Nanny loyalty

[Anonymous]

It sounds like they're leaving because of the nanny, not the money. What is the nanny's problem? Why does she care how much these people make?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

OP said at least one of the sitters said so, in an email.

Here is what I think. You have a confidentiality agreement. You know she isn't abiding by it. She knows you know, and that you will do nothing about it.

OP - thank you, this is exactly the situation. Nanny doesn’t want anyone around for too long so she stirs the pot. She’s immature about it, and she’ll often say stuff to me to undermine the sitters if she thinks I like them too much.
Nanny’s base rate is $30/hr and she knows she won’t get paid more than that for a full time gig anywhere else.
I offer the sitters the rate they’re asking for, which is usually $22-25, and I pay them every week even when they don’t work as I need to be able to rely on them.

If you really want to keep this nanny, I would get her some therapy. I know it sounds crazy but we did this for a similarly jealous and insecure woman in my company. Even a kind of "couples counseling". Your nanny has some issues that are not going to resolve with just another talk from you.

Or warn her one last time and then fire her if she does it again. At the rate you are paying your babysitters, however, they are stupid to leave your employ,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

OP said at least one of the sitters said so, in an email.

Here is what I think. You have a confidentiality agreement. You know she isn't abiding by it. She knows you know, and that you will do nothing about it.

OP - thank you, this is exactly the situation. Nanny doesn’t want anyone around for too long so she stirs the pot. She’s immature about it, and she’ll often say stuff to me to undermine the sitters if she thinks I like them too much.
Nanny’s base rate is $30/hr and she knows she won’t get paid more than that for a full time gig anywhere else.
I offer the sitters the rate they’re asking for, which is usually $22-25, and I pay them every week even when they don’t work as I need to be able to rely on them.

If you really want to keep this nanny, I would get her some therapy. I know it sounds crazy but we did this for a similarly jealous and insecure woman in my company. Even a kind of "couples counseling". Your nanny has some issues that are not going to resolve with just another talk from you.

Or warn her one last time and then fire her if she does it again. At the rate you are paying your babysitters, however, they are stupid to leave your employ,

+1. Here's a thought, if you want to keep the nanny> New rules :you pay the sitters for time worked and the unworked (or guaranteed) portion they get at the end of X months/year, whatever your expectation of tenure is. The nanny's new contact includes some hook that rewards her if the babysitter makes it to the end of X months/year (as determined above).