Giving my notice earlier than planned

[Anonymous]

I have another job lined up starting in January. I'm still in college but I am done with the nanny gig. I love the kids but cannot stand the parents anymore. I requested off 11/27 last week. MB said it was not an issue because her family would be in town. She emailed me today and said I could not have the full day off. She did not realize how busy she would be with airport pickups and grocery shopping and wanted me to work from 9-3 pm. I have my own family to pick up at the airport and grocery shop for. She knows I have family coming in. This is just one of many examples of the inconsideration I put up with. I replied back "That does not work for me. I've made plans with my own family". She replied back we could discuss it further tomorrow.

I have been thinking all evening and looking at my finances. I am very thrifty and have savings where I would be fine without working for at least 3 months. I was planning to give my notice 12/6 and have 12/20 be my last day. With the turn of events I have been thinking about leaving sooner. I would go in tomorrow and give my notice, refuse to work 11/27 and see what happens. If they give me any flack I can always make tomorrow my last day.

At first I was so upset but now I feel I have better control of the situation. I should not be surprised that she thinks there is anything to discuss. I almost hope she gives me a hard time so I do not have to go back on Tuesday.

[Anonymous]

OP, you have every right to refuse to work on the 27th without giving your notice and leaving early. Your employer told you that you had the time off and you made plans. You don’t have to quit early over this or explain it further to her. You are simply unable to work on that day. End of discussion.

[Anonymous]

When Nannies want to quit sooner rather than later - it is usually because the Nanny has been treated bad by the parents.

Rarely does a Nanny leave because of her charges.

I find it rude that your MB told you you could take the 27th off, then backtrack and state that you must work that day after all.

You gave her plenty of notice.
Since you are fortunate to scrape by until your new job begins, then I would just quit.

[Anonymous]

I think your plan sounds good, OP. Since you're quitting anyway, have a new job lined up for January, and feel financially comfortable with a bit of a gap between jobs...

The only thing that might make me reconsider is you've been employed with the family long-term, and they have historically given good holiday/end-of-year bonuses.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t back down on taking the 27th off. Stand firm and don’t waver. No negotiation. “You gave me that day off and I have made plans that so cannot change now”.

You don’t have to quit over it, OP. She cannot force you to come to work. The worst she could do is fire you and then you’d get severance and unemployment.

You are so smart to have what Humphrey Bogart called, “f*ck you money” saved. You can walk away from any job with a big “f you”.

But so don’t think your situation will warrant it. I bet your employer backs down when you stand unwavering.

[Anonymous]

You are scheduled toward, agreed to those hours, asked off, she said no as your employer so if you choose not to work as scheduled its an issue for her as you are not a reliable employee..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are scheduled toward, agreed to those hours, asked off, she said no as your employer so if you choose not to work as scheduled its an issue for her as you are not a reliable employee..

She was given the time off and now her MB wants her to come in
Tough. Apparently, you have no comprehension of the written word or you're just stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are scheduled toward, agreed to those hours, asked off, she said no as your employer so if you choose not to work as scheduled its an issue for her as you are not a reliable employee..

1. Op asked for 27th off.
2. Employer said yes.
3. Op made plans.
4. Employer decided to have Op work, rescinding day off.
5. Op still has plans and is going to refuse to work.
6. Employer may choose to let Op go.
7. Op can collect unemployment.
8. Employer will either have a larger unemployment insurance payment, or employer will get hit for not paying unemployment insurance.

Either way, Op is in the clear. The employer is at fault.

[Anonymous]

What happened today, OP? What did your employer say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What happened today, OP? What did your employer say?

She is so arrogant. We talked for less than 5 minutes but she said she really needed me to work on 11/27. She was only asking to work 6 hours that day and she would try and come back early if possible. I again told her that I would not be there and she needed to find someone else. As she left she said "I will expect to see you at work on the 27th".

Today is my last day. I cannot stand her. I have put up with her being late and what not but this is the final straw. I am telling her today is my last day. This is what I actually wanted. I am so relieved. I am going to miss the kids but it's time to go. Did I mention her H is on a business trip and won't be back till Friday afternoon? I also do not need a reference from her. Being a nanny is not my chosen field and I am done with it. I have other references to use. Good luck MB!

[Anonymous]

I am honestly curious as to how you would feel if she would have said no to your initial request..? Would you still be so angry or would you have worked around it? It isn’t common to ask off with such little notice, at the same tim, she did say yes. Just curious, though.

[Anonymous]

I would have worked around it. I would have told my family to fly in on Tuesday night. They are coming early Wednesday morning and we have made plans. I emailed her the request on 11/11 and she replied a few hours later I could have 11/27 off with no problem. She even put in the email her family would be there to help. I asked more than 2 weeks in advance so it's not really last minute.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened today, OP? What did your employer say?

She is so arrogant. We talked for less than 5 minutes but she said she really needed me to work on 11/27. She was only asking to work 6 hours that day and she would try and come back early if possible. I again told her that I would not be there and she needed to find someone else. As she left she said "I will expect to see you at work on the 27th".

Today is my last day. I cannot stand her. I have put up with her being late and what not but this is the final straw. I am telling her today is my last day. This is what I actually wanted. I am so relieved. I am going to miss the kids but it's time to go. Did I mention her H is on a business trip and won't be back till Friday afternoon? I also do not need a reference from her. Being a nanny is not my chosen field and I am done with it. I have other references to use. Good luck MB!

Please let us know what happens tonight when you tell her you are quitting and won’t be back.

She is going to lose her mind.

[Anonymous]

That is unbelievably arrogant and so mean-spirited of her. I am glad you are quitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What happened today, OP? What did your employer say?

She is so arrogant. We talked for less than 5 minutes but she said she really needed me to work on 11/27. She was only asking to work 6 hours that day and she would try and come back early if possible. I again told her that I would not be there and she needed to find someone else. As she left she said "I will expect to see you at work on the 27th".

Today is my last day. I cannot stand her. I have put up with her being late and what not but this is the final straw. I am telling her today is my last day. This is what I actually wanted. I am so relieved. I am going to miss the kids but it's time to go. Did I mention her H is on a business trip and won't be back till Friday afternoon? I also do not need a reference from her. Being a nanny is not my chosen field and I am done with it. I have other references to use. Good luck MB!

“I will expect to see you at work on the 27th”?!!! Holy hell, what a b*tch!!

“Well, you can expect to see whatever you want - it just won’t be me ever again”.

I do feel bad for the kids, however. The little ones are always the ones to get hurt. However, there really is nothing else you can do.

I’m sorry, OP. Your horrid employer put you in a terrible position.