Should we let nanny pay?

[Anonymous]

OP here. Some of you really need to look up the definition of bullying. Accepting someone's offer is NOT bullying. Moreover, I've already stayed several times I'm NOT going to have her pay for it. I don't think it really matters honestly, I think most of you are using it as an excuse to support the nanny, but she DOES know we are letting her go. She knows this isn't working out for her any more than it is for us but she has agreed to stay until we can find a replacement.

At some point people need to take responsibility for their carelessness.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny and I don't think OP is a bully. If I lost something so expensive and I was doing a poor job I wouldn't be surprised at all to pay for what I lost as well as lose my job. These other posters are trolls. Sorry for your misfortune OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
As someone else pointed out, you are not bullying the nanny. Some of these kids are coming from a generation that believes if you even look at someone funny or not telling them that their hair looks nice is bullying them.
Honestly, I would make her pay for at least part of the stroller. She sounds like someone who needs to learn responsibility.


THEY ARE IN THE PROCESS OF FIRING THE NANNY. Doesn't that trump teaching her a lesson on responsibility?! She is going to lose her job in a few weeks and doesn't yet know it (but we all know it) and you want her to pay for a 300 dollar stroller?! Come on, Lady - that is not looking at someone funny! That is truly kicking someone when they are down - and yes, that is bullying behavior.

If the MB was not planning to fire her as soon as the MB found a replacement for her, you might have a point about the nanny paying for part of the stroller but certainly not when she is being fired (and does not yet know it!).

Um, no. It isn't kicking someone when she is down and it is definitely not bullying. It is firing her for cause. She has done several things worthy of being dismissed for cause. Her latest idiocy is in losing or stealing a $300 stroller.

She has earned her firing. She also owes her employers for the the stroller she lost or stole. Full stop.

Also, she knows it. She knows what she's done and her hope is that her MB doesn't.

[Anonymous]

OP said in another post that she is have a "very, very hard time being nice," to her nanny. She is trying to stick it to the nanny out of anger. Jerk move.

[Anonymous]

So pretty much unrelated to this post, but why the hell are you still employing someone so unreliable. From your other post, nanny is chronically late and makes you late even though this has been discussed many times. And now she manages to lose the stroller (which is kind of difficult to do) and not notice it and/or not tell you for a couple of days.

WHY would you trust someone so unreliable to continue watching your kids?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'd have our manny go halfsies on it. But we have a really great relationship with him and would assume he was trying his hardest and it was an innocent accident that he'd never let happen again.

If the relationship was crumbling and the trust had been eroded I'd pay for it.

Ugh. You again. Every time you post I feel sick for your poor "manny". You really are terrible, and the fact that you recommend ANYTHING should be a caution to everyone else that its probably a shitty thing to do.

+1 I WISH we could vote her off this forum. She's so annoying.

You and the previous pps are the bullies here.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she is mad you are firing her and so she sold the stroller on Craigslist?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
As someone else pointed out, you are not bullying the nanny. Some of these kids are coming from a generation that believes if you even look at someone funny or not telling them that their hair looks nice is bullying them.
Honestly, I would make her pay for at least part of the stroller. She sounds like someone who needs to learn responsibility.


THEY ARE IN THE PROCESS OF FIRING THE NANNY. Doesn't that trump teaching her a lesson on responsibility?! She is going to lose her job in a few weeks and doesn't yet know it (but we all know it) and you want her to pay for a 300 dollar stroller?! Come on, Lady - that is not looking at someone funny! That is truly kicking someone when they are down - and yes, that is bullying behavior.

If the MB was not planning to fire her as soon as the MB found a replacement for her, you might have a point about the nanny paying for part of the stroller but certainly not when she is being fired (and does not yet know it!).

Um, no. It isn't kicking someone when she is down and it is definitely not bullying. It is firing her for cause. She has done several things worthy of being dismissed for cause. Her latest idiocy is in losing or stealing a $300 stroller.

I completely agree that this nanny deserves to be fired - and posted the same - over her constant lateness. But to make her pay for a 300 dollar stroller when she is about to be out of a job is most definitely kicking her when she is down. What percentage of her weekly take-home pay would $300 be? Some of you MB's are simply cruel. OP hired a bad nanny and should take responsibility for her mistake as well. Chronic lateness does not develop overnight - did the OP check all the nannies references? - college records? Probably not.

She has earned her firing. She also owes her employers for the the stroller she lost or stole. Full stop.

Also, she knows it. She knows what she's done and her hope is that her MB doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
As someone else pointed out, you are not bullying the nanny. Some of these kids are coming from a generation that believes if you even look at someone funny or not telling them that their hair looks nice is bullying them.
Honestly, I would make her pay for at least part of the stroller. She sounds like someone who needs to learn responsibility.


