Nanny loyalty

[Anonymous]

How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

OP said at least one of the sitters said so, in an email.

Here is what I think. You have a confidentiality agreement. You know she isn't abiding by it. She knows you know, and that you will do nothing about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

Or lower the nanny's rate, if the discrepancy is causing the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you really think your nanny is doing this? Why? What would be the upside for her?

I am a nanny and I have no clue how much the babysitter makes but I am thrilled to see her! If she couldn't work (once my charge is asleep) I would have to - sometimes after a 12 hour day.

I don't see why your nanny would sabotage babysitters!

She likes us to be dependent on her, and she feels threatened by new people especially as they’re paid less than her.

You sound paranoid.

[Anonymous]

What are you paying the babysitters? If they are getting $15-$20/hr and the nanny is only making $12-$15/hr, no wonder she is upset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

OP said at least one of the sitters said so, in an email.

Here is what I think. You have a confidentiality agreement. You know she isn't abiding by it. She knows you know, and that you will do nothing about it.

OP - thank you, this is exactly the situation. Nanny doesn’t want anyone around for too long so she stirs the pot. She’s immature about it, and she’ll often say stuff to me to undermine the sitters if she thinks I like them too much.
Nanny’s base rate is $30/hr and she knows she won’t get paid more than that for a full time gig anywhere else.
I offer the sitters the rate they’re asking for, which is usually $22-25, and I pay them every week even when they don’t work as I need to be able to rely on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you really think your nanny is doing this? Why? What would be the upside for her?

I am a nanny and I have no clue how much the babysitter makes but I am thrilled to see her! If she couldn't work (once my charge is asleep) I would have to - sometimes after a 12 hour day.

I don't see why your nanny would sabotage babysitters!

She likes us to be dependent on her, and she feels threatened by new people especially as they’re paid less than her.

You sound paranoid.

I’m busy and stressed because this is the third time I’m replacing someone since September, it’s time consuming for me and unsettling for my kids.
I need to put my Nanny on notice that she can’t keep doing this but she is difficult to manage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you really think your nanny is doing this? Why? What would be the upside for her?

I am a nanny and I have no clue how much the babysitter makes but I am thrilled to see her! If she couldn't work (once my charge is asleep) I would have to - sometimes after a 12 hour day.

I don't see why your nanny would sabotage babysitters!

She likes us to be dependent on her, and she feels threatened by new people especially as they’re paid less than her.

You sound paranoid.

I’m busy and stressed because this is the third time I’m replacing someone since September, it’s time consuming for me and unsettling for my kids.
I need to put my Nanny on notice that she can’t keep doing this but she is difficult to manage.

If this is the third person you've had to replace then IT'S YOU, not the nanny. Sitters do not quit a good job because of a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

OP said at least one of the sitters said so, in an email.

Here is what I think. You have a confidentiality agreement. You know she isn't abiding by it. She knows you know, and that you will do nothing about it.

OP - thank you, this is exactly the situation. Nanny doesn’t want anyone around for too long so she stirs the pot. She’s immature about it, and she’ll often say stuff to me to undermine the sitters if she thinks I like them too much.
Nanny’s base rate is $30/hr and she knows she won’t get paid more than that for a full time gig anywhere else.
I offer the sitters the rate they’re asking for, which is usually $22-25, and I pay them every week even when they don’t work as I need to be able to rely on them.

REPLACE her. $30 is a fantastic rate for a nanny and $22-25 with guaranteed hours is very fair for babysitting.

[Anonymous]

Your Nanny sounds like she has some insecurities on her part plus she seems controlling.
She may also suffer some mental issues due to your description of her behavior.

Not everything has to be a power struggle.

I wouldn’t want someone w/her characteristics around my child so I would offer two-weeks severance to her, then issue her her permanent walking papers.

It really would be for the best.
Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

OP said at least one of the sitters said so, in an email.

Here is what I think. You have a confidentiality agreement. You know she isn't abiding by it. She knows you know, and that you will do nothing about it.

