The child I’m nannying punched me on the arm

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am horrified to say my 5-year old also smacked our new nanny on the arm. I hate to make excuses but he really struggles with change and has been having some self control issues of late.

I will say that my child was seriously punished (loss of privileges and more consequences) and we immediately worked with the nanny to find solutions to stop him from reaching that level of frustration.

So it does happen (it shouldn't) but if the parents aren't on board to help you it will never get better!

I certainly hope you bought the nanny a very nice gift!

[Anonymous]

OP has demonstrated yet another example -- there must be hundreds a day on this forum -- of mothers who have no interest mothering their children. The mom has a very needy child with psychological /behavioral issues and she thinks her meeting is more important. God help this kid.

[Anonymous]

Three kids is too many for a first nannying job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is your first nanny job, and it sounds like you're way over your head.

If you want to stay with this job, you need to work out better ground rules. The kids need to know you're in charge.

Do they have a yard or other space? Are you stuck in the basement all day?

So they have a yard, but they are generally misbehaving children, so it's really hard to get them to get off their devices and do what I say. I've tried everything to get them to listen. I'm currently looking for employment elsewhere. I definitely bit off more than I could chew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three kids is too many for a first nannying job.

I agree, I bit off way more than I could chew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has demonstrated yet another example -- there must be hundreds a day on this forum -- of mothers who have no interest mothering their children. The mom has a very needy child with psychological /behavioral issues and she thinks her meeting is more important. God help this kid.

Yes exactly, I feel very bad for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am horrified to say my 5-year old also smacked our new nanny on the arm. I hate to make excuses but he really struggles with change and has been having some self control issues of late.

I will say that my child was seriously punished (loss of privileges and more consequences) and we immediately worked with the nanny to find solutions to stop him from reaching that level of frustration.

So it does happen (it shouldn't) but if the parents aren't on board to help you it will never get better!

I certainly hope you bought the nanny a very nice gift!

I think providing support and making the environment a better one was much more important than a gift in this case. Giving a gift will do nothing to improve the job for the nanny. For what it's worth, she is very happy now and bonded with the kids who are behaving much better. Again, I think it can get better but absolutely not without the parents full support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Three kids is too many for a first nannying job.

I agree, I bit off way more than I could chew.

It depends more on the children’s personality than the number of children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has demonstrated yet another example -- there must be hundreds a day on this forum -- of mothers who have no interest mothering their children. The mom has a very needy child with psychological /behavioral issues and she thinks her meeting is more important. God help this kid.

Yes exactly, I feel very bad for her.

This is not fair. There are many mothers of special needs children who still need childcare. That's not the issue here. The issue is that the mother is promoting violence toward the nanny by responding to biting with the reward of ice cream. That's just awful parenting, it has nothing to do with the mother's meeting. It also doesn't sound like this girl is the exception in the family, i.e. she's not a special case among the siblings; they are all badly (some more, some less) behaved.

Nanny, good luck in your search!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has demonstrated yet another example -- there must be hundreds a day on this forum -- of mothers who have no interest mothering their children. The mom has a very needy child with psychological /behavioral issues and she thinks her meeting is more important. God help this kid.

Yes exactly, I feel very bad for her.

This is not fair. There are many mothers of special needs children who still need childcare. That's not the issue here. The issue is that the mother is promoting violence toward the nanny by responding to biting with the reward of ice cream. That's just awful parenting, it has nothing to do with the mother's meeting. It also doesn't sound like this girl is the exception in the family, i.e. she's not a special case among the siblings; they are all badly (some more, some less) behaved.

Nanny, good luck in your search!

This. As I stated before, I would do with children with special needs, specializing in children who react violently. The issue with OP’s situation isB’s blasé attitude are the lack of sn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am horrified to say my 5-year old also smacked our new nanny on the arm. I hate to make excuses but he really struggles with change and has been having some self control issues of late.

I will say that my child was seriously punished (loss of privileges and more consequences) and we immediately worked with the nanny to find solutions to stop him from reaching that level of frustration.

So it does happen (it shouldn't) but if the parents aren't on board to help you it will never get better!

I certainly hope you bought the nanny a very nice gift!

Is this serious? This will occasionally happen with kids. As the poster stated, they disciplined the child and made efforts to change the behavior moving forward. Why would a gift need to be purchased for the nanny?