Should we let nanny pay?
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Anonymous
| We've had a lot of issues recently with the nanny and we are in the process of looking for another one. Today I noticed that our $300 stroller was missing from the trunk of the car and couldn't find it anywhere. It's a brand new stroller that only the nanny has used. She used it this week but doesn't know what happened to it. Neither DH or I have even used that car this week and haven't touched the stroller. She must have left it next to the car somewhere when she used it this week. She offered to pay for it and I feel that she should but DH thinks we should just pay it since we are letting her go when we find someone new anyway. |
Anonymous
| She doesn't need a stroller, you do, so you pay for it. |
Anonymous
| I think you should let her pay for it. I've never heard of a nanny losing a stroller. She was definitely negligent. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like bullying to me. You are letting her go (which she doesn't know yet) and accepting her offer to pay for a stroller that she may or may not have lost?1 Come on! You sound horrid!!! (not that you are horrid just that even considering this sounds horrid and cruel!) |
Anonymous
| OP here. We decided not to make her pay for the stroller because I know she needs to money. But I want to be clear about a couple of things, for starters, there is no "maybe" she lost it. She is the only person who has ever used that stroller and the only one who used the car it was in this week. It didn't walk out of the trunk by itself. Secondly, it is most definitely NOT bullying. We are letting her go because she clearly has no regard for us or this position. You don't know me at all so, sure, I could be a horrible person but we've been extremely fair to her. I've paid her for days she took off even after she used all her PTO. She's literally NEVER on time even when I ask her to come earlier than I need and shes made me late for work more than once. The list goes on but it doesn't really matter. She not a bad person and she's really good with my children but she is not a good employee and it doesn't make me a horrid person that we are letting her go. |
Anonymous
| Making her pay for your stroller, when you know you are also planning to let her go when convenient for you, likely with no notice, IS bullying. You just don't like her, but you know this is your responsibility. Yes it sucks that she lost it. But guess what? Employees lose and break things. That's the cost of employing human beings. |
Anonymous
OP here and while I agree that, yes, accidents happen and people lose things, if you worked in an office and say you lost your company laptop you would be forced to replace it. You can't have a disregard for your employers possessions and expect that there aren't consequences for that. The fact that we are letting her go should have nothing to do with it. It is also most definitely NOT bullying and I think that's offensive for those who actually have been bullied. She offered to pay for it, I'm going to say no but accepting her offer isn't bullying in ANY way. I was also extremely polite when discussing this with her even though I was extremely pissed. She also didn't bother to mention to me that she noticed the stroller was missing for 2 days when she'd been the only one driving the car and DH and I have been working all week. I can't magically make a new one appear by Monday either so now I have to order it and pay extra to expedite the shipping so SHE can have one to use this week. |
Anonymous
| OP it sounds like you don't really need an advice. Go away. |
Anonymous
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The trolls are out I see.
OP, obviously you aren't a bully - rolled my eyes reading that silliness. She sounds irresponsible to lose a damn stroller. Probably the right choice to not have her pay. Good luck with your new nanny. |
Anonymous
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You're the MB who posted about the nanny being late, right?
The last line of your previous post is "I'm finding it harder and harder to be nice." Seems like you're trying to stick Otto her any way you can. She shouldn't be late. I agree. She also shouldn't lose your stroller. I agree with that too. You decided to continue employing her even after you were aware of how irresponsible she is. The $300 is on you. It would be really crappy of you to make her pay for it and then let her go. Let it go. |
Anonymous
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I'd have our manny go halfsies on it. But we have a really great relationship with him and would assume he was trying his hardest and it was an innocent accident that he'd never let happen again.
If the relationship was crumbling and the trust had been eroded I'd pay for it. |
Anonymous
Ugh. You again. Every time you post I feel sick for your poor "manny". You really are terrible, and the fact that you recommend ANYTHING should be a caution to everyone else that its probably a shitty thing to do. |
Anonymous
+1 I WISH we could vote her off this forum. She's so annoying. |
Anonymous
OP here, Yes, that's me. I agree that I should just pay the $300. If I wasn't having problems with the nanny otherwise I wouldn't think twice about paying so I'm just going to do it. I understand to some extent that I had a "choice" to continue employing her but I don't have that many options otherwise. She's not irresponsible with the children, in fact, she's very good with them and they are happy and safe with her. I can't find a new nanny overnight. We are looking but it takes time. Yes, I could use an agency to get temporary help but my oldest is not good with change and new people and he's going through a hard time with a new baby in the house so I'm trying to make it easier for him and just find one good, reliable nanny instead of a parade of temporary people. So yes, I'm "choosing" to continue to employ her for now even though it is more stressful for me because at this time, that's what is better for my children. |
Anonymous
| I would replace it with a cheaper umbrella. |