I'm beginning to get annoyed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like she has more sense than the parents, so to the PP who said she is naive, you are obviously not very bright, and I'm sure that your child behaves like this because you do not set any boundaries. This child is an accident waiting to happen, especially in a share.

OP is not a mother. Some children are simply more difficult. My 2 year old was this way. OP said the boy only recently turned 2. She most likely has only had easier children in the past.

I have worked with children whom have ADD, ADHD, Devlopmetal Delays, Behavior issues- you name it. I’ve also been working with children for 12 years. The difference between now and then, is that I did not work for the parents and therefore, they had no choice but to work with their child (and teacher to come up with a solution) or the child would no longer be able to attend the school.

So, now that I work for a parent, how do I go about this situation? You say your 2 year old was this way, correct? What did he or she do? Did your 2 year old hit you? Did your 2 year old throw objects out of anger? Did your 2 year run away from you, in public? If so, what did you do? My complaint is that the parents aren’t even TRYING! I can discipline a child, but what good does it do, if the parents aren’t on board?

Thanks for any advice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some 2 year olds are simply not wired to understand or care. That’s why I have a “backpack monkey” with a tail. The child is happy because it’s a stuffed animal combined with a backpack, I’m happy because the monkey hugs them (buckles on!) and the tail is a leash. It’s all about finding a way to give children freedom to explore and discover in ways that I can still manage their safety.

As a childcare provider, I’m not putting a child on a leash. No judgment but it’s just not me and if a parent asked me to do that, I would decline, and I’m okay with the consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like she has more sense than the parents, so to the PP who said she is naive, you are obviously not very bright, and I'm sure that your child behaves like this because you do not set any boundaries. This child is an accident waiting to happen, especially in a share.

Well said.

Thank you, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like she has more sense than the parents, so to the PP who said she is naive, you are obviously not very bright, and I'm sure that your child behaves like this because you do not set any boundaries. This child is an accident waiting to happen, especially in a share.

OP is not a mother. Some children are simply more difficult. My 2 year old was this way. OP said the boy only recently turned 2. She most likely has only had easier children in the past.

I have worked with children whom have ADD, ADHD, Devlopmetal Delays, Behavior issues- you name it. I’ve also been working with children for 12 years. The difference between now and then, is that I did not work for the parents and therefore, they had no choice but to work with their child (and teacher to come up with a solution) or the child would no longer be able to attend the school.

So, now that I work for a parent, how do I go about this situation? You say your 2 year old was this way, correct? What did he or she do? Did your 2 year old hit you? Did your 2 year old throw objects out of anger? Did your 2 year run away from you, in public? If so, what did you do? My complaint is that the parents aren’t even TRYING! I can discipline a child, but what good does it do, if the parents aren’t on board?

Thanks for any advice!

The difference between us is that you can find a new job. I am stuck with my impossible son but I really love him anyway. Working with children is not easy but you get to choose which children you take care of! Maybe one day you will have children. Some of us are doing the best we can do. It's not always so black and white. I used to judge parents before I had my own children. They are all born with different personalities. Some are easier than others. Find an easier job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like she has more sense than the parents, so to the PP who said she is naive, you are obviously not very bright, and I'm sure that your child behaves like this because you do not set any boundaries. This child is an accident waiting to happen, especially in a share.

OP is not a mother. Some children are simply more difficult. My 2 year old was this way. OP said the boy only recently turned 2. She most likely has only had easier children in the past.

I have worked with children whom have ADD, ADHD, Devlopmetal Delays, Behavior issues- you name it. I’ve also been working with children for 12 years. The difference between now and then, is that I did not work for the parents and therefore, they had no choice but to work with their child (and teacher to come up with a solution) or the child would no longer be able to attend the school.

So, now that I work for a parent, how do I go about this situation? You say your 2 year old was this way, correct? What did he or she do? Did your 2 year old hit you? Did your 2 year old throw objects out of anger? Did your 2 year run away from you, in public? If so, what did you do? My complaint is that the parents aren’t even TRYING! I can discipline a child, but what good does it do, if the parents aren’t on board?

You didn’t answer how you tried to work with your child on his or her behavior. I’ll wait....

Op.
Thanks for any advice!

The difference between us is that you can find a new job. I am stuck with my impossible son but I really love him anyway. Working with children is not easy but you get to choose which children you take care of! Maybe one day you will have children. Some of us are doing the best we can do. It's not always so black and white. I used to judge parents before I had my own children. They are all born with different personalities. Some are easier than others. Find an easier job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like she has more sense than the parents, so to the PP who said she is naive, you are obviously not very bright, and I'm sure that your child behaves like this because you do not set any boundaries. This child is an accident waiting to happen, especially in a share.

