Giving my notice earlier than planned

[Anonymous]

Not all heroes wear capes... Yes!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Good for you, OP. I am an MB and would never, ever treat our devoted nanny as your employer treated you. I’m glad you stuck to your guns.

All the best to you! And of you need extra money, there are babysitting opportunities galore through the holidays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mom was right. She ruined my Sunday evening and Monday and I was on edge and did not get a lot of sleep. I went out with friends last night so I crashed when I got home. She woke me up from a cold sleep and I was a tad cranky.

She called me and asked if we could come to some sort of compromise. I told her there was nothing to discuss I was done and she pushed me to far with her bs. Yes I told her that. I let her know how selfish and self absorbed she is and to expect this again in the future if she did not shape up. I was so obnoxious and was talking down to her like she talked to me on Monday. She was saying it would cost a small fortune to get a temp service and she has no more sick time to use. I told her it was not my problem and she had no one to blame but herself. I also let her know she better not mess with my final pay check and I expected it on Friday in my account as usual and I hung up.

I don't even know what to do with myself. It has been so long since I have had this free time. I can go to the gym, cafe, take a nap in the middle of the day. I am always go, go, go. I can always study of course. I am really enjoying this!!

You rock, OP!

[Anonymous]

Both of you behaved quite unprofessionally. Probably that was true for some time before this last straw finally broke your back.

Hope your next profession is the right fit for you OP. It's pretty rare that you get to burn a bridge the way you did without having any repercussions so that's lucky. (And fun also - who gets to behave that way?! IT's the stuff we just dream about.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both of you behaved quite unprofessionally. Probably that was true for some time before this last straw finally broke your back.

Hope your next profession is the right fit for you OP. It's pretty rare that you get to burn a bridge the way you did without having any repercussions so that's lucky. (And fun also - who gets to behave that way?! IT's the stuff we just dream about.)

MB here. What else was OP supposed to do? I don’t see her behavior as unprofessional but I could be wrong. What should she have done better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of you behaved quite unprofessionally. Probably that was true for some time before this last straw finally broke your back.

Hope your next profession is the right fit for you OP. It's pretty rare that you get to burn a bridge the way you did without having any repercussions so that's lucky. (And fun also - who gets to behave that way?! IT's the stuff we just dream about.)

MB here. What else was OP supposed to do? I don’t see her behavior as unprofessional but I could be wrong. What should she have done better?

I'm not the PP but talking back to MB in a nasty way and calling her selfish wasn't terribly professional of OP. Don't get me wrong, I am team OP all the way. But a simple "I am not interested in returning, good luck with your search" would have sufficed. I imagine it must have felt good to talk back to someone who mistreated and disrespected her for years. But is it professional behavior? Nah.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of you behaved quite unprofessionally. Probably that was true for some time before this last straw finally broke your back.

Hope your next profession is the right fit for you OP. It's pretty rare that you get to burn a bridge the way you did without having any repercussions so that's lucky. (And fun also - who gets to behave that way?! IT's the stuff we just dream about.)

MB here. What else was OP supposed to do? I don’t see her behavior as unprofessional but I could be wrong. What should she have done better?

I'm not the PP but talking back to MB in a nasty way and calling her selfish wasn't terribly professional of OP. Don't get me wrong, I am team OP all the way. But a simple "I am not interested in returning, good luck with your search" would have sufficed. I imagine it must have felt good to talk back to someone who mistreated and disrespected her for years. But is it professional behavior? Nah.

Her MB is a bit h and speaking to her in language she understands was the way to go. Maybe, though not likely, the MB will take a good look at her own behavior and change the way she treats her next nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of you behaved quite unprofessionally. Probably that was true for some time before this last straw finally broke your back.

Hope your next profession is the right fit for you OP. It's pretty rare that you get to burn a bridge the way you did without having any repercussions so that's lucky. (And fun also - who gets to behave that way?! IT's the stuff we just dream about.)

MB here. What else was OP supposed to do? I don’t see her behavior as unprofessional but I could be wrong. What should she have done better?

I'm not the PP but talking back to MB in a nasty way and calling her selfish wasn't terribly professional of OP. Don't get me wrong, I am team OP all the way. But a simple "I am not interested in returning, good luck with your search" would have sufficed. I imagine it must have felt good to talk back to someone who mistreated and disrespected her for years. But is it professional behavior? Nah.

