I'm beginning to get annoyed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even know why I post here. A lot of you parents like to tear down nannies (make them feel like they don’t know anything) when it seems to hit home. Why do you hire a nanny if you have no intentions on working with them (in this situation)? Let me get this out the way to the pp who said Op isn’t a mother- you’re wrong! Me being a parent has nothing to do with why these parents are so nonchalant about their child’s (dangerous) behavior. Therefore, me being a parent is a moot point. Yes, she is only two years old, but running away (in traffic), hitting ADULTS in the face and throwing any objects she can get her hands on (big, small, heavy or light), is unacceptable! Now, I only posted about this situation because I am trying to figure out how I can get through to the parents and have us work together. They are also due to have a baby in May, so baby girl needs to get it together or they are going to have some serious issues!

Why are parents so quick to get rid of nannies when they challenge you? Yeah, you can get a nanny in 2 seconds, but you’re not thinking about your kid. I don’t leave jobs because it’s tough- it’s not who I am, and I have dealt with children who have had far worse challenges. Again, during that time, the parents had no choice but to get on board. I love my charges as if they were my own but considering baby # 2 is on the way and her behavioral issues are becoming more aggressive, it’s time for mom and dad to buckle down!

I am slightly irritated with you judgmental parents. Yep, the one who is calling me judgmental, it’s you! You are judging me because I work as a nanny and because you assumed I wasn't a parent. The fact is, my annual income, is probably more than yours. I have probably been a mother and a childcare provider longer than you have been a parent. I didn’t come on here being disrespectful to the family I work for. I didn’t call them dumb, lazy or anything like that. I did pinpoint that disciplining is not their strong suit, however, how can I say that when I’ve never seen them discipline their daughter. I came here to find ways to rectify my situation and not walk away from it. Although, if need be, then that’s what I’ll do- I work with children because I enjoy it not because I have to.

I am still waiting to hear about ways pp, tried working with her 2-year-old. You can't say "some of us are doing the best we can" when you just let your child do and get away with whatever. Can you imagine if she threw a fit and threw something at her brother (this is her go to)? I’m not even going to mention how their house is not even prepped for a toddler. I am done, over this post and over you parents but thank you to the one's who have provided me with solutions- minus the leash thing. If anybody put a leash on my kid, it would be hell to pay (I DON'T PLAY THAT EITHER)!

Wow. Are you always this angry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even know why I post here. A lot of you parents like to tear down nannies (make them feel like they don’t know anything) when it seems to hit home. Why do you hire a nanny if you have no intentions on working with them (in this situation)? Let me get this out the way to the pp who said Op isn’t a mother- you’re wrong! Me being a parent has nothing to do with why these parents are so nonchalant about their child’s (dangerous) behavior. Therefore, me being a parent is a moot point. Yes, she is only two years old, but running away (in traffic), hitting ADULTS in the face and throwing any objects she can get her hands on (big, small, heavy or light), is unacceptable! Now, I only posted about this situation because I am trying to figure out how I can get through to the parents and have us work together. They are also due to have a baby in May, so baby girl needs to get it together or they are going to have some serious issues!

Why are parents so quick to get rid of nannies when they challenge you? Yeah, you can get a nanny in 2 seconds, but you’re not thinking about your kid. I don’t leave jobs because it’s tough- it’s not who I am, and I have dealt with children who have had far worse challenges. Again, during that time, the parents had no choice but to get on board. I love my charges as if they were my own but considering baby # 2 is on the way and her behavioral issues are becoming more aggressive, it’s time for mom and dad to buckle down!

I am slightly irritated with you judgmental parents. Yep, the one who is calling me judgmental, it’s you! You are judging me because I work as a nanny and because you assumed I wasn't a parent. The fact is, my annual income, is probably more than yours. I have probably been a mother and a childcare provider longer than you have been a parent. I didn’t come on here being disrespectful to the family I work for. I didn’t call them dumb, lazy or anything like that. I did pinpoint that disciplining is not their strong suit, however, how can I say that when I’ve never seen them discipline their daughter. I came here to find ways to rectify my situation and not walk away from it. Although, if need be, then that’s what I’ll do- I work with children because I enjoy it not because I have to.

I am still waiting to hear about ways pp, tried working with her 2-year-old. You can't say "some of us are doing the best we can" when you just let your child do and get away with whatever. Can you imagine if she threw a fit and threw something at her brother (this is her go to)? I’m not even going to mention how their house is not even prepped for a toddler. I am done, over this post and over you parents but thank you to the one's who have provided me with solutions- minus the leash thing. If anybody put a leash on my kid, it would be hell to pay (I DON'T PLAY THAT EITHER)!

