Can someone explain the allure of working-from-home one day a week?

[Anonymous]

MB here and I have never gotten the "allure" of working from home either. I hired a good nanny so I could work outside the home!

[Anonymous]

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

Yes, the help should never question the motives of any boss. Ever. A nanny should know her place at all times including on a nanny message board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

So, asking a question on a nanny message board is now considered being "obsessed" with the topic of the question? LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

Yes, the help should never question the motives of any boss. Ever. A nanny should know her place at all times including on a nanny message board.

Sadly, that is the way a lot of the MBs feel. Not only to do exactly as they say but to also never judge or question (even in your own head) what they say.

I have said it before and I'll say it again - nannies never quit a job because of the children. It is always because of the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

Yes, the help should never question the motives of any boss. Ever. A nanny should know her place at all times including on a nanny message board.

Sadly, that is the way a lot of the MBs feel. Not only to do exactly as they say but to also never judge or question (even in your own head) what they say.

I have said it before and I'll say it again - nannies never quit a job because of the children. It is always because of the parents.

Sure, that's probably true. And nannies get accept jobs or not because of the parents. And parents hire and fire nannies. And choose not to hire any nanny they know to be active on DCUM. (Speaking from experience.)

That's because kids aren't bosses or employees. If the adults can't behave professionally and respectfully then it doesn't work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

Yes, the help should never question the motives of any boss. Ever. A nanny should know her place at all times including on a nanny message board.

Sadly, that is the way a lot of the MBs feel. Not only to do exactly as they say but to also never judge or question (even in your own head) what they say.

I have said it before and I'll say it again - nannies never quit a job because of the children. It is always because of the parents.

Wow you haven't met many children I guess...

I have been a nanny for a a long long time and I would totally continue on with my current charges even if my current MB was one of my worst ones from the past. You spend 99% of your time with the kids, I can handle a bad MB, but there are soooooo many kids I am glad I am not longer working with. I have quit because of the kids many times (not at a drop of the hat or anything, but quit in the sense that I was unhappy and started looking for a new family and quit when I found something.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

Yes, the help should never question the motives of any boss. Ever. A nanny should know her place at all times including on a nanny message board.

Sadly, that is the way a lot of the MBs feel. Not only to do exactly as they say but to also never judge or question (even in your own head) what they say.

I have said it before and I'll say it again - nannies never quit a job because of the children. It is always because of the parents.

Wow you haven't met many children I guess...

I have been a nanny for a a long long time and I would totally continue on with my current charges even if my current MB was one of my worst ones from the past. You spend 99% of your time with the kids, I can handle a bad MB, but there are soooooo many kids I am glad I am not longer working with. I have quit because of the kids many times (not at a drop of the hat or anything, but quit in the sense that I was unhappy and started looking for a new family and quit when I found something.)

If you have quit "many times" because of the children than you really should find another line of work, PP. Our job is to handle difficult children.

There was a teacher at the school where I used to teach who always used to blame the kids in her class for their test scores and behavior -- and she was finally asked to resign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

Yes, the help should never question the motives of any boss. Ever. A nanny should know her place at all times including on a nanny message board.

So true. The Slave should never question the Master, even in private thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Mothers can win on this board. They get shredded for having the temerity to work outside the home. They get shredded for having the temerity to work inside the home.

OP, it's none of your business WHY she wants to work at home, nor is that a question strangers can answer.

If you want an actual answer - ask her.

If you want to address the problems her being home is causing, talk to her.

If you just want to complain and judge then you've found your home, and kindred spirits clearly.

+1.

It's very strange that OP is so obsessed with why her MB works at home. It doesn't matter why and it isn't any of OP's business. Point is she does work at home, one day, every other week. OP has already said that she is out of the house for five hours a day, so really, her problem is pretty minor. Three hours every other week to have an MB home is pretty easy.

That said, OP feels very put out. Fine. So she should talk to her MB about ways to make her days at home easier for OP (I don't believe for a second the charge is damaged by having the mother work home so infrequently).

If she doesn't want to do that, OP should quit.

It's a really easy problem to solve if OP focuses on the issue and not the ridiculous question of why.

Yes, the help should never question the motives of any boss. Ever. A nanny should know her place at all times including on a nanny message board.

Sadly, that is the way a lot of the MBs feel. Not only to do exactly as they say but to also never judge or question (even in your own head) what they say.

I have said it before and I'll say it again - nannies never quit a job because of the children. It is always because of the parents.

Wow you haven't met many children I guess...

I have been a nanny for a a long long time and I would totally continue on with my current charges even if my current MB was one of my worst ones from the past. You spend 99% of your time with the kids, I can handle a bad MB, but there are soooooo many kids I am glad I am not longer working with. I have quit because of the kids many times (not at a drop of the hat or anything, but quit in the sense that I was unhappy and started looking for a new family and quit when I found something.)

If you have quit "many times" because of the children than you really should find another line of work, PP. Our job is to handle difficult children.

There was a teacher at the school where I used to teach who always used to blame the kids in her class for their test scores and behavior -- and she was finally asked to resign.

My job at any given moment is to watch one families child or children, just like any other worker I have a right to be happy and enjoy my work. I have no duty to work with the first family I meet or stay with any family forever through anything. If I interview with a family with unruly children I will move on. If children I am working with end up being really difficult to manage I will move on.

I am doing the same job I signed up for, caring for one families children, but now I am really happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the reality OP. Talk to your boss and try to find solutions, or decide this job isn't for you.

It is inappropriate for you to judge her choice to work from home.

What a load of crap. Of course the nanny should recognize a situation that's having a negative effect on her charge. That's one of the ways you know the difference between a nanny and a sitter.

OP, share your observations with the clueless parent, and see if she wants to start practicing some healthy boundaries. If not, you have two children to work with.

And nanny should earn double for having to nanny the mommy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the reality OP. Talk to your boss and try to find solutions, or decide this job isn't for you.

It is inappropriate for you to judge her choice to work from home.

What a load of crap. Of course the nanny should recognize a situation that's having a negative effect on her charge. That's one of the ways you know the difference between a nanny and a sitter.

OP, share your observations with the clueless parent, and see if she wants to start practicing some healthy boundaries. If not, you have two children to work with.

And nanny should earn double for having to nanny the mommy.

All dcum nannies should earn double, right now! Roar!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the reality OP. Talk to your boss and try to find solutions, or decide this job isn't for you.

It is inappropriate for you to judge her choice to work from home.

What a load of crap. Of course the nanny should recognize a situation that's having a negative effect on her charge. That's one of the ways you know the difference between a nanny and a sitter.

OP, share your observations with the clueless parent, and see if she wants to start practicing some healthy boundaries. If not, you have two children to work with.

And nanny should earn double for having to nanny the mommy.

All dcum nannies should earn double, right now! Roar!

Wow, PP, you are so bitter.

[Anonymous]

No, I have never understood the allure of working-from-home. I'm not even going to read the other responses because none will say anything new. As a working mother, I need my family life and work life to be separate and have seen that women who ask to work from home in our office are not looked upon favorably by their bosses. I am a better working at my place of work and am better at being a mother when I am home. Everyone gets 100% when I am with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I have never understood the allure of working-from-home. I'm not even going to read the other responses because none will say anything new. As a working mother, I need my family life and work life to be separate and have seen that women who ask to work from home in our office are not looked upon favorably by their bosses. I am a better working at my place of work and am better at being a mother when I am home. Everyone gets 100% when I am with them.

+1 I don't ignore my work for my kids when I'm AT WORK and I don't ignore my kids for my work when I am AT HOME.