Should we let nanny pay?

[Anonymous]

I think you have to be pretty distracted or checked out to lose a STROLLER. I think I'd go half with her. It's her fault but $300 is still steep.

[Anonymous]

Who needs a $300 stroller? For your next nanny buy a less expensive stroller that way she won't break or lose something that's probably costs more than you pay her.

You sound like a real gem op. I really wish I needed a job I would love to work for your husband and your cheery self

[Anonymous]

What kind of stroller was it?

[Anonymous]

OP - please ignore the rude posters telling you this is on you. It is ridiculous that your nanny lost a stroller and even more ridiculous that she didn't even notice! You would be absolutely within your rights to ask her to pay or to split it with you. However, I think the right answer usually is that either the nanny is otherwise terrific and you replace it yourself and write it off as an it-could-have-happened-to-anyone accident or it's part of a pattern of bad behavior and you replace both the nanny and the stroller. Since you're already planning to replace the nanny, I think in your shoes I'd just speed up the timeframe of finding a replacement and eat the cost of the stroller. You are not wrong though. It's crazy to just lose a stroller and not notice!

[Anonymous]

Poor nanny,don't crucify her,I think somebody took the stroller.

[Anonymous]

You are firing her! Please replace the $300 stroller yourself and do not accept the nanny's offer to pay. Have some compassion, MB - to take her money when you are taking her job IS bullying and mean. As a previous poster noted, the stroller could have been stolen.

Seriously, what is wrong with some of the MB's on this board?! You hired a bad nanny - learn from your hiring mistakes and move on without kicking her while she is down!

[Anonymous]

Nanny here.

I don't think some of you understand the word "bullying". It is morally "tacky" to make her pay. If she knew that she is losing her job, she wouldn't offer to pay. You are privy to the info that her job is ending. $300 for a stroller, for a nanny with no income, is pretty steep.

[Anonymous]

She either lost it or stole it. If I lost or stole a piece of equipment from my work, I would absolutely be responsible for paying for it. I could also be fired for losing it, or lying about losing it. Seriously. How believable is it that she can't remember losing it? Not believable at all.

You are firing her for cause, and this example falls under good cause for firing her. I think you should dock her last check for the cost of the stroller. She may not be a bad person, but she certainly sounds like a terrible nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She either lost it or stole it. If I lost or stole a piece of equipment from my work, I would absolutely be responsible for paying for it. I could also be fired for losing it, or lying about losing it. Seriously. How believable is it that she can't remember losing it? Not believable at all.

You are firing her for cause, and this example falls under good cause for firing her. I think you should dock her last check for the cost of the stroller. She may not be a bad person, but she certainly sounds like a terrible nanny.

She sounds like a terrible nanny because she made a mistake (and this is the only context we have for her job performance)??? The self-righteousness on this board is disgusting. It's a good thing you nannies don't have real bosses or coworkers, I doubt you could last very long having to interact with actual adults based on the attitudes expressed here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She either lost it or stole it. If I lost or stole a piece of equipment from my work, I would absolutely be responsible for paying for it. I could also be fired for losing it, or lying about losing it. Seriously. How believable is it that she can't remember losing it? Not believable at all.

You are firing her for cause, and this example falls under good cause for firing her. I think you should dock her last check for the cost of the stroller. She may not be a bad person, but she certainly sounds like a terrible nanny.

She sounds like a terrible nanny because she made a mistake (and this is the only context we have for her job performance)??? The self-righteousness on this board is disgusting. It's a good thing you nannies don't have real bosses or coworkers, I doubt you could last very long having to interact with actual adults based on the attitudes expressed here.

Strange you don't consider MB/DBs "real bosses"... Don't you employ your nanny? Doesn't that make you a "real boss"?

[Anonymous]

She either lost it or stole it. If I lost or stole a piece of equipment from my work, I would absolutely be responsible for paying for it. I could also be fired for losing it, or lying about losing it. Seriously. How believable is it that she can't remember losing it? Not believable at all.

You are firing her for cause, and this example falls under good cause for firing her. I think you should dock her last check for the cost of the stroller. She may not be a bad person, but she certainly sounds like a terrible nanny.


She sounds like a terrible nanny because she made a mistake (and this is the only context we have for her job performance)??? The self-righteousness on this board is disgusting. It's a good thing you nannies don't have real bosses or coworkers, I doubt you could last very long having to interact with actual adults based on the attitudes expressed here.

Try reading the whole thread before posting next time. It can save you from looking foolish. The OP posted that there were several reasons she was firing her nanny, including exceeding her PTO and frequent lateness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

She either lost it or stole it. If I lost or stole a piece of equipment from my work, I would absolutely be responsible for paying for it. I could also be fired for losing it, or lying about losing it. Seriously. How believable is it that she can't remember losing it? Not believable at all.

You are firing her for cause, and this example falls under good cause for firing her. I think you should dock her last check for the cost of the stroller. She may not be a bad person, but she certainly sounds like a terrible nanny.


She sounds like a terrible nanny because she made a mistake (and this is the only context we have for her job performance)??? The self-righteousness on this board is disgusting. It's a good thing you nannies don't have real bosses or coworkers, I doubt you could last very long having to interact with actual adults based on the attitudes expressed here.

Try reading the whole thread before posting next time. It can save you from looking foolish. The OP posted that there were several reasons she was firing her nanny, including exceeding her PTO and frequent lateness.

+1

The posts on here bashing OP tell me there are some cray cray ppl on here who defend a nanny for anything. I can't imagine ever losing my charge's stroller and on top of always being late, I get why OP is upset.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny. I have been for 20 years. I have never lost a stroller and seriously having a hard time grasping the fact she lost it. Having said that, OP since you're letting her go I'd just pay for it.

[Anonymous]

As someone else pointed out, you are not bullying the nanny. Some of these kids are coming from a generation that believes if you even look at someone funny or not telling them that their hair looks nice is bullying them.
Honestly, I would make her pay for at least part of the stroller. She sounds like someone who needs to learn responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone else pointed out, you are not bullying the nanny. Some of these kids are coming from a generation that believes if you even look at someone funny or not telling them that their hair looks nice is bullying them.
Honestly, I would make her pay for at least part of the stroller. She sounds like someone who needs to learn responsibility.

THEY ARE IN THE PROCESS OF FIRING THE NANNY. Doesn't that trump teaching her a lesson on responsibility?! She is going to lose her job in a few weeks and doesn't yet know it (but we all know it) and you want her to pay for a 300 dollar stroller?! Come on, Lady - that is not looking at someone funny! That is truly kicking someone when they are down - and yes, that is bullying behavior.

If the MB was not planning to fire her as soon as the MB found a replacement for her, you might have a point about the nanny paying for part of the stroller but certainly not when she is being fired (and does not yet know it!).