OP is not a mother. Some children are simply more difficult. My 2 year old was this way. OP said the boy only recently turned 2. She most likely has only had easier children in the past.

I have worked with children whom have ADD, ADHD, Devlopmetal Delays, Behavior issues- you name it. I’ve also been working with children for 12 years. The difference between now and then, is that I did not work for the parents and therefore, they had no choice but to work with their child (and teacher to come up with a solution) or the child would no longer be able to attend the school.

So, now that I work for a parent, how do I go about this situation? You say your 2 year old was this way, correct? What did he or she do? Did your 2 year old hit you? Did your 2 year old throw objects out of anger? Did your 2 year run away from you, in public? If so, what did you do? My complaint is that the parents aren’t even TRYING! I can discipline a child, but what good does it do, if the parents aren’t on board?

You didn’t answer how you tried to work with your child on his or her behavior. I’ll wait....

Op.
Thanks for any advice!

The difference between us is that you can find a new job. I am stuck with my impossible son but I really love him anyway. Working with children is not easy but you get to choose which children you take care of! Maybe one day you will have children. Some of us are doing the best we can do. It's not always so black and white. I used to judge parents before I had my own children. They are all born with different personalities. Some are easier than others. Find an easier job.

Posted in the wrong area.

[Anonymous]

“The difference between us is that you can find a new job.” You sound so dumb and defensive. Probably, because your child is bad as hell. Anyone can choose to pick another job no matter where they are or whom they work for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“The difference between us is that you can find a new job.” You sound so dumb and defensive. Probably, because your child is bad as hell. Anyone can choose to pick another job no matter where they are or whom they work for.

Um ok. You do not need to be so nasty. OP can find a new job. There's really not a solution here. It's called a job for a reason. Working with young children can be very difficult.

[Anonymous]

They are children… not robots, not machines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP sounds like she has more sense than the parents, so to the PP who said she is naive, you are obviously not very bright, and I'm sure that your child behaves like this because you do not set any boundaries. This child is an accident waiting to happen, especially in a share.

OP is not a mother. Some children are simply more difficult. My 2 year old was this way. OP said the boy only recently turned 2. She most likely has only had easier children in the past.

I have worked with children whom have ADD, ADHD, Devlopmetal Delays, Behavior issues- you name it. I’ve also been working with children for 12 years. The difference between now and then, is that I did not work for the parents and therefore, they had no choice but to work with their child (and teacher to come up with a solution) or the child would no longer be able to attend the school.

So, now that I work for a parent, how do I go about this situation? You say your 2 year old was this way, correct? What did he or she do? Did your 2 year old hit you? Did your 2 year old throw objects out of anger? Did your 2 year run away from you, in public? If so, what did you do? My complaint is that the parents aren’t even TRYING! I can discipline a child, but what good does it do, if the parents aren’t on board?

Thanks for any advice!

Pp with the monkey backpack here. Kids learn quickly what will fly with each adult. Just because the parents don't discipline doesn't mean you can't or that the child won't learn. You just haven't found a method that works with that child yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“The difference between us is that you can find a new job.” You sound so dumb and defensive. Probably, because your child is bad as hell. Anyone can choose to pick another job no matter where they are or whom they work for.

Um ok. You do not need to be so nasty. OP can find a new job. There's really not a solution here. It's called a job for a reason. Working with young children can be very difficult.

How can you say there’s no solution, when the parents haven’t even tried?

[Anonymous]

I don’t even know why I post here. A lot of you parents like to tear down nannies (make them feel like they don’t know anything) when it seems to hit home. Why do you hire a nanny if you have no intentions on working with them (in this situation)? Let me get this out the way to the pp who said Op isn’t a mother- you’re wrong! Me being a parent has nothing to do with why these parents are so nonchalant about their child’s (dangerous) behavior. Therefore, me being a parent is a moot point. Yes, she is only two years old, but running away (in traffic), hitting ADULTS in the face and throwing any objects she can get her hands on (big, small, heavy or light), is unacceptable! Now, I only posted about this situation because I am trying to figure out how I can get through to the parents and have us work together. They are also due to have a baby in May, so baby girl needs to get it together or they are going to have some serious issues!

Why are parents so quick to get rid of nannies when they challenge you? Yeah, you can get a nanny in 2 seconds, but you’re not thinking about your kid. I don’t leave jobs because it’s tough- it’s not who I am, and I have dealt with children who have had far worse challenges. Again, during that time, the parents had no choice but to get on board. I love my charges as if they were my own but considering baby # 2 is on the way and her behavioral issues are becoming more aggressive, it’s time for mom and dad to buckle down!

