Our nanny is secretive about her personal life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a nanny testing out what someone might think of the situation.

What on earth are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she goes home and watches Netflix and doesn't want you to know she's an introvert with a small circle of friends and doesn't socialize regularly. That's what I read into it because that's a lot like me.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a nanny testing out what someone might think of the situation.

What on earth are you talking about?

? OP is posing as an MB but I think she is really a nanny. May be wrong, just a feeling I have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a nanny testing out what someone might think of the situation.

What on earth are you talking about?

? OP is posing as an MB but I think she is really a nanny. May be wrong, just a feeling I have.

Why would a nanny pose as an MB in this situation? Makes no sense to me.

[Anonymous]

Gee, do you really want to hear about me going to that super fun party, having a blast? Do you want to hear about my child-free fun nights? I'm sure that you won't be jealous at all.

How about my child-free depression that rears its head once in a while, when I long to have children of my own, children I can't have.

Or maybe you want to hear about my great-grandmother who is nearing the end of her life, and all the debilitating and depressing things that go along with that.

Maybe you want to hear my stories and live vicariously. Maybe you want to feel superior. Either way, it's my choice to share or not. Most of the time, I choose not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For example, when I ask her how her night or weekend was, she just says "Good! How was yours?". Nothing more. Yesterday I asked her what she was up to this weekend and she said she "wasn't sure, was probably going to check out a fair". It's seem a little odd to me. If she shy or trying to be professional? Does she not have a social life? She's an amazing nanny. My kids love her, and so do I. I just wish she would share more. Can I get her to open up?

Stop! You sound creepy!! I am sure she has a wonderful life that she doesn't want to include you in!

Face it, OP, she is just not into you. She may love your kids and love her work with them but clearly doesn't care for you.

Nanny here who posted that these responses could be me and it had zero relation to how I feel about a given boss. I am a private person. That is a fact about me, not a response to a given person.

[Anonymous]

If this is from an MB, it was probably mine. The questions she asked her nanny are similar to what was asked and how I responded last week. On the chance it is, let me say the following-

Not everyone is as lucky as you, to have a husband and a child and to be financially secure. You are very fortunate to have the social network you do but don't ever look down on me for not having what you do. You have NO idea of the family struggles I have or the fact that I worry about my future and life everyday, that I often cry myself to sleep and feel I have no support.
If it is you posting, you should be ashamed as it really shows you up to be a shallow person with the wrong priorities. Maybe you should hire a bubbly, outspoken, sociable nanny who isn't reliable, not that great with kids, pushy towards your parenting but hey, at least you get to hear about her amazing weekends and social life right?
Unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is from an MB, it was probably mine. The questions she asked her nanny are similar to what was asked and how I responded last week. On the chance it is, let me say the following-

Not everyone is as lucky as you, to have a husband and a child and to be financially secure. You are very fortunate to have the social network you do but don't ever look down on me for not having what you do. You have NO idea of the family struggles I have or the fact that I worry about my future and life everyday, that I often cry myself to sleep and feel I have no support.
If it is you posting, you should be ashamed as it really shows you up to be a shallow person with the wrong priorities. Maybe you should hire a bubbly, outspoken, sociable nanny who isn't reliable, not that great with kids, pushy towards your parenting but hey, at least you get to hear about her amazing weekends and social life right?
Unbelievable.

You can change your life, Nanny. You can get a husband, have a child (or adopt) and be financially secure. Please stop being a victim and change your life.

[Anonymous]

Don't call me a victim when you know NOTHING about my life PP.
Same goes for the MB posting who again, knows nothing about my life and struggles if it is the person I think it is.
If it isn't my MB, I would say the same. This MB has no business poking her nose in where it is not wanted. I mean good for you, that you have a perfect family and social life, it isn't as easy for others. You come across as smug and creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't call me a victim when you know NOTHING about my life PP.
Same goes for the MB posting who again, knows nothing about my life and struggles if it is the person I think it is.
If it isn't my MB, I would say the same. This MB has no business poking her nose in where it is not wanted. I mean good for you, that you have a perfect family and social life, it isn't as easy for others. You come across as smug and creepy.

This is OP. I wanted to say that I am not your MB. I can see how it comes across "creepy" on a message board, but the truth is, my life isn't that exciting. I am just genuinely interested in what she has been up to in her free time. I guess in some ways I envy her. If she doesn't want to share, that's fine. I admit that it's hard to be just an employer when she spends so much time with my kids and in my home.

[Anonymous]

How do you know you are not my MB?

I think what I have an issue with is that you come across as judgemental and smug in your OP. It's almost like you want us to tell you how yes, there must be a problem with her. It's just weird OP and my guess is that there is deeper meaning to your question.

You still sound like my MB and it hurts. Even if by some chance you are not, the thought my MB could be feeling the same way about me isn't a good feeling. Please just concentrate on the fact you have a damn good nanny? More than you deserve if I am being completely honest.

[Anonymous]

First of all, I'm positive I read this exact same post last year.

Secondly, who else thinks the nanny spends her weekends at a swingers' club, or hunting, or exotic dancing, or doing something else that she assumes is totally incompatible with her MB's idea of her?

[Anonymous]

Are MBs seriously that interested and bothered about knowing what is going on in nanny's social life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't call me a victim when you know NOTHING about my life PP.
Same goes for the MB posting who again, knows nothing about my life and struggles if it is the person I think it is.
If it isn't my MB, I would say the same. This MB has no business poking her nose in where it is not wanted. I mean good for you, that you have a perfect family and social life, it isn't as easy for others. You come across as smug and creepy.

NP here and I agree that you can change your own life. And lose some of that anger! You are your own worst enemy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First of all, I'm positive I read this exact same post last year.

Secondly, who else thinks the nanny spends her weekends at a swingers' club, or hunting, or exotic dancing, or doing something else that she assumes is totally incompatible with her MB's idea of her?

I agree. It sounds like that crazy poster who wants to know if her nanny is jealous of her.