THEY ARE IN THE PROCESS OF FIRING THE NANNY. Doesn't that trump teaching her a lesson on responsibility?! She is going to lose her job in a few weeks and doesn't yet know it (but we all know it) and you want her to pay for a 300 dollar stroller?! Come on, Lady - that is not looking at someone funny! That is truly kicking someone when they are down - and yes, that is bullying behavior.

If the MB was not planning to fire her as soon as the MB found a replacement for her, you might have a point about the nanny paying for part of the stroller but certainly not when she is being fired (and does not yet know it!).

Um, no. It isn't kicking someone when she is down and it is definitely not bullying. It is firing her for cause. She has done several things worthy of being dismissed for cause. Her latest idiocy is in losing or stealing a $300 stroller.

I completely agree that this nanny deserves to be fired - and posted the same - over her constant lateness. But to make her pay for a 300 dollar stroller when she is about to be out of a job is most definitely kicking her when she is down. What percentage of her weekly take-home pay would $300 be? Some of you MB's are simply cruel. OP hired a bad nanny and should take responsibility for her mistake as well. Chronic lateness does not develop overnight - did the OP check all the nannies references? - college records? Probably not.

She has earned her firing. She also owes her employers for the the stroller she lost or stole. Full stop.

Also, she knows it. She knows what she's done and her hope is that her MB doesn't.

I disagree completely, PP. Full stop. You are wrong. Full stop. You and OP are petty and mean. Full stop.

Next time do a better job of screening applicants to take care of your children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
As someone else pointed out, you are not bullying the nanny. Some of these kids are coming from a generation that believes if you even look at someone funny or not telling them that their hair looks nice is bullying them.
Honestly, I would make her pay for at least part of the stroller. She sounds like someone who needs to learn responsibility.


THEY ARE IN THE PROCESS OF FIRING THE NANNY. Doesn't that trump teaching her a lesson on responsibility?! She is going to lose her job in a few weeks and doesn't yet know it (but we all know it) and you want her to pay for a 300 dollar stroller?! Come on, Lady - that is not looking at someone funny! That is truly kicking someone when they are down - and yes, that is bullying behavior.

If the MB was not planning to fire her as soon as the MB found a replacement for her, you might have a point about the nanny paying for part of the stroller but certainly not when she is being fired (and does not yet know it!).

Um, no. It isn't kicking someone when she is down and it is definitely not bullying. It is firing her for cause. She has done several things worthy of being dismissed for cause. Her latest idiocy is in losing or stealing a $300 stroller.

She has earned her firing. She also owes her employers for the the stroller she lost or stole. Full stop.

Also, she knows it. She knows what she's done and her hope is that her MB doesn't.

LOL You do understand that writing "full stop" after your statement doesn't stop the discussion because you want it to stop, don't you, Bossy Boots?!

[Anonymous]

I love that you assume op didn't check college records as if that would have revealed the nanny's chronic late habit. Guess what? I graduated from Yale , skipped classes on the regular, still managed to graduate with honors, and was late meeting a friend for brunch yesterday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
As someone else pointed out, you are not bullying the nanny. Some of these kids are coming from a generation that believes if you even look at someone funny or not telling them that their hair looks nice is bullying them.
Honestly, I would make her pay for at least part of the stroller. She sounds like someone who needs to learn responsibility.


THEY ARE IN THE PROCESS OF FIRING THE NANNY. Doesn't that trump teaching her a lesson on responsibility?! She is going to lose her job in a few weeks and doesn't yet know it (but we all know it) and you want her to pay for a 300 dollar stroller?! Come on, Lady - that is not looking at someone funny! That is truly kicking someone when they are down - and yes, that is bullying behavior.

If the MB was not planning to fire her as soon as the MB found a replacement for her, you might have a point about the nanny paying for part of the stroller but certainly not when she is being fired (and does not yet know it!).

Um, no. It isn't kicking someone when she is down and it is definitely not bullying. It is firing her for cause. She has done several things worthy of being dismissed for cause. Her latest idiocy is in losing or stealing a $300 stroller.

I completely agree that this nanny deserves to be fired - and posted the same - over her constant lateness. But to make her pay for a 300 dollar stroller when she is about to be out of a job is most definitely kicking her when she is down. What percentage of her weekly take-home pay would $300 be? Some of you MB's are simply cruel. OP hired a bad nanny and should take responsibility for her mistake as well. Chronic lateness does not develop overnight - did the OP check all the nannies references? - college records? Probably not.

