( good thing was she lived 7 min from our place). Now we have a live-in, I tell her to relax, sleep in and typically call it a day by afternoon. On snow dagys, etiquette demands that if you are concerned about safety/security of your own family, you must extend same concern to your nanny as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we had a live-out nanny, if I got a snow day I would give her one too out of decency. If I was working from home because of snow, I would still cut short her hours so she wouldn't be in stranded on road in bad weather ( good thing was she lived 7 min from our place). Now we have a live-in, I tell her to relax, sleep in and typically call it a day by afternoon. On snow dagys, etiquette demands that if you are concerned about safety/security of your own family, you must extend same concern to your nanny as well.

You sound like a fair employer!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When we had a live-out nanny, if I got a snow day I would give her one too out of decency. If I was working from home because of snow, I would still cut short her hours so she wouldn't be in stranded on road in bad weather ( good thing was she lived 7 min from our place). Now we have a live-in, I tell her to relax, sleep in and typically call it a day by afternoon. On snow dagys, etiquette demands that if you are concerned about safety/security of your own family, you must extend same concern to your nanny as well.

You sound amazing. I had one mother text me the evening before the streets were supposed to be covered with ice, telling me that she planned to be on time, so I needed to do whatever I needed to get there. I was beyond livid, and told her that icy streets could destroy the best travel plans. I almost told her that ice-skating wasn't part of my job description, but my sister stopped me. To make matters worse, when I got to work, the street, and steps were unsalted. when I see posts like yours, i'm encouraged, and believe that there are still caring parents out there. BE well

[Anonymous]

I had an employer who was studying at home pissed because I didn't show up when everything was shutdown.
She made me make up the hours

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Anonymous wrote:I had an employer who was studying at home pissed because I didn't show up when everything was shutdown.
She made me make up the hours

What a bit**. Can you imagine that poor child being stuck with her for 18 years?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It sounds like I am not the only one in this predicament. I have considered having a talk with my NF about this but it seems like the sort of thing that comes down to basic consideration, that you would either possess regard for other people or not. Sadly, for those who do not they will probably never be great employers.

Perfectly said. I've worked for some really wonderful families, and now for a some people who really don't have regard for others. Oh the things I could tell you. I have so many examples.

When it's been a dangerous snow day (serious snow storm), and everyone is being told to stay home and not go on the roads, my employers insist on coming to pick me up if I'm "afraid to drive in the snow".

Sounds like you have an amazing NF!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It sounds like I am not the only one in this predicament. I have considered having a talk with my NF about this but it seems like the sort of thing that comes down to basic consideration, that you would either possess regard for other people or not. Sadly, for those who do not they will probably never be great employers.

Perfectly said. I've worked for some really wonderful families, and now for a some people who really don't have regard for others. Oh the things I could tell you. I have so many examples.

When it's been a dangerous snow day (serious snow storm), and everyone is being told to stay home and not go on the roads, my employers insist on coming to pick me up if I'm "afraid to drive in the snow".

Props to your MB. That way more than I would do. But I specifically screen and hire for people who likely won't pull the "Sorry I can't come in to work today because my car doesn't work well in heavy rain" scam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It sounds like I am not the only one in this predicament. I have considered having a talk with my NF about this but it seems like the sort of thing that comes down to basic consideration, that you would either possess regard for other people or not. Sadly, for those who do not they will probably never be great employers.

Perfectly said. I've worked for some really wonderful families, and now for a some people who really don't have regard for others. Oh the things I could tell you. I have so many examples.

When it's been a dangerous snow day (serious snow storm), and everyone is being told to stay home and not go on the roads, my employers insist on coming to pick me up if I'm "afraid to drive in the snow".

Props to your MB. That way more than I would do. But I specifically screen and hire for people who likely won't pull the "Sorry I can't come in to work today because my car doesn't work well in heavy rain" scam.

One hopes you compensate accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Perfectly said. I've worked for some really wonderful families, and now for a some people who really don't have regard for others. Oh the things I could tell you. I have so many examples.

When it's been a dangerous snow day (serious snow storm), and everyone is being told to stay home and not go on the roads, my employers insist on coming to pick me up if I'm "afraid to drive in the snow".

I'm the pp who wrote the above. No offense, but the people who responded aren't getting it. The news is filled with wrecks all over and cars stuck in snow and ice. The officials are on TV telling people to stay home. Most businesses in the city are shut down, as are schools. Then because I say it is too dangerous to be driving in the snow, they say they are coming to pick me up. Coming to pick me up in the same dangerous conditions which are preventing me from driving!! Then I would be in their car while they are driving and then I'm still in the same amount of danger as if I had driven!

It is NOT nice, it is rude and unsafe, and disrespectful of me and my right to safety. They don't have to go into work, but they insist they'll come pick me up and put me in danger anyway. Not to mention putting themselves in danger.