Bereavement Days??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took a day off in BigLaw when my cat died, and I currently employ a nanny whom I would give time off for a pet passing away. No one ever called me unprofessional let alone immature (and I can assure you that it did not affect my career trajectory). Pets are members of the family and this is perfectly reasonable. OP, I am so sorry for your loss.

Immature applies to the fact that someone cannot “adult” properly by putting aside their job to sit home and whine over an animal.
Anytime anyone gets a household pet, they know they are signing up for future grief.

So when an animal does die, it makes no sense to not show up for one’s assigned duties because they cannot function properly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I took a day off in BigLaw when my cat died, and I currently employ a nanny whom I would give time off for a pet passing away. No one ever called me unprofessional let alone immature (and I can assure you that it did not affect my career trajectory). Pets are members of the family and this is perfectly reasonable. OP, I am so sorry for your loss.

Immature applies to the fact that someone cannot “adult” properly by putting aside their job to sit home and whine over an animal.
Anytime anyone gets a household pet, they know they are signing up for future grief.

So when an animal does die, it makes no sense to not show up for one’s assigned duties because they cannot function properly.

And we all know our parents and grandparents are only with us for a finite time, so we know we’re signing up for future grief when we love and care about them.

While I agree with the sentiment, you are needlessly insulting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I took a day off in BigLaw when my cat died, and I currently employ a nanny whom I would give time off for a pet passing away. No one ever called me unprofessional let alone immature (and I can assure you that it did not affect my career trajectory). Pets are members of the family and this is perfectly reasonable. OP, I am so sorry for your loss.

They May not have can’t allied you immature to your face but I guarantee you your colleagues thought you absolutely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Cats are a%#holes.

I would prefer to have a goldfish cracker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cats are a%#holes.

I would prefer to have a goldfish cracker.

Nah, it's you. Cars are just smart and want nothing to do with you.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, children, you don’t get last minute paid days off in ANY line of work when your pet dies.


You all need to grow the f up.

[Anonymous]

The op isn’t saying she wants to get paid time off.
She is simply stating that she needs an extra day or so off to properly grieve her loss.
How is not going into work while your heart is shattered a sign of one’s maturity? Or lack thereof??
Most employers would be fine with the nanny’s reasoning for not coming in.

All families need to have a backup childcare plan in place should their nanny be unable to work.
It is entirely their responsibility to do so.
Not the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The op isn’t saying she wants to get paid time off.
She is simply stating that she needs an extra day or so off to properly grieve her loss.
How is not going into work while your heart is shattered a sign of one’s maturity? Or lack thereof??
Most employers would be fine with the nanny’s reasoning for not coming in.

All families need to have a backup childcare plan in place should their nanny be unable to work.
It is entirely their responsibility to do so.
Not the nanny.

No, she’s saying she wants paid time off. Bereavement Days are paid time off. For a cat.