The job was finished and OP isn’t looking for a reference. There was no need to be “professional” anymore. When you treat people like crap you should be called out. Op didn’t owe her former employer anything but the truth. Hopefully her former employer will take the directness of Op and treat her next employer with more respect.

[Anonymous]

OP did the right thing - no question.
This is why it’s so critical to ask for contact info of former nannies when interviewing potential employers. If the parents hesitate - there’s your red flag!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of you behaved quite unprofessionally. Probably that was true for some time before this last straw finally broke your back.

Hope your next profession is the right fit for you OP. It's pretty rare that you get to burn a bridge the way you did without having any repercussions so that's lucky. (And fun also - who gets to behave that way?! IT's the stuff we just dream about.)

MB here. What else was OP supposed to do? I don’t see her behavior as unprofessional but I could be wrong. What should she have done better?

I'm not the PP but talking back to MB in a nasty way and calling her selfish wasn't terribly professional of OP. Don't get me wrong, I am team OP all the way. But a simple "I am not interested in returning, good luck with your search" would have sufficed. I imagine it must have felt good to talk back to someone who mistreated and disrespected her for years. But is it professional behavior? Nah.

Her MB is a bit h and speaking to her in language she understands was the way to go. Maybe, though not likely, the MB will take a good look at her own behavior and change the way she treats her next nanny.

Really? Being rude to someone will make them feel contrite and change their behavior going forward? Has that ever happened in the history of humanity?

This kind of MB will use OP's use of language to think to herself, "that girl was a b***h anyway" and justify her crappy behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Both of you behaved quite unprofessionally. Probably that was true for some time before this last straw finally broke your back.

Hope your next profession is the right fit for you OP. It's pretty rare that you get to burn a bridge the way you did without having any repercussions so that's lucky. (And fun also - who gets to behave that way?! IT's the stuff we just dream about.)

MB here. What else was OP supposed to do? I don’t see her behavior as unprofessional but I could be wrong. What should she have done better?

I'm not the PP but talking back to MB in a nasty way and calling her selfish wasn't terribly professional of OP. Don't get me wrong, I am team OP all the way. But a simple "I am not interested in returning, good luck with your search" would have sufficed. I imagine it must have felt good to talk back to someone who mistreated and disrespected her for years. But is it professional behavior? Nah.

Her MB is a bit h and speaking to her in language she understands was the way to go. Maybe, though not likely, the MB will take a good look at her own behavior and change the way she treats her next nanny.

Really? Being rude to someone will make them feel contrite and change their behavior going forward? Has that ever happened in the history of humanity?

This kind of MB will use OP's use of language to think to herself, "that girl was a b***h anyway" and justify her crappy behavior.

I agree. However this employer would most likely say the same regardless of how OP quit. Some people never “get it”.

[Anonymous]

OP here,

I don't think she will change but she might think twice in the future about taking away approved vacation time.

I just wanted to post a small update. Former DB sent me a very polite message and asked me if I could tell him what happened exactly. I told him how she rescinded my approved vacation time and I sent him a screen shot of the e-mail. I also mentioned that she was late all the time and that was another reason I quit.

After I sent him the e-mail he replied with thank you and that he apologized for what happened and wished me well in my future endeavors.

I can only imagine what his wife told him. I don't think he believed her so he asked me.

I usually get paid on Friday but I received a notification from my bank that I have my final paycheck deposited already. Hopefully I won't hear from them again. There is no reason for them to contact me.

I still have my classes and I have been keeping busy with studying but I am loving this free time.

[Anonymous]

So many parents don’t have a clue how they’re damaging their own children. It’s so selfish of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I don't think she will change but she might think twice in the future about taking away approved vacation time.

I just wanted to post a small update. Former DB sent me a very polite message and asked me if I could tell him what happened exactly. I told him how she rescinded my approved vacation time and I sent him a screen shot of the e-mail. I also mentioned that she was late all the time and that was another reason I quit.

After I sent him the e-mail he replied with thank you and that he apologized for what happened and wished me well in my future endeavors.

I can only imagine what his wife told him. I don't think he believed her so he asked me.

I usually get paid on Friday but I received a notification from my bank that I have my final paycheck deposited already. Hopefully I won't hear from them again. There is no reason for them to contact me.

I still have my classes and I have been keeping busy with studying but I am loving this free time.

Wow. That’s really telling that her husband didn’t take the wife’s word on what happened.

Study hard, OP. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So many parents don’t have a clue how they’re damaging their own children. It’s so selfish of them.

+1.