The child I’m nannying punched me on the arm

[Anonymous]

I’m currently nannying for a family of 6. I nanny an 11yo boy, an 8yo boy, and a 5yo girl. The 5yo threw a tantrum yesterday because her mother works from home and she asked me to keep the kids downstairs while she had meetings. This is a hard feat, as the children do not listen very well. The 5yo attempted to claw her way up the stairs, screaming and kicking, as her brothers tried to pull her back. This is my first nanny job, so I was not sure on how to handle it. The 5yo continued this tantrum for an hour.

She actually ended up getting so angry and frustrated that she bared her teeth at me and punched me on the arm, I texted the mother and she didn’t come down to the second floor, despite her daughter screaming. I was told by the 8yo that she had hit their previous nannies “a bunch”, so this was a really big red flag for me. The 5yo was going on about how her mom promised her she could have Ben & Jerry’s but the 5yo was screaming so much I didn’t quite understand what she meant until after, when the mother told me to take her to get the ice cream.

Should I be working with a family that commends this behavior?

[Anonymous]

Of course you should not be working there. That child is too old for this bratty crap. QUIT TODAY. You’ll be able to get another job by end of next week.

[Anonymous]

New job. Not normal. Its a parenting issue.

[Anonymous]

This is the main reason why I NEVER take new jobs with older kids. They don't respect their parents and I can imagine how they treat their Nannie. Very poor discipline from parents. QUIT or every single day will be a nightmare for you.

[Anonymous]

This is your first nanny job, and it sounds like you're way over your head.

If you want to stay with this job, you need to work out better ground rules. The kids need to know you're in charge.

Do they have a yard or other space? Are you stuck in the basement all day?

[Anonymous]

You must quit, OP. Tell the parents today.

[Anonymous]

Please leave. Dear lord please leave. I worked with a family similar to that. The boy was very abusive, hitting, kicking, name calling. I stuck with it for a number of reasons but I had a very close friend ask if I was okay one day, when they noticed bruises all over my legs, that I got from the boy. I Made a number of excuses about why I needed to stay and not leave. Shortly after my friends questioned me, I left.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny who gets hit rather frequently by a much older child I would say it’s up to you. I haven’t been hurt yet, but I get hit a few times a month . It’s not ideal. Some children are violent, extremely violent . They still need nannies. I try and not take it personal.

[Anonymous]

I’m a special needs nanny. Half of my families need a nanny experienced at safely immobilizing a child so that they can’t hurt themself or anyone else. I have a special needs rate that’s roughly 1.25-1.5 times my normal rate, depending on duties and specifics of the position.

This child sounds like a spoiled brat. Yelling and hitting because she wants ice cream? Nope.

I’m willing to work with brats, correcting the parents’ mistakes. However, the parents know that I will get double my normal rate until ALL behavior is corrected (not just violence), and I get a $50 compensation for every instance of violence from a child (no special needs).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny who gets hit rather frequently by a much older child I would say it’s up to you. I haven’t been hurt yet, but I get hit a few times a month . It’s not ideal. Some children are violent, extremely violent . They still need nannies. I try and not take it personal.

Except SN and even then, kids should never ever be hitting you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny who gets hit rather frequently by a much older child I would say it’s up to you. I haven’t been hurt yet, but I get hit a few times a month . It’s not ideal. Some children are violent, extremely violent . They still need nannies. I try and not take it personal.

This is not about taking it personal or not. A great Nanny will never allowed being hit by a child No way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny who gets hit rather frequently by a much older child I would say it’s up to you. I haven’t been hurt yet, but I get hit a few times a month . It’s not ideal. Some children are violent, extremely violent . They still need nannies. I try and not take it personal.

What kind of nanny you are? Thinking that it's ok for you being hit by a kid. That's fine with you? Bcs is a normal thing and you are just waiting to be hurt in a worse way and until then say or do something. Wow.
PLEASE Nannies, don't be like this. We all deserve respect from Families and their kids and mainly We Have to respect Ourselves.

[Anonymous]

The fact that the mother told you to take this kid for ice cream after she punched you (I don't care what the "reason" was) is very telling.

RUN RUN RUN, don't walk.

-MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that the mother told you to take this kid for ice cream after she punched you (I don't care what the "reason" was) is very telling.

RUN RUN RUN, don't walk.

-MB

+1.

[Anonymous]

The child I'm nannying threw up in my shoe. But she's really really cute.