So keeping a child strapped in a stroller is kinder than allowing them limited movement and a feeling of some independence? The parent was on board, kid loved the monkey and it was a tool we used until he was capable of understanding that he needed to stay with me. Then we took the tail (leash) off and he just wore the backpack.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even know why I post here. A lot of you parents like to tear down nannies (make them feel like they don’t know anything) when it seems to hit home. Why do you hire a nanny if you have no intentions on working with them (in this situation)? Let me get this out the way to the pp who said Op isn’t a mother- you’re wrong! Me being a parent has nothing to do with why these parents are so nonchalant about their child’s (dangerous) behavior. Therefore, me being a parent is a moot point. Yes, she is only two years old, but running away (in traffic), hitting ADULTS in the face and throwing any objects she can get her hands on (big, small, heavy or light), is unacceptable! Now, I only posted about this situation because I am trying to figure out how I can get through to the parents and have us work together. They are also due to have a baby in May, so baby girl needs to get it together or they are going to have some serious issues!

Why are parents so quick to get rid of nannies when they challenge you? Yeah, you can get a nanny in 2 seconds, but you’re not thinking about your kid. I don’t leave jobs because it’s tough- it’s not who I am, and I have dealt with children who have had far worse challenges. Again, during that time, the parents had no choice but to get on board. I love my charges as if they were my own but considering baby # 2 is on the way and her behavioral issues are becoming more aggressive, it’s time for mom and dad to buckle down!

I am slightly irritated with you judgmental parents. Yep, the one who is calling me judgmental, it’s you! You are judging me because I work as a nanny and because you assumed I wasn't a parent. The fact is, my annual income, is probably more than yours. I have probably been a mother and a childcare provider longer than you have been a parent. I didn’t come on here being disrespectful to the family I work for. I didn’t call them dumb, lazy or anything like that. I did pinpoint that disciplining is not their strong suit, however, how can I say that when I’ve never seen them discipline their daughter. I came here to find ways to rectify my situation and not walk away from it. Although, if need be, then that’s what I’ll do- I work with children because I enjoy it not because I have to.

I am still waiting to hear about ways pp, tried working with her 2-year-old. You can't say "some of us are doing the best we can" when you just let your child do and get away with whatever. Can you imagine if she threw a fit and threw something at her brother (this is her go to)? I’m not even going to mention how their house is not even prepped for a toddler. I am done, over this post and over you parents but thank you to the one's who have provided me with solutions- minus the leash thing. If anybody put a leash on my kid, it would be hell to pay (I DON'T PLAY THAT EITHER)!

Wow. Are you always this angry?

Please find another career. You're clearly a very miserable person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like she has more sense than the parents, so to the PP who said she is naive, you are obviously not very bright, and I'm sure that your child behaves like this because you do not set any boundaries. This child is an accident waiting to happen, especially in a share.

OP is not a mother. Some children are simply more difficult. My 2 year old was this way. OP said the boy only recently turned 2. She most likely has only had easier children in the past.

It's actually a girl so pardon me if I question your reading comprehension and subsequent opinion.

[Anonymous]

Op you sound awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op you sound awful.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op you sound awful.

+1

Both of you sound awful. I wouldn’t want to meet your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Are you always this angry?

Anonymous wrote:Please find another career. You're clearly a very miserable person.

Honestly, I think she’s just frustrated. I’m sure she’s been trying to get through to the parents, and there’s only so much she can do when it’s not her child. She’s probably really attached to the kid and wouldn’t want to leave, but just wishes they’d get their shit together and work with her to discipline this child so everyone can breathe a little easier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. Are you always this angry?

Anonymous wrote:Please find another career. You're clearly a very miserable person.

Honestly, I think she’s just frustrated. I’m sure she’s been trying to get through to the parents, and there’s only so much she can do when it’s not her child. She’s probably really attached to the kid and wouldn’t want to leave, but just wishes they’d get their shit together and work with her to discipline this child so everyone can breathe a little easier.

She will never get through to the parents. I've had jobs like this . She needs to move on or accept the challenging child.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I hear you. I’m kind of going through a similar situation.

People get stuck in their ways and don’t want to change. Obviously it isn’t as important to them as it is to the nanny that the child stays safe and doesn’t run the show all the time.

[Anonymous]

Why are there so many nannies on here who blame a child's behavior with them on the parents? Kids adapt to different caregivers. They act one way with mom, another way with dad, and a third way with nanny. Just because the parents don't use any discipline with the child doesn't mean that the nanny can't or shouldn't. (I'm talking about discipline in the sense of instilling self-discipline, not punitive methods that won't make sense to a 2 year old, like time outs that have no relation to running away.) If the child runs, the outing is cut short, the child's independence is curtailed, etc. It's not hard to figure out!