Our nanny is secretive about her personal life

[Anonymous]

Don't be so creepy, OP. Let Nanny do her job without having to "share" with nosey you.

I agree that the nanny probably just doesn't like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't call me a victim when you know NOTHING about my life PP.
Same goes for the MB posting who again, knows nothing about my life and struggles if it is the person I think it is.
If it isn't my MB, I would say the same. This MB has no business poking her nose in where it is not wanted. I mean good for you, that you have a perfect family and social life, it isn't as easy for others. You come across as smug and creepy.

NP here and I agree that you can change your own life. And lose some of that anger! You are your own worst enemy.

So I am meant to say "It is wonderful this MB disrespects her nanny so much on a forum where the events she writes about are easily identifiable. I feel fantastic knowing she pities me and worries about my social life."

[Anonymous]

Not everyone has luck in finding a life partner, having kids and being lucky enough to have good friends. Yes you have to put yourself out there but it is undeniable that some are more lucky in the way they come about finding their partners, great social life and having children. That is life. It isn't as easy for some as it is others.
It's also worth remembering that if you are at the top and have the great house, the strong marriage, perfect career and lovely kids then the only way is down. So never get too smug or conceited about having more than others. Life is unpredictable and karma strikes hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not everyone has luck in finding a life partner, having kids and being lucky enough to have good friends. Yes you have to put yourself out there but it is undeniable that some are more lucky in the way they come about finding their partners, great social life and having children. That is life. It isn't as easy for some as it is others.
It's also worth remembering that if you are at the top and have the great house, the strong marriage, perfect career and lovely kids then the only way is down. So never get too smug or conceited about having more than others. Life is unpredictable and karma strikes hard.

It has nothing to do with luck, PP. You make your own life. If you are unhappy or lonely - change your life. You sound so bitter.

And I write this as a nanny who is widowed and without children. I have a wonderful life and I love being a nanny. I fixed what I didn't like about my life and about myself.

[Anonymous]

Again, bitter because I write that an MB shouldn't be writing about her nanny in this way?
I stand by everything I said. For the record, I don't even want children.

The point I was trying to make was that not everyone wants the 'perfect' family set up and yet if you do have it and do have a big group of loyal and good friends then you are very fortunate. Yet at the same time people should not get smug about their lives. It is fact that some people find it easier in life to find partners and friends. I don't think anyone can dispute that. Sure you have to go and get it but for some it just comes to them.
I am done here anywhere. It is a ridiculous thread and the focus has switched to me when it should be on the mbs patronising and rude thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Again, bitter because I write that an MB shouldn't be writing about her nanny in this way?
I stand by everything I said. For the record, I don't even want children.

The point I was trying to make was that not everyone wants the 'perfect' family set up and yet if you do have it and do have a big group of loyal and good friends then you are very fortunate. Yet at the same time people should not get smug about their lives. It is fact that some people find it easier in life to find partners and friends. I don't think anyone can dispute that. Sure you have to go and get it but for some it just comes to them.
I am done here anywhere. It is a ridiculous thread and the focus has switched to me when it should be on the mbs patronising and rude thread.

Good. You also need to learn to let things go, PP. Your first post was self-pitying and "victim-y". And the responses take nothing away from the fact that we all agree that the OP of the thread had no business asking about the nanny's personal life or weekend so stop pretending that you don't understand.

[Anonymous]

Hmm. Victimy-y is a word now is it?

I agree, OP needs to mind her own business and I also agree her nanny
probably doesn't like her and probably picks up that the OP thinks of her as a loser. I know I wouldn't speak to a coworker or boss about my personal life unless I felt close to them. Unless the MB wants to invite her for trips out and weekends, she needs to shut up and think herself lucky she has a fantastic nanny.

Honestly, some people are unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmm. Victimy-y is a word now is it?

I agree, OP needs to mind her own business and I also agree her nanny
probably doesn't like her and probably picks up that the OP thinks of her as a loser. I know I wouldn't speak to a coworker or boss about my personal life unless I felt close to them. Unless the MB wants to invite her for trips out and weekends, she needs to shut up and think herself lucky she has a fantastic nanny.

Honestly, some people are unbelievable.

I don;t see where anyone disagreed with you, PP. Why are posters "unbelievable"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is from an MB, it was probably mine. The questions she asked her nanny are similar to what was asked and how I responded last week. On the chance it is, let me say the following-

Not everyone is as lucky as you, to have a husband and a child and to be financially secure. You are very fortunate to have the social network you do but don't ever look down on me for not having what you do. You have NO idea of the family struggles I have or the fact that I worry about my future and life everyday, that I often cry myself to sleep and feel I have no support.
If it is you posting, you should be ashamed as it really shows you up to be a shallow person with the wrong priorities. Maybe you should hire a bubbly, outspoken, sociable nanny who isn't reliable, not that great with kids, pushy towards your parenting but hey, at least you get to hear about her amazing weekends and social life right?
Unbelievable.

I am one of the posters who feels this nanny needs to change her own life and stop crying herself to sleep every night. If you want a social network - make one. If you want a husband - find one. Many people have "family struggles" but are not as miserable as this poster sounds.

I agree 100% that the MB has no right asking her personal questions. I am commenting and have commend above on this particular poster needing to change her own life.

Bevievable. It can be done.

[Anonymous]

Unbelievable means that it is crazy and wrong of the OP to post this when it sounds like they have a fantastic nanny who they don't sound very deserving of. I feel that once people have 'it all' they do become a little high and mighty. Marriage and kids is not necessarily the recipe for happiness but I disagree that luck doesn't play a part in it. Some people do fall into that life quite easily without much effort where as others have to try a lot harder. Life isn't fair and it's the way the cookie crumbles, however, I digress, this is about the MB after all.

[Anonymous]

I tend to keep my private life quiet for a couple reasons. I don't want my employers to jump to conclusions about what my stuff might mean for them. I was quiet about getting engaged and if DB hadn't noticed the rings I probably wouldn't have mentioned it. I didn't want them to assume I was going to quit

I also don't want to feel judged. And finally I'm not that interesting haha.

[Anonymous]

My employers didn't know when:

1. I miscarried
2. We contemplated moving across the country (ultimately decided not to)
3. Let DH's young cousin live with us for a year
4. Threw huge parties

I also NEVER tell them where I go to lunch ever since I heard the horror story of someone being tracked down at lunch to come back to work.

My personal life is just that.

[Anonymous]

The OP has some mental issues. Instead of bothering your nanny why dont you go help to the community center, help the homeless instead of poking where is none of your bussniess. I hope your nanny leaves you.

[Anonymous]

I agree OP. She needs to stop being so condescending as well, sounds like a total nightmare to work for.

[Anonymous]

I think small talk is OK and asking how their weekend was is normal. However, when making small talk just saying "it was great!", is an acceptable answer and does not mean she's being secretive but simply making small talk.