OP - thank you, this is exactly the situation. Nanny doesn’t want anyone around for too long so she stirs the pot. She’s immature about it, and she’ll often say stuff to me to undermine the sitters if she thinks I like them too much.
Nanny’s base rate is $30/hr and she knows she won’t get paid more than that for a full time gig anywhere else.
I offer the sitters the rate they’re asking for, which is usually $22-25, and I pay them every week even when they don’t work as I need to be able to rely on them.

Now I have to wonder if they're giving money as the excuse, but really leaving for other reasons, like a better schedule, more hours, easier kids, less driving ... . No one expects to make the same as someone who has been in a job for years, and you're paying a reasonable rate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you really think your nanny is doing this? Why? What would be the upside for her?

I am a nanny and I have no clue how much the babysitter makes but I am thrilled to see her! If she couldn't work (once my charge is asleep) I would have to - sometimes after a 12 hour day.

I don't see why your nanny would sabotage babysitters!

She likes us to be dependent on her, and she feels threatened by new people especially as they’re paid less than her.

You sound paranoid.

I’m busy and stressed because this is the third time I’m replacing someone since September, it’s time consuming for me and unsettling for my kids.
I need to put my Nanny on notice that she can’t keep doing this but she is difficult to manage.

If this is the third person you've had to replace then IT'S YOU, not the nanny. Sitters do not quit a good job because of a nanny.

One was a flake and would have quit either way.
Two were squeezed by our Nanny, the sitters interact with her on a day to day basis as I’m working

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

OP said at least one of the sitters said so, in an email.

Here is what I think. You have a confidentiality agreement. You know she isn't abiding by it. She knows you know, and that you will do nothing about it.

OP - thank you, this is exactly the situation. Nanny doesn’t want anyone around for too long so she stirs the pot. She’s immature about it, and she’ll often say stuff to me to undermine the sitters if she thinks I like them too much.
Nanny’s base rate is $30/hr and she knows she won’t get paid more than that for a full time gig anywhere else.
I offer the sitters the rate they’re asking for, which is usually $22-25, and I pay them every week even when they don’t work as I need to be able to rely on them.

REPLACE her. $30 is a fantastic rate for a nanny and $22-25 with guaranteed hours is very fair for babysitting.

I know but I rely on her so much.
I work a lot and she’s really good at her job, just difficult because she’s not loyal to us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you know for a fact OP that it is your actual Nanny that is talking about babysitting rates w/these sitters?
When you asked her about it, she told you she didn’t so why do you not believe her...??!
Has she proven herself a liar before?

I personally think these babysitters are likely discussing what they are making w/other sitters & their friends and deciding that their rates are under what they should be earning, etc.
I highly doubt that they are discussing salary w/your Nanny.

Perhaps up your pay rate for your sitters so that way there will be future less turnover.

Good luck!

OP said at least one of the sitters said so, in an email.

Here is what I think. You have a confidentiality agreement. You know she isn't abiding by it. She knows you know, and that you will do nothing about it.

OP - thank you, this is exactly the situation. Nanny doesn’t want anyone around for too long so she stirs the pot. She’s immature about it, and she’ll often say stuff to me to undermine the sitters if she thinks I like them too much.
Nanny’s base rate is $30/hr and she knows she won’t get paid more than that for a full time gig anywhere else.
I offer the sitters the rate they’re asking for, which is usually $22-25, and I pay them every week even when they don’t work as I need to be able to rely on them.

Now I have to wonder if they're giving money as the excuse, but really leaving for other reasons, like a better schedule, more hours, easier kids, less driving ... . No one expects to make the same as someone who has been in a job for years, and you're paying a reasonable rate.

They feel bullied by our nanny.
She tells them the last sitter made $28 why are you taking $22, if they don’t work us up to $28 she gets insecure and pushes them around or tells me they’re not good with the kids

[Anonymous]

$30/hr will get you STELLAR candidates. Stellar.

In your shoes I would sit the current nanny down and tell her that you know she is talking about rates with your other nannies and that they are leaving as a result. That you have no desire to replace her but she is violating her contract and is on notice that the next time you become aware of her violating the contract she will be dismissed.

Hand her a letter that says the same thing.

Or, just give her a severance package and tell her that today was her last day, here's a month's pay, that you're terminating her for breaching the contract.

Seriously OP, with what you're paying you should not be dealing with this. She is not a great nanny if she is behaving this way.