Can someone explain the allure of working-from-home one day a week?

[Anonymous]

When I accepted this job, MB never mentioned that she would be working-from-home every other Friday. My employers and charge live in a small house and now that my charge is 1.5 years-old, it is impossible for me to keep her quiet inside the house. MB interrupts us and comes into the room anytime her DD is laughing or whining which is very hard on both my charge and me. Either the baby will cling to me when she sees her mother or want her mother - neither is fun. I also never know when MB is playing with the baby during the day if I can leave the room and do other things or if I am expected to stay with them. MB also likes to work on her laptop in the living room which means I can only keep the baby in her bedroom.

It has nothing to do with anything nefarious or lazy I may/may not be doing during the day as I am on Nanny Cam all of the time when they are at work.

It might be easier to accept if I could understand WHY my employer would want to stay home to work and not go to her beautiful office just a 1/2 mile from their home.

TIA

[Anonymous]

Nanny here and I have never understood the attraction to mothers either. I certainly hate it when MB is home -- she is a constant nuisance to both my charges and "mentions" what they are wearing, eating, playing with, doing, singing... all fricking day long (her passive aggressive way of getting me to change something - example of something she would say to the kids when I am within hearing-range: "Lucky you to have a nanny who gives you so much fruit during the day").
PITA.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea. I am at my office right now even though I have the day off. I need to catch up on some paperwork, and I don't want to be in my nanny's hair with the kids.

Why on earth does she do her work in the living room?

[Anonymous]

To see her child?
To be in her own home, in comfy clothes?
To not have to be bothered with whoever/whatever in the office?
To get better uninterrupted time to concentrate on work than may be possible in an office setting?

If it isn't working well (which it sounds like it isn't) then you need to sit down w/ your employer and talk about that and ways to better manage things when she's in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To see her child?
To be in her own home, in comfy clothes?
To not have to be bothered with whoever/whatever in the office?
To get better uninterrupted time to concentrate on work than may be possible in an office setting?

If it isn't working well (which it sounds like it isn't) then you need to sit down w/ your employer and talk about that and ways to better manage things when she's in the house.

OP here and thank you.

I totally understand her desire to see her child but not when it is clearly upsetting her child.

The comfy clothes I get 100%.

She has a private office and must have fewer distractions than having a toddler in the next room.

She does get uninterrupted time when I take my charge out in the morning (usually for 2.5 to 3 hours) and again in the afternoon for about two hours -- but her phone is constantly ringing at home so she isn't uninterrupted at home either.

So, basically, I can understand the allure of comfy clothes out of the things listed. Is that enough of a reason to stay home and throw off her DD's routine and make her unhappy?

[Anonymous]

I have never known a good nanny who would put up with work-from-home days with an MB for very long.

[Anonymous]

You have a right to tell your employer that this is not working out for DD/you and why. Especially since this was never discussed in your pre-hiring. I would never accept a job where the MB/DB were going to be home during work hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here and I have never understood the attraction to mothers either. I certainly hate it when MB is home -- she is a constant nuisance to both my charges and "mentions" what they are wearing, eating, playing with, doing, singing... all fricking day long (her passive aggressive way of getting me to change something - example of something she would say to the kids when I am within hearing-range: "Lucky you to have a nanny who gives you so much fruit during the day").
PITA.

My MB (thank God) always works out of the house and a good distance away from the house so that is not my concern. But I do get the same passive-aggressive crap all the time!


MB: Over the weekend we gave DS meatballs and he loved them.

Me: Would you like me to give him meatballs for lunch today?

MB: That's a great idea!

[Anonymous]

This is the reality OP. Talk to your boss and try to find solutions, or decide this job isn't for you.

It is inappropriate for you to judge her choice to work from home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the reality OP. Talk to your boss and try to find solutions, or decide this job isn't for you.

It is inappropriate for you to judge her choice to work from home.

I am not judging her -- I am asking why she may want to do it.

[Anonymous]

I can't explain it, OP. It is a mystery to me as a working mother. The office is built to be conducive to work - I think parent who insist on one or two days a week to work at home (when they have children and a nanny at home) are lying to themselves and not performing in the best interest of their jobs or future career.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't explain it, OP. It is a mystery to me as a working mother. The office is built to be conducive to work - I think parent who insist on one or two days a week to work at home (when they have children and a nanny at home) are lying to themselves and not performing in the best interest of their jobs or future career.

+1 A working mother should quit her job and be a SAHM or hire a nanny and actually do her job at her place of employment. Half measure avail us nothing...

[Anonymous]

This thread is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Idiots are everywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is ridiculous.

Idiots are everywhere.

Says the idiot.