I am slightly irritated with you judgmental parents. Yep, the one who is calling me judgmental, it’s you! You are judging me because I work as a nanny and because you assumed I wasn't a parent. The fact is, my annual income, is probably more than yours. I have probably been a mother and a childcare provider longer than you have been a parent. I didn’t come on here being disrespectful to the family I work for. I didn’t call them dumb, lazy or anything like that. I did pinpoint that disciplining is not their strong suit, however, how can I say that when I’ve never seen them discipline their daughter. I came here to find ways to rectify my situation and not walk away from it. Although, if need be, then that’s what I’ll do- I work with children because I enjoy it not because I have to.

I am still waiting to hear about ways pp, tried working with her 2-year-old. You can't say "some of us are doing the best we can" when you just let your child do and get away with whatever. Can you imagine if she threw a fit and threw something at her brother (this is her go to)? I’m not even going to mention how their house is not even prepped for a toddler. I am done, over this post and over you parents but thank you to the one's who have provided me with solutions- minus the leash thing. If anybody put a leash on my kid, it would be hell to pay (I DON'T PLAY THAT EITHER)!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp with the monkey backpack here. Kids learn quickly what will fly with each adult. Just because the parents don't discipline doesn't mean you can't or that the child won't learn. You just haven't found a method that works with that child yet.

Extremely well said! Every child is different. Just because some are more difficult, doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Saying “that’s just how 2 year olds are” is just an excuse for lazy parenting.

Of course you’re not going to get a amazingly well-behaved child 100% of the time, they are still just kids after all. That doesn’t mean don’t try your best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t even know why I post here. A lot of you parents like to tear down nannies (make them feel like they don’t know anything) when it seems to hit home. Why do you hire a nanny if you have no intentions on working with them (in this situation)? Let me get this out the way to the pp who said Op isn’t a mother- you’re wrong! Me being a parent has nothing to do with why these parents are so nonchalant about their child’s (dangerous) behavior. Therefore, me being a parent is a moot point. Yes, she is only two years old, but running away (in traffic), hitting ADULTS in the face and throwing any objects she can get her hands on (big, small, heavy or light), is unacceptable! Now, I only posted about this situation because I am trying to figure out how I can get through to the parents and have us work together. They are also due to have a baby in May, so baby girl needs to get it together or they are going to have some serious issues!

Why are parents so quick to get rid of nannies when they challenge you? Yeah, you can get a nanny in 2 seconds, but you’re not thinking about your kid. I don’t leave jobs because it’s tough- it’s not who I am, and I have dealt with children who have had far worse challenges. Again, during that time, the parents had no choice but to get on board. I love my charges as if they were my own but considering baby # 2 is on the way and her behavioral issues are becoming more aggressive, it’s time for mom and dad to buckle down!

I am slightly irritated with you judgmental parents. Yep, the one who is calling me judgmental, it’s you! You are judging me because I work as a nanny and because you assumed I wasn't a parent. The fact is, my annual income, is probably more than yours. I have probably been a mother and a childcare provider longer than you have been a parent. I didn’t come on here being disrespectful to the family I work for. I didn’t call them dumb, lazy or anything like that. I did pinpoint that disciplining is not their strong suit, however, how can I say that when I’ve never seen them discipline their daughter. I came here to find ways to rectify my situation and not walk away from it. Although, if need be, then that’s what I’ll do- I work with children because I enjoy it not because I have to.

I am still waiting to hear about ways pp, tried working with her 2-year-old. You can't say "some of us are doing the best we can" when you just let your child do and get away with whatever. Can you imagine if she threw a fit and threw something at her brother (this is her go to)? I’m not even going to mention how their house is not even prepped for a toddler. I am done, over this post and over you parents but thank you to the one's who have provided me with solutions- minus the leash thing. If anybody put a leash on my kid, it would be hell to pay (I DON'T PLAY THAT EITHER)!

What does your annual income have to do with anything? You sound weird. GET A NEW JOB. This one is going to be almost impossible to fix.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“The difference between us is that you can find a new job.” You sound so dumb and defensive. Probably, because your child is bad as hell. Anyone can choose to pick another job no matter where they are or whom they work for.

Um ok. You do not need to be so nasty. OP can find a new job. There's really not a solution here. It's called a job for a reason. Working with young children can be very difficult.

How can you say there’s no solution, when the parents haven’t even tried?

Because the parents are never going to change. I'm surprised that you don't know this already given all your childcare experience.