How appropriate jump ship for another offer?

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Anonymous wrote:This is also a great reason to have a probation period where either party can terminate the relationship without penalty! I used to set mine at 4 weeks but bumped it up to 6 recently.

And don't let anyone make you feel worse. Yes, it's a crappy situation, but you have to make choices for you, not them.

Long probation periods are just another term for "shopping around." No dual income family wants a fickle contract and to revisit this every month or two. You either work together to provide childcare or you take the other approach...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is also a great reason to have a probation period where either party can terminate the relationship without penalty! I used to set mine at 4 weeks but bumped it up to 6 recently.

And don't let anyone make you feel worse. Yes, it's a crappy situation, but you have to make choices for you, not them.

Long probation periods are just another term for "shopping around." No dual income family wants a fickle contract and to revisit this every month or two. You either work together to provide childcare or you take the other approach...

This is exactly why I offer my nanny $25/hr, even if she came in asking for less. I just don't want to deal with the poaching and other games and have a nanny bond with my children just to leave. I had one nanny from when my first son was turning 1 until sometime during his year of K and I a second nanny with the new baby now for 3 years and hope to keep her many more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is also a great reason to have a probation period where either party can terminate the relationship without penalty! I used to set mine at 4 weeks but bumped it up to 6 recently.

And don't let anyone make you feel worse. Yes, it's a crappy situation, but you have to make choices for you, not them.

Long probation periods are just another term for "shopping around." No dual income family wants a fickle contract and to revisit this every month or two. You either work together to provide childcare or you take the other approach...

This is exactly why I offer my nanny $25/hr, even if she came in asking for less. I just don't want to deal with the poaching and other games and have a nanny bond with my children just to leave. I had one nanny from when my first son was turning 1 until sometime during his year of K and I a second nanny with the new baby now for 3 years and hope to keep her many more.

Not all of us are that fortunate to afford that for 1 kid, pp.

Anyway, OP, why did you even post here? it sounds like you know what you intend to do. while i think it's not that much more money--how many hrs a week? if it's just 40 then it's 40 x 52 which is $2080. after taxes it's about $1800.

On the other hand it sounds like you like the other people better and it's a very convenient commute. so, you're right to think it's better to resign as soon as possible. does family 1 know you're leaving for grad school next year anyway? i have 2 kids and would prefer to have someone who would be able to stay with us for a while. current nanny is w/ us almost 4 years now. if we could afford it we'd keep her until youngest was in kindergarten.