She has earned her firing. She also owes her employers for the the stroller she lost or stole. Full stop.

Also, she knows it. She knows what she's done and her hope is that her MB doesn't.

I disagree completely, PP. Full stop. You are wrong. Full stop. You and OP are petty and mean. Full stop.

Next time do a better job of screening applicants to take care of your children.

Wow. You must be a habitually late, crappy nanny with no job prospects. I'm flabbergasted at these responses. The nanny sounds like an idiot employee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
As someone else pointed out, you are not bullying the nanny. Some of these kids are coming from a generation that believes if you even look at someone funny or not telling them that their hair looks nice is bullying them.
Honestly, I would make her pay for at least part of the stroller. She sounds like someone who needs to learn responsibility.


THEY ARE IN THE PROCESS OF FIRING THE NANNY. Doesn't that trump teaching her a lesson on responsibility?! She is going to lose her job in a few weeks and doesn't yet know it (but we all know it) and you want her to pay for a 300 dollar stroller?! Come on, Lady - that is not looking at someone funny! That is truly kicking someone when they are down - and yes, that is bullying behavior.

If the MB was not planning to fire her as soon as the MB found a replacement for her, you might have a point about the nanny paying for part of the stroller but certainly not when she is being fired (and does not yet know it!).

Um, no. It isn't kicking someone when she is down and it is definitely not bullying. It is firing her for cause. She has done several things worthy of being dismissed for cause. Her latest idiocy is in losing or stealing a $300 stroller.

I completely agree that this nanny deserves to be fired - and posted the same - over her constant lateness. But to make her pay for a 300 dollar stroller when she is about to be out of a job is most definitely kicking her when she is down. What percentage of her weekly take-home pay would $300 be? Some of you MB's are simply cruel. OP hired a bad nanny and should take responsibility for her mistake as well. Chronic lateness does not develop overnight - did the OP check all the nannies references? - college records? Probably not.

She has earned her firing. She also owes her employers for the the stroller she lost or stole. Full stop.

Also, she knows it. She knows what she's done and her hope is that her MB doesn't.

I disagree completely, PP. Full stop. You are wrong. Full stop. You and OP are petty and mean. Full stop.

Next time do a better job of screening applicants to take care of your children.

Wow. You must be a habitually late, crappy nanny with no job prospects. I'm flabbergasted at these responses. The nanny sounds like an idiot employee.

You are tiresome, Mommy. Since I don't agree with you, you assume I am late and crappy?! LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love that you assume op didn't check college records as if that would have revealed the nanny's chronic late habit. Guess what? I graduated from Yale , skipped classes on the regular, still managed to graduate with honors, and was late meeting a friend for brunch yesterday.

First, do you seriously think that all people are as smart as you are? What is it - 1% of 1% who are accepted to Yale? College, for the average or even above average person takes commitment - I would be willing to bet that this nanny never graduated from college (which is what I meant by checking her college record since lateness is not recorded on transcripts). When you think about hiring a young nanny with limited references, checking to see they graduated from any college tells you they are at least somewhat committed and responsible.

Second, why in the world would you attend and pay for a college as expensive as Yale and not attend classes? Yale has some of the best professors in the world and you found something more important to do than listen to those professors?

Third, lateness is nothing to be proud of. I'm sure your friend loved that you thought so little of her/him not to show up for brunch on time. But I'm sure your time is more valuable than his/hers, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love that you assume op didn't check college records as if that would have revealed the nanny's chronic late habit. Guess what? I graduated from Yale , skipped classes on the regular, still managed to graduate with honors, and was late meeting a friend for brunch yesterday.

First, do you seriously think that all people are as smart as you are? What is it - 1% of 1% who are accepted to Yale? College, for the average or even above average person takes commitment - I would be willing to bet that this nanny never graduated from college (which is what I meant by checking her college record since lateness is not recorded on transcripts). When you think about hiring a young nanny with limited references, checking to see they graduated from any college tells you they are at least somewhat committed and responsible.

Second, why in the world would you attend and pay for a college as expensive as Yale and not attend classes? Yale has some of the best professors in the world and you found something more important to do than listen to those professors?

Third, lateness is nothing to be proud of. I'm sure your friend loved that you thought so little of her/him not to show up for brunch on time. But I'm sure your time is more valuable than his/hers, right?

I'm not the PP but I think her point proves your point wrong. The fact that someone graduated college tells you nothing about how committed or responsible they are. You can be as careful checking background and references as you want but in the end you can only know 100% for sure how good the nanny will be when you hire them and take a chance. Sometimes it doesn't work out and you can't always blame the parents for not being thorough when the nanny turns out to